Does ur boyfriend always forget what u say?

China
February 27, 2010 9:53am CST
Hi,my dear friends.Does ur boyfriend always forget what u say?My boy friend does and this makes me really angry.I can't stand it any more.BCZ I don't like to repeat my words again and again.What r about u?Do u have any idea to solve this problem?THX 4 ur reponse.
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10 responses
@qamarep (4448)
• Pakistan
28 Feb 10
how do i answer this because i am a man here. haha
@xiehong (19)
28 Feb 10
i agree with you.
@brymel25 (286)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
Yeah, my boyfriend has this problem of forgetting some things that i say to him. I usually get mad about it because it's makes me think that he's not paying attention to me. I hate to repeat everything i said. I confronted him about this and he promised to be more attentive next time. Well, I don't know if he's sincere about that.lol
@sushie93 (1359)
• France
27 Feb 10
"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did but people will never forget how you make them feel."
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
It is very disgusting and painful if your loved one always forget what you say. It means he is not interested at all especially if he is able to remind other things than you. It will give you a feeling of anger and the thought he do not really care. We can accept others forgetting what we say but not when it was done by our loved one. The presence of confusion if he really love your or not. I have not experienced that yet because my loved one is very attentive to what I feel and say. He really listens to me all the time. He is aware of my feelings in a way he concerns more on what will I say or opinion in our conversation. He gives me always a reservation that is why our love grows stronger everyday. Well, my suggestion for you is to have a serious talk with him after you have figured out everything he had done. Take note of all his actions and his thoughts. Better asked him If he is disturbed or have any problems he do not want to tell you that is why whenever you talk he cannot remember what are you saying. Also, if he has any to say about what he have done for you and what it caused you. Ask him if he knows at all how you feel about his actions. What do he really wanted in a relationship so you must know and be aware of. Give him the chances again by talking to him all this. After such, you gonna have your questions answered and know what to do. I cannot directly tell you exact things to do but only general because you know your partner well. Tell him that, if he will not be aware of your thoughts and feelings then what are he going to expect in your relationship if simple things in life are easily forgotten. Or, if he has no intentions at all, then why things happen always. Let him honestly tell you the reasons for such behaviors. Sometimes, in a relationship there are major things have to do for the other person realize his mistakes. Because, when a relationship is over confident, it tends to forget the usual things to do about developing love more. Stagnancy in a relationship exists and will result to nothing but despair. However, there are cases that, in any unsettled things in a relationship, it can be settled by letting the person know more about himself and changes, sharing of views and all things that will contribute in the goodness of a relationship. On the other hand, if only one person like you are working hard or affected in the problem, the possibility to be hurt is highly possible. I hope he can clear things out with you. You love him but if his actions tend to make you feel not that important as you thought, Then, I guess things in life must be in a way where both are growing in a relationship that helps, understands and accepts. Things will be better longsdogin. AS long you did your best at all. You don't have to regret any at all.
@enyoboy (11)
• Nigeria
27 Feb 10
If he is your boyfriend, then you should love him. And a prize should pay is to bear with him, especially when you see that it has become part of him even as try to help him cope.
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
Hello there, my fiance's like that most of the time and yes I feel your frustration. He then tells me that if what I say is not important, then he won't remember it. It's really frustrating.
@chi2nasrin (1102)
• Malaysia
27 Feb 10
Not only that he always forget the things that I said but even the things that he said or promised. That is very frustating I admit. What makes it worse is when he keeps denying about it, that he said the things he forgot about, if you know what I mean? The last time we went on a holiday I bought a small notebook, and I jotted down some of the things that I said, or he. At the end of the day he admitted that he always forget things said. I am quite dissapointed about this actually because he can't seem to change this attitude.... what is it, amnesia??? maybe he should always bring a notebook....
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
hi there longsdogin, yes there are times that my boyfriend fails to remember what I say, but most of the time I failed. lol , But for important matters nope we manage to really remember things we remind each other, I take for example monthssary dates, my boyfriend really always remembered greeting me or making having something every monthsary and Im sorry sometimes I really failed to remember. Thank God my bofriend forgives me always. lol you remind each other it helps a lot..
27 Feb 10
If he even listens to what I say in the first place! So many times he doesn't do something important because he can't remember me telling him. I share your frustration!