It happened this morning
@Professor2010 (20162)
India
February 27, 2010 11:02am CST
This morning my neighbors son came and requested me to attend a party that he was giving in the evening, the occassion was 'socialising' his marriage. He told me he married a girl from my locality , some 6 months ago, in the court, it was a 'LOVE MARRIAGE' but the parents were against it.
But last evening parents of both sat and approved. Hence the grand celebration.
Normally the marriage here are 'arranged', by the parents, but now a days such marriages are becoming common amongst 'working' guys and girls.
What about your place. Mine, my kids marriage were all 'arranged' marriages. I was married in 1966.
Are you married? Was it love marriage or love marriage?
Bhuwan
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@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
There is no such thing as arranged marriage in our country, except the southern part where there are many muslims. We choose our husbands or wives on our own. The relationship starts as boyfriend and girlfriend before getting married. I prefer this for we can choose our partners in life. 
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
I personally don't like the idea of an arranged marriage. although my parents can suggest but I don't want them to make the decision for me. In the end it is I who will live with that person. I would want my parents to respect my decision as I am an adult who is capable of making my own decisions.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
Hi candy thanks for sharing your view, i appreciate your feelings, no parent will go against the decision of kids
bhuwan
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
27 Feb 10
Now-a-days many marriages are love marriages only. Inter-caste marriages are approved by the parents and they themselves celebrate them. One way it is better, no dowry and no problem creating at the time of marriage. Mine was arranged marriage only.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
hi Buchi dear i agree love marriages are common these days, no dowry, no demands, parents have to approve one day
bhuwan
@mdvarghese (1789)
• Bangalore, India
27 Feb 10
Hi...Professor
I am also from India and as you said most of the marriages here are arranged ones. Mine was an arranged marriage and it was in 1991. But nowadays the trend is changing, many marriages are love marriages. I am staying at Bangalore. Here we have seen inter caste, inter religion, inter state and inter national marriages . Again I have seen some people those are not married. They claim that they are "living together".
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
hi varghese, you are right my friend, my nephew is in your place, he married a brahmin girl, it was love marrige
thnxs for response
bhuwan
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
27 Feb 10
It makes me very happy that arranged marriages in your country are not as popular as before. In the West almost all marriages are for "love," and not for money, (as most arranged marriages are) This make it obvious that your country is moving ahead and will soon be modernized and free. In Canada men and women are equal, and have equal Rights under the Laws of Canada. Canadians are very proud to have all citizens Equal.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
hello friend, in iddia too all citizens are equal in the eyes of law, the differences are created by the nasty cheap politicians to earn vote and rule the country, thanks for the information
bhuwan
@Gunbazca (44)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
Arranged marriages only last if both parties are willing to really learn and put up to their partners. If that condition can be achieved, you can be sure that it will last, even thrive. Nowadays however, with teenagers getting increasingly more free-minded, that willingness to tolerate the 'stranger' spouse is also diminishing. Thriving arranged marriages nowadays are very rare in my country (despite the culture being conducive for such marriages), and usually only in villages.
Me, i'm not married yet.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Feb 10
Im in the united states and you don't hear many marriages being arranged here. I married twice. The marriages didn't work but its ok. Both were out of love and commitment. People change and even tho the marriages didn't work it doesn't mean that the love wasn't real while it lasted.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
hi sid, i know many such cases, people change, but they should not, too bad, thanks for response
bhuwan
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
10 Mar 10
Hello Sir,
I am happy that their parents approved the marriage and they arranged a grand party for everyone. Some people are taking much time to approve their kid’s wish and once they have kids then they changed their mind and showing their love towards them. Most of the parents have narrow minded attitude in the case of their kid’s marriage. Kids can’t understand the feelings of parents until they become parents by themselves. So it is different of thinking by generations
. Now the love marriages are common among youngsters.
that their parents approved the marriage and they arranged a grand party for everyone. Some people are taking much time to approve their kid’s wish and once they have kids then they changed their mind and showing their love towards them. Most of the parents have narrow minded attitude in the case of their kid’s marriage. Kids can’t understand the feelings of parents until they become parents by themselves. So it is different of thinking by generations. Now the love marriages are common among youngsters.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
I agree with you Sree, when my nephew told me about his beloved, they worked together in a IT company, i was the first person to approve it, i talked to my brother, his dad, we got them married with full honor, though there was difference in caste, thanks for response
bhuwan
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Feb 10
hi profesor2010 Yes I am now a widow and yes ours was a love marriage, and we were in love for 43 years so it was really a good marriage. Ihave indian friends here in the U s who had an arranged marriage and it was also a very good marriage ;they definitely did love each other so I guess arranged marriages can also work.we here in the u S marry for love but a lot of us really mess up, not me as I married for life but so many here get divorced at the least little upset. sad.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
hi Hatley thanks for sharing your idea about marriages, lol i have friends in iowa, ws, nj all americans, all were love marriages, they are happy too
bhuwan
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
27 Feb 10
Here in The USA, arranged marriages are not common. I am married to the man I love, the marriage was not arranged. We met, and fell in love.
I know that in some places over seas it is still common to arrange marriages, I actually wasn't aware of that until I joined mylot. It's interesting to know that this is still common.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
lol i am happy to know yours was a love marriage, be happy, thanks for response
bhuwan
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
Thanks for sharing your views, welcome to my discussions
bhuwan
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
2 Mar 10
I married the man I love. I know in some cultures marriages are arranged, but not in the United States. I have been happily married for 2 and a half years now. I am very happy that my husband and I met and fell in love. I met my husband on the Internet and I moved out to Idaho to be closer to him. We dated a year and a half then got engaged then a year and a half later we got married.
It is sad that it took the parents a while to get together and talk things over. All of this should have been done before the wedding.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
hi randy thanks for telling me about your wedding, my friend in Iowa got married when her third baby was in her womb, but she lived with the same man always, they are so happy even now
bhuwan
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
28 Feb 10
I am an Indian and Yes, Love marriage is not yet very common as of these days. People are changing around me and everywhere. I can see some of my juniors and friends getting married in court or going for love marriage.
I got married last Nov and it was an arranged marriage. Things are too good, I do not see any harm in arranged marriage. In love marriage both the person know each other and they love before marriage.
I got married and now I am in love. Marriage was first step for me to get my love.
Good Luck All, Be Happy :)
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
hello Ajoy, very right dear, marriage is the first step, keep loving your wife always, thanks for response
bhuwan
@bananamen1 (442)
• Bulgaria
1 Mar 10
I can't imagine to marry someone that somebody else had chosen for me and I can't imagine that I'll choose the life partner of my child too.
Of course, there's no guarantee that a marriage by love will be a happy one. But then I can blame only me that I've made that choice.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Mar 10
Yes when you are the decision maker, you can't blame another , just it is luck, thanks for response
bhuwan
