Do you share a seat or table w/ someone you do not know in coffee shops? Why?

@sublime03 (1811)
Philippines
February 25, 2010 8:42pm CST
I have been spending my mornings waiting for my son in a coffee shop. Most of the time I get to sit on one of the sides that have an extra couch chair and most of the time people ask to share the table with me. I really do not have any problems doing so. But I wonder how many of us have guts to share tables with someone you do not know. How about you, are you the one who asks to share seats/table with someone out of nowhere or are you the one who is being asked if they can share it with you. Oh and does the person who has asked you talk to you or chit chat with you after? Do you like it? I am okay with it for as long as I am not busy but if I am I get annoyed a bit.
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19 responses
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
When there are limited tables or when the other tables are occupied by families or couples and you're the only one at your table, surely, you will most likely be asked by strangers if you mind to share a seat with him or her. Actually, we have no right to say no when we are in a public eating place, so we have to be ready to share seats with strangers. I don't mind really so long as he or she is normal and will not bother me.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
I like your comment when you said 'as long as he or she is normal'. Funny comment you got there. But of course I would also say the same thing if I we're to choose on who I am sharing the table with.
@junrapmian (2170)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
No problem with me especially when there's really no seat available for newcomers. You can always find this saying posted on the walls of some establishments here in our country..."Share a seat, win a friend". As long as he does not annoy me, it's okay with me.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
Wow, I have not seen any of our coffee shops here having that sign posted on their walls. Thanks for sharing that junrapmian!
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
26 Feb 10
I do not see anything wrong in sharing because sometimes the coffee shop or stall is almost full. Sometimes I was the person who asked, and sometimes the other way round. The local coffee shops or stalls are good places to listen to all sort of things, especially those located in anti-government areas. They are also good to widen our circle of friends. In fact I have had total strangers who paid for my breakfast.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
I have to agree that a coffee shop is one of those places where you could meet someone new and maybe become good friends in the end. I have encountered also somebody paying for a drink for me.
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
26 Feb 10
I don't have a problem with sharing a table at all, although I get really shy and all, but I don't personally walk up to someone and ask if I can sit down with them, I don't have the guts!! lol
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
Yeah, most of the time I do not. My shy bone comes out thus stopping me from even trying.
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
hi sublime03, I don't mind sharing my table with someone else most of the time but there re times that I really do mind especially when I wake up at the wrong side of the bed and I just want to be alone and drink my coffee in peace. It also depends who wants to share my table if its the annoying type I tell them right on.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
I have to agree with you candyfairy21 that there are times you just really want to be by yourself on that spot you chose in the coffee shop.
@rosegardens (3043)
• United States
27 Feb 10
I have been the one to ask people if they would like a seat. There is a coney island I used to go to on Sundays after church and they would be packed. If there was room yet at the table, I would ask people waiting if they wanted to sit with us. We had many an enjoyable conversation.
• Estonia
26 Feb 10
I usually occupy the free tables, if possible. If not, I look around in order to find some suitable person to share a table with. It would be nice to share a table with some pretty girl, perhaps even make friends with her. Anyway, I encounter such situations very rarely. And people are usually quite shy so they don't come asking for a seat.
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Hi sublime, Yes, this happens when there are very limited seats available and almost every seat is already occupied. When there is still space where I sit I do share it with someone, or when I'm the one who needs to sit, I don't hesitate to approach to share with me their seat. Yes I sometimes respond to small talks, but most of the time I prefer to keep to myself.
@hofferp (4739)
• United States
26 Feb 10
I've done both, ask if I may share a table or let someone share a table who asks. I've also volunteered my table, when I see someone standing and looking for a table. I don't mind the chit chat because I'm usually not doing anything except drinking my coffee. (Truth is, I don't spend a lot of time in a coffee shop.)
• India
26 Feb 10
i think i will not have any problem in sharing a table if their is more crowd and there is no free table or seats in the shop . in that situations we cant do anything but to share the table . in other situations i wont be comfortable if their is free table and then also some one comes and sits in our table . in those situations i may move to the other table ,
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
its a public place so all seat and tables are for everybody since we dont own it so its alright with me whoever seat with me as long as their not doing anything bad about me. and as long as theres no more available seat. if theres still more then i guess i have the right to know why with me if theres a lot of chair and table available.
• India
26 Feb 10
I actually don't like to share but no other way then i may but will not get into chat..with them...feel hesitated to share with unknown people..will just have what ever i want and leave..
@mandybeau (279)
• New Zealand
26 Feb 10
Hmmm Sublime I have mixed feelings like u on this one, I have had people ask can they share a table, when the Restaurant, Cafe` is full and they have nowhere to sit. I can't remember ever asking anyone could I share their table. But I remember making one good friend that used to come and chat regularly we had the same Lunch Break. On the other hand I had a lady that talked and coughed all over the Table that she had asked to share with me. She just kept raving on, I couldn't tell you now what she talked about, it was just too much. On a Bus one day I was trying to read my Book and another lady sat in the chair next to me after asking was it O.K. and she taklked to me the whole way for 2 hours. I just wanted to read my Book. So yeah it can be either O.K. or totally irritating.
@mymelodake (1339)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
No, I don't. I'm not very friendly to be honest. I think I'm way friendlier online than in real life. Before, in college, our food court was really crowded and during lunch hour the place is superpacked that it's so hard to find a seat. In this case I don't mind sharing. Everybody is in a hurry anyway. But at a cafe or restaurant, I don't think I would want that and I wouldn't ask a stranger to share either. I don't want to sit around at leisure with somebody I don't know. That would be really awkward. Even more so if the person tries to make small talk.
• China
26 Feb 10
Hehe...sublime, it seldom happens in cafe here. But in small restaurants or fast food shops, I'm okay. You know it's always difficult to find a seat or table in rush hours. And sometimes I'm the person who search for a seat. But I'd like others ask my permission before s/he takes the seat. Unfortunately, some people here are not so polite. Even if they sit down directly, taking seats for their friends. That makes me embarrased and uncomfortable, frankly speaking. But I seldom talk with them. I just concentrate on my food.
• Malaysia
26 Feb 10
in coffee shops, more often than not, i have to share the table with someone or with a nomber of people at busy, breakfast, tea, lunch or dinner time. these times there are hardly any availabe chairs. at other time, i come in first and sit at an availabe table and others ask whether they can sit at my table. its always okay. usually, we hardly talk or none at all, order our drink and food to eat, pay and leave the coffee shop and head to do whatever there is to be done. at times we get some nice people sitting with us and they say an occasional hello and smile and do small talks.
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Feb 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I have the experience to share a seat or a table with the person who I do not know before. I think the time will just happened when there are so many people in the coffee shop or there are no other seat that can others sit,then I need to share my table with the person who has not got a table to sit by.Have a nice time.
@alilin28 (1530)
• Uruguay
26 Feb 10
well, here, we dont usually ask to share a table, perhaps we ask to lend a chair when we need more than we have in the table, but not share the same table or the same seat with somebody else.. have a nice day, ali
@cloud31 (5811)
26 Feb 10
I don't mind to share a table with someone, its normal if no place for them, as long as they asked me politely if the seat is available,apart from sharing table and seats, i am not fond talking with somebody i don't really know.. Happy Lotting!