falling in love with a good friend,what can i do?

China
February 26, 2010 6:19am CST
i have a very good friend.we have been friends for six years.he was always by my side in those years.we talked about whatever we want to talk.lately i find that he is so different for me. i think of him every night ,all the time. i realize that i must be into him. in fact,he once said he liked me,however it was three years ago and i refused him at that time.we both promised to be good friends only since then.but now... i don't think we can get a relationship,but i really can't forget it.so i decided not be in touch with him any more.can you tell me am i right? or can you tell me what to do else?
7 responses
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
That is sad girl but if I am in your situation, even though it is difficult to do, I will confess my true feelings for him. If doing that will break everything you had before, maybe its better that way because maybe, he still loves you and maybe he could be the one person reserved for you by our God.
• China
27 Feb 10
in fact i hope he is.however,i have told him,he just couldn't say anything.thank you anyway
@evanya (72)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Ohhhh.....it's fairly hard to respond your puzzle directly.....but I hold the view,however,maybe....you should look for a better method to solve such a problem for youself,alternatively,since you can't forget him,you maybe feel unhappy if you force your own to forget him,that's a terrible decision as for you.in fact,you not have to end up friendship for each other,I don't know whether you two together now?in my opinion,cut down the appointment or meet perhaps be a superior method to relief the missing each other,the most key point is that you want how to make yourself accept the result......that's my idea,good luck to you!
• China
27 Feb 10
thank you so much.i will try my best to focus on other things.there are many other things important to me besides him.fortunately,we are in different places.
• India
26 Feb 10
Falling in love with good friends is not so bad but is sounds different you think him as a friends but suddenly you you will give him a name thats sounds different. But please don't avoid him tell him that we just can be friends not more that that ok
• China
27 Feb 10
thank you,you are so right. I don't want to loss him at all.
@binagupta (628)
• India
26 Feb 10
very bad, now you will never find a good friend in him/her
• China
27 Feb 10
Maybe it is totally TRUE,so i am very upset now.
@shhheila (1847)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
i have that experience to for 6 years we;ve been friends, i secretly liked him but didnt tell him... till now we're just good friends but still sometimes i feel this things for him. i guess we'll just be friends...
• Jordan
7 Mar 10
i think it's not good for your relation...a good friend can be good enemy!so,try your best not to crush with your friend...:)
• China
28 Feb 10
I think it is not such a good way.you should tell him you love him.have a good friend is a special thing in your life.you should not let him stay away from you life.there is no way that best friend should not become a loves.take control.maybe he is a gift for you in your life.read your description let me think about myself.I have a best friend almost know each other about 6 years.I know he loved me when we know about 2 years.I have a boyfriend at that time,so we just keep feiend relationships.now he is in Italy and I am in china,but I always think of him and we still keep in touch.I don't know wheather it is love.but I hope you have a good ending with him.best wishes.