What Consititues as Cheating?
By neededhope
@neededhope (1085)
United States
February 25, 2010 8:49pm CST
what Consititues as cheating? We all have different view points of what cheating is. And if you are in a relationship do they know your view points as well. Of What you believe is cheating.
For instance when my husband and I were dating. I had a passionate kiss with someone else. Instead of hiding it I told my than boyfriend about it. He was like ok. Like it was casual. I asked him why aren't you mad? Aren't you upset that I cheated on you? he was like it was only a kiss that's not cheating.
To me cheating can be physical and it can be mental. Physical I feel even the simplest kiss is cheating. Some individuals I know if you have a closed hug with both arms that that is cheating too. For me I don't believe that one. But I do believe a kiss a sign of intimancy is considered cheating.
For the mental part is says in the bible that if you lusting after someone when your married is adultery. Or so how I took it. But if you feel that you lust towards someone is that really adultery? To me it's just Lust not love and only way it would be adultery is if you acted apon your Lust.
What would you consititue as cheating? And does your spouse feel the same way?
5 responses
@Lata_45 (217)
• India
26 Feb 10
according to me cheating is consider when a person cheats some one without the other person knowledge. Somewhere you have cheated as you have kissed a guy even when you have a loving husband. But other fact is you told this to him and even you are guilty about this and he too has accepted this with out making situation worse. So i think its not cheating. It would be cheating if you had continued your relationship with that guy.
Thus cheating is something that you continue to do secretly
@neededhope (1085)
• United States
27 Feb 10
Cheating equals something you keep to yourself and not share with your spouse.
Actually I think that is a perfect way to sum it up. If you can't be honest to your spouse bout it than you are hiding it. I can see this considered cheating. wonder though if it would apply to all aspects of life. Such as spending money on a credit card, flirting with someone, basically a bit of everything. Could be considered a way of cheating.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Cheating as in relationships is doing something that you should only do with your bf/gf or husband/wife. It can be physical, or just flirty. To me even to say things about someone you are not with like "ya he's hot" is cheating. You are with someone thinking about someone else. That is like saying, ya I like you, but I would leave you for that dude in a second. Or guys checking out girls when they are with theirs.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
27 Feb 10
I said doing something you should only be doing with your other half. Intimate.
@kayebee (55)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
For me cheating is doing something malicious behind your partner's back. A casual kiss or hug to someone you have no romantic relation is okay but hugging or kissing someone you are romantically attached to is cheating. And you are right, you cheat too when you fantasize on some person not your partner.
@Katie2009 (144)
• China
26 Feb 10
I am that easy-jealous type of person but I don't take a mere kiss as cheating given that it was not done for love,or it would be.To me cheating is more mental than physical for its seriousness.If my boyfriend kissed someone for pokiteness I would not be mad,but if he kissed someone that was really hot and charming,I doubt about its intention. Also,if my boyfriend loved someone else,even if it was unrequited love,I would label it as cheating because his heart started betraying already and he would practice it physically sooner or later.Potential danger is more dreadful for its sudden breakout.
As to adultery in Bible,my interpretation is that the practice of it is the real sin.As long as you have the strength to curb that impulse,you are not sinful,but learning.I do not think my boyfriend always sees eye to eye on this issue,but he will get upset sometimes because I spend too much time with my frineds instead of him.You know,I guess he needs more than a girlfriend but a babysitter.Wish you all well with your beloved one!
@neededhope (1085)
• United States
27 Feb 10
I quess I get what your saying. Bout how a Kiss isn't cheating unless there is some motive within ones self that could be called as cheating.
And you say the Practice is the real sin of adultery. Meaning going with your lust and sleeping with someone or is that ok as long as your not mentally involved with that person?
@universe2o6 (356)
• Brazil
26 Feb 10
Cheating I think is doing something that is not permited to get a result. using codes would be cheating. But think about it. If the person put the codes in the game, then why is it cheating? If they are there and they can be used, then why should it be cheating? It should be just another way to play a game.
The same goes for relationships. If people are not allowed to date other people, then why does life allow it? Why is there the urge to cheat if people say we are not supposed to? If we weren't supposed to cheat, then God would make it so there wasn't a way to do so.
@neededhope (1085)
• United States
27 Feb 10
Maybe God does allow us to have those feelings to cheat because that's a way to test us. To give us our own free will. Without our free will we have nothing and we do nothing unless we were told too.
