Tired of the Daily Life

@dorannmwin (36698)
United States
March 1, 2010 4:57am CST
You may or may not have noticed that I haven't been present for the last several days. The reason for that is that I was just tired of doing the same old thing every single day. I needed a break from everything that I'm used to doing on a regular basis. So, I wish that I could start the new month saying that I was completely refreshed and ready to get back to the same old, same old. But, I'm not because I've not been sleeping. My husband is currently in the hospital with kidney stones (again, his surgery in January didn't do what it was supposed to.) and I'm just worn down and depressed in general. When you get to feeling down and out what do you do to help yourself to be rejeuvenated? I'd like to have a long weekend away from home or even to be able to spend a day without my children and just with my husband who wouldn't be ill for just one day. I'd like to have a break from everything that gets me down and out.
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@much2say (39274)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Yes, I have noticed you've been missing a few days (I haven't been here as much either so I'm playing the catch up game with what little time I have right now). Oh gosh, I will keep positive thoughts that your husband has a speedy recovery! I guess I tend to get "angry" more than "depressed". Does that sound weird? And so, I'll make myself more productive than usual. I know if I give myself the opportunity to zone out, I'll REALLY zone out by thinking/worrying too much . . . so I'd prefer to be "physical" to at least get things done. So by, for instance, cleaning out a specific area in this place, I'll have finally done it to at least know that I accomplished something "positive" out of my "anger". I don't skate/work out as much as I used to - but that was what I used to do to keep me rejuvenated. I have to be routine with my kids (well, my 5 year old in particular with classes) and they have to be with me during the day . . . so I try to find different places to go to - somewhere that I can enjoy as well. It's been hard to do that with the baby, so we don't go out as much as we used to . . . but still I try to do these excursions whenever possible. You take care of yourself. Do get some sleep in - even if they are power naps - and don't forget to eat decently . . . keep your health up! As they say, take care of yourself first so you can take care of others. Be strong, dorannmwin . . . I know you have a lot on your shoulders right now. Hugs to you!!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I really did screw up during the time that Tom was in the hospital with my eating. I went for about 36 hours on coffee and soda. Not healthy at all. Then I did eat decently yesterday for the most part. Now I just have to get things to settle down. Thank you for letting me know that you missed me. That really makes me feel like I'm important at least to a small degree.
@much2say (39274)
• United States
4 Mar 10
My goodness, dorannmwin - 36 hours of caffeine?????? I'm glad you did finally eat though! Take some snacks with you to the hospital room if you can. I remember when my hubby was at the hospital for the night . . . I just lay my head where ever I could at the side of his bed to nap - better a light sleep than no sleep at all. Of course we miss you - but do what you need to do for now as your family needs you!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
5 Mar 10
Well, I can tell you that I definitely had a caffeine high. I would have eaten sooner too, but it seemed like everytime that I was getting ready to eat then something would come up that would keep me from eating. Tom is home now, well, actually he is at work and seems to be doing much better. However, today he feels like there is still something that is restricting the flow of urine.
@pandaeyes (2068)
1 Mar 10
Could you try changing the routine around a bit? Have something different for tea for a change perhaps. If the kids are little,could you do something with them maybe? The park and a picnic for instance. My kids liked tents under the table if it was nasty weather out and they were quite used to mum playing with the with their toys. I used to make a scenario with toys after they had gone to bed so when they came down next morning, there was a little scene. My sons action man(GI Joe) acquired a karate suit during the night,sleeping bag and track suit and my girls dolls got school uniform and all sorts (which I made of course out of old bits of their worn out clothes),it was very therapeutic and they loved it. I used to sometimes just sit and read to them when we were all having an off day. We would have a cup of hot chocolate and sit in my sons bedroom and I would read chapter after chapter of a nice comforting kids book.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I can't wait for it to get warm enough outside to be able to go out there and play with the kids. We love to go to the park and ride bikes together. We've just had so much snow this winter that it really hasn't been a possibility. We did have a small break in the weather a little over a week ago and I went outside with them and we all rode scooters together. That did some good for me as well as for them, but then the next day it rained and by Thursday there was snow on the ground again. Come on spring!!
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@pandaeyes (2068)
4 Mar 10
winter walks can be good too so long as everyone is warm. Especially if there are buns and hot chocolate when you get back. When I was little I remember making a snow man with a friend that I was playing with after school. I was so cold my hands hurt and my feet were aching because my toes were cold. I just stood and cried and they all thought I was a killjoy. I never really liked playing in the snow and then when my kids were smaller, we all togged up,two pairs of gloves,two pairs of socks,jerseys and thick coats and I loved it. We made snow men and played with the sledges. It was like a completely different experience. I cant wait for spring either. I want to sow my seeds and get the garden going,especially since our neighbour finally mended their fence and it is safe from thieves again..
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Well, my birthday is also in the spring so that is something that I always look forward to. I also really like to see everything seeming to come back to life after the long, cold winter.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
1 Mar 10
I get like that every couple of months, and there's usually no major reason for it. I'm actually kind of been feeling like that a lot lately. For me it lasts awhile. This time it's been coming on slowly for a few weeks. I don't think it's peaked yet, because I'm still forcing myself to do my usual routine, and I'm trying to convince myself to snap out of it. It's just not that easy. I do a lot of things to try to feel rejuvinated, none of it seems to help much.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
You and I are much the same way. I can feel it creeping up on me and I think that I'll be able to snap out of it, but it seems like it never works out that way. Hope you too get to feeling better soon.
• United States
3 Mar 10
Perhaps you suffer from depression. I know I do.. but I refuse to take meds for it. I've been attempting to work through it on my own, which is not at all easy. I'd prefer to get some councelling unfortunately I don't have the time or money for that right now... perhaps when my kids are older.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Mar 10
I do believe that I have some degree of depression, but most of the time I am able to work through the bouts with it that I have. For me, as long as there is someone that I can talk to then I seem to feel like I am able to function on a mostly decent level, but when there aren't people around that is when I tend to suffer more.
@allknowing (65267)
• India
1 Mar 10
We all need a break, break from whatever we are doing no matter how interesting that could be. And only we ourselves can think of something that can create a different atmosphere for us, within the constraints we are facing. So you need to plan something within the ambit you are in and it is possible. Have a different breakfast may be, eat out if you are not already doing it, go for a different hairstyle, have a massage, go for pedicure/manicure, organise a barbeque in your garden just you and your family - the list is endless. Good luck!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Right now I think what I really need is just to have a night or two away from Lexington. You see, all while I was growing up we would spend at least one weekend a month away from home as my grandparents lived in Ohio and we would go spend the weekend with them occasionally. It was two years ago that my mother sold my grandma's house after she passed away and since then I haven't really had a weekend away from home.
@allknowing (65267)
• India
3 Mar 10
If that is possible that is the best thing for you. But since you say you have constraints, a change in routines could be the best alternative, I suppose!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Well, hubby and I are trying to decide on a small vacation some time shortly after school gets out in June. We would try to do spring break at the end of this month, but it is just coming too quick to plan something.
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
18 Mar 10
I guess I can say that I know how you feel. I work 7 day a week at one job or another. It is rare that I get a day off to just do nothing. I have a bad back, and a bad knee, so I hurt a lot when I am working. I have to say that it gets old really quick, and I get tired of being stuck in the same rut every day. Unfortunately, there isn't anything I can do about it. I just have to force myself to get up every day and keep pushing. I have a hard time keeping up with what day it is most of the time, and I have to look at my watch to find out what the date is half the time. I really need a break, but I don't see myself getting one any time soon...
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
18 Mar 10
Aside from being a mother and babysitting my nieces I actually don't have a job at this time, but I can say that I sympathize with what you are saying. When I worked at the hospital and my daughter was small, I really didn't know if I was coming or going the majority of the time.
• United States
18 Mar 10
I am tired of doing the same old meaningless thing every day, but I am stuck in the proverbial rut/rat race, and I don't foresee being able to get myself out anytime soon.
• Boston, Massachusetts
6 Mar 10
Hi Dorann, Here's a hug, a cheer and a prayer for you my dear friend. You just verbalized a need that has to be responded immediately. find time to have this break that you've long waiting for. you seemed to be near burned out. don't wait for this to come or else you can have breakdown episode. seriously, give yourself a break. you and yourself in a place where you can have the kind of rest and relaxation that you need to freely breath and recharge your energies and your sanity hehehe.
• Boston, Massachusetts
20 Mar 10
oh well, at least there's something that you can relate too and lighten up your feelings. so how are you now my friend? i hope you're out of it already!
@figjam00 (1450)
• India
1 Mar 10
I agree with your view that one do need a constant break from mundane tasks of daily life. If we do not get break we will get tired easily. Even I take regular breaks from mylot so that it does not get boring. But most of the people here are regular till they reach their minimum payout. After taking break from certain things one feel refreshed and pumped up after coming.
• China
2 Mar 10
I agree with you very much,our life need break,and our work need to be refreshed sometimes,so that you can have more interests and passions when you return!it is including love,brief separation and break is good to keeping the passion of love,which can be called "Half suger principle"!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
As for my relationship with mylot, I like to stay regular all the time. I know that there are times that I'm not here for a few days, but the draw of the conversation always brings me back. I am also one that is trying to reach payout on a monthly basis. And I also like to earn a few cents more each month than I did during the previous month.
@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
3 Mar 10
i so know what you mean. sometimes you can just get into a rut and life just seems like a dull routine. i try to make my days special by visiting the library at least once a week so i have lots of new stuff to look at, plus i do a lot of crafty things. although my health isnt the best and we dont have much money (hubby has been out of work since last august) i look forward to simple things.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
There are a lot of simple things that I like to look forward to as well. I can't wait for it to get warm enough to go to the park and go for a hike. Bring out the bicycles so we can go riding, that sort of thing. I don't like to ask for a lot, I really like to just be able to spend time with my family as they are the world to me.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
2 Mar 10
Hi dorannmwin. I think I know how you feel, for I have also dealt with my own bouts of "tiredness" of the daily life. I wouldn't know what to tell you, because I surely am not qualified to give you any advice. The one thing that helped me though are some kind words from friends. Some of these friends I've found here in myLot. I hope you find your way out of this slump; and you get the necessary break that your spirit needs.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I know that I will find a way to get out of this slump. I think it is just something that comes over me from time to time and I also know that there are ways that it can be beaten. I have to get over it in able to be able to move on with my life.
@erikmama (12934)
• United States
2 Mar 10
I missed you and was wondering what happen to you.I have those days when I feel it is such a bore to come to mylot or write an article and dont do very much on here. I am sorry to hear about your husband.Please send my wishes to him for a speedy recovery.I know how frustrating it is to have something that was suppose to be taken care of not correctly done.I will keep him,you,and family in my prayers. I have 2 boys,and it is hard because I am a single mother.I have not worked for several months and the majority og that time was spent home with the kids.I love them and all,as I know you did your kids too.But we are only human and need a break and a chance to refresh and be ourselves for a while.Sometimes it is hard to do.Maybe you could have a family member of friend watch them for a couple hours while you do something.Maybe even put them to bed anf take a long walk so you can think and refresh yourself. Maybe your husband will have better lucj this time and things can get normal for you again.In the meantime,make sure yu take time out for yourself,if only a few minutes.You will be much better for everyone!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I really didn't think that anyone would notice that I was gone. It started off that I just wanted to take a little break and spend some extra time with the family and it ended up with him at the hospital. All of the things that I had really planned to do with the family didn't get done. I hope that he is on the mend, but as of right now it is difficult to tell because he is in that state of sleep deprivation. He wasn't able to sleep at the hospital and then last night he wasn't able to sleep because he kept having weird dreams. He went to work today because they say that being up and moving is good for him, so I guess I'll see how he is feeling this evening. I admire you in so many ways. I don't think that I would ever be able to be a single mother and I hope that I never have to do it. However, I hope that if I ever do I am able to handle it as well as you seem to be doing and as well as my mother did do.
1 Mar 10
I think we all have times like that, I know I certainly wish I could just crawl up under the duvet and hide from life for a few days. But I can’t as things have to be done etc etc. What I do is when things get too much is strip back all those non essential things which end up cluttering up every second of my life so I am left with the bare essentials that have to be done, even if that means no mylot for a few days . Then I do a trade off for everything I have to do I do one thing that I want to do for me, be it taking a walk, watching a cr@ppy daytime soap or just spending an extra 20 minutes in the shower. It sort of works as in after a few days of stripping back and doing trade offs I feel better although never fully recharged.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I thought that by taking the weekends off from a lot of the things that I normally have to accomplish in a day would be big help for me, but it seems like it isn't possible to do that. A babysitter for an evening would be nice, but I don't really know anyone enough to trust them to keep the children.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
1 Mar 10
I definitely can relate to you. Dealing with my son, makes me feel the same way. I am sorry your husband is having so many problems. Take me with you, when your find somewhere to go, ppleease!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I'll be happy to take you with me when I find somewhere to go. I know that we all need a break from time to time.
@MrKennedy (1994)
1 Mar 10
Life can get very mundane and routine-like from time to time. When this happens, I know I need to take a break from the every day and do something exciting or adventurous
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
We are hoping that this summer we will be able to take a vacation of some sort to get out of the mundane routine that we've found ourselves in. The last time that we had a vacation was in 2008 and that was actually a business trip for my hubby, the children and I went along because I knew that I could find things for them to do while hubby was at his meetings.
1 Mar 10
I think you have to take a break now and again, otherwise you will wear yourself out. I took this weekend off and relaxed, it did me a lot of good and today I have felt much more refreshed and awake.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I have been trying to take the weekends off and it does seem to make a difference for me. I do, however, think that things just started to pile up on me and that I'm at the point that I've really just had enough.
@hotsummer (10436)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
i am experiencing the same things . lately i am feeling burn out from doing the same things online. i am usually at home and just do this online things since i am a stay home person. i rarely watch television i just mostly stay in front of the computer if i have nothing else to do at home. so usually i just do the house work and computer thing. anyways,i feel i don't wanna past one year doing online the same boring things every day. so i am doing something else besides computer thing but i will not totally stop what i am doing in front of the computer cause it is a source of information and lot of things for me. but i don't wanna any more be totally hooked up with it and lose some great opportunity in life cause i am too caught up with what i am doing with online things. but definitely i will not leave mylot. but i don't wanna be in mylot just to earn money. it is not any more my motive. i am just here to enjoy some discussions. i just check some discussions that interest me like this one . something that is quite similar to my situation and so it kinda help me feel that i am not alone in the struggles and things that i am going through in life.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Like you, I know that I don't want to leave mylot. There is something about the time that I spend here that is quite a draw to me. I love the community that I've found here and though I do like having the money that I earn on here, that really isn't what it is all about for me.
• India
1 Mar 10
Same routine felts that we are living the same life everyday, it felt boring to me also. wake up in the morning and get ready for the office and in the office looked same faces who are themselves bored from his life. I think we have to take a break from this daily routine life, do some innovative , creative things in the life to get out of this thing. Sometimes internet helped me a lot to get out of this.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
The internet does tend to help me to a certain extent. In addition to that, I like to do crafty things and those help me to feel like I am accomplishing something because I can see what I am getting done.
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Just like you I am tired of doing the same old thing everyday... I have stopped going to school due to my ailment and I am feeling bored doing nothing... my ailment's been stopping me from accomplising my dreams in life. sometimes, I feel worthless because i can't enjoy my life like other people can do.. i wanted to finish school and get a stable job so i can help my family and my mom's side of the family who have been so kind and generous to me... yeah, i know my family can survive even without my financial help but i still want to help them particularly my mom and siblings... i am going back to school this coming june and i hope everything's gonna be fine... when i am feeling down, i go out and shop when i have got extra money to spend. good thing, i have got a part time job online.. it's been helping me to buy the things i need like food, clothing and medicine... partner and i will be celebrating our fifth anniversar on thursday and she booked an overnight stay at one of the hotels in tagaytay... i am so excited... i'm pretty sure we'll have a good time...
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
You should have a good time and I hope that it will help you to feel better as well. It seems to me that you are defintely taking steps in the right direction. Good luck to you.
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Reading through your post, and the comments here, makes me feel better. I thought what I am going through all my life since I graduated from the University is not normal. I had been to 6 companies, and the longest is this one being here for 1 year and half, for others, I only last until I get my regularization paper. I kept on resigning and getting into new job. Till my 4th manager told me recently that it is not good for me, and for my resume. I don't know, it feels like I didn't expect this to be like this after school. I felt frustrated to see the real world after college, and I am having hard time going through it everyday, plus the feeling that I chose the wrong career to start with, and wants to start all over again, but of course, I need some financial aid to do that as well. Now, I am stucked, it is because I had a contract for three years, hence, I must stay for another one and a half year. As an answer to this depression-like syndrome, I am scheduling myself to a 2-day retreat and hopefully, it can help me sort things better, and help me direct my life again.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I'm glad that I was able to make you feel somewhat better. I think that we all deal with some sort of depression during our lives and there are different ways that we are able to deal with it. I hope that you are able to rejuvenate yourself during your retreat.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
1 Mar 10
Well it seems that you've got a few different things going on. I know exactly how you feel. I feel as if I am constantly doing the same thing everyday. Unfortunately the things we do for our family on a day to day basis are important. I do think we need to make sure we schedule some time for ourselves. I know that's hard for you right now with your husband and all. When he gets well, its a must for you to have some personal time. When I feel down I try to do something for me. I love taking care of my family and my two dogs but sometimes I feel as if that's all I am. A caretaker. I take care of my family. I take care of patients. I never take care of me. If we dont take care of ourselves we cant help anyone else. I only wish you lived near me and we could schedule a day out. You are a good wife, mom, and now a great myLotter. Its hard to keep up with it all. I am glad you do. I enjoy your discussions. Happy MyLotting dl
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Thank you for this, you've really brightened my day a little bit. I am supposed to go to the movies with a friend of mine over this coming weekend, so I will be getting a little bit of me time. I just hope that Tom is feeling human by then because I think that will make it a lot easier for me to go out. I try to also do my exercise classes on a regular basis because that too is me time for myself.
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
same here, maybe thats the reason why i keep on submitting resignation every year or left my previous employer coz i got so tired doing the same thing and i apply for new position to another company without thinking that it will affect me financially. being unemployed of course is very hassle as we need to pay our bills while looking for job. i hate myself sometimes coz i did not even appreciate the things i do.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I was never really one that was guilty of leaving a job because I was tired of it, but I do know what you are talking about. I think that right now I am getting tired of being a stay-at-home mother because I don't have all of the adult interaction that I desire.