Can you forgive and forget easily?

for minor things then yes its easily forgiven and forgotten...but the thigns that have been life altering for me and damaging to me then no I dont forgive nor do I ever forget...AND I dont think its necessary....People have a hard time understanding that though but fact is I'm one of those ppl who DOES NOT carry some sort of bitterness around with me like many would like to believe..

I am like you and I am very sensitive and when someone I care about hurts me it affects me badly. But when that person comes back and apologizes to me I am willing to accept their apology and forgive them. Sometimes I feel like if they are asking for forgiveness then they genuinly feel bad about what they did to hurt me.

No, I don't think I forgive and forget easily... but it's also situational. In a lot of cases, I'll forgive something that was said or done to me but I can admit, in all honesty, that I don't forget about it. I wouldn't say I carry a grudge but, if someone really hurts me deeply, I will never forget that they were able to do it... so it tends to prevent me from ever getting as close to them again.

Well, I think I am like you, on the part that I like to help people too and I am very very sensitive. But on the forgive and forget part. I think I can forgive easily but I never forget. We won't be the same anymore once they've done something bad to me. I can forgive them, but I won't forget and after that everything will not be same.

hi laura, you reminds me of my mom my mom is such a good person, she's always willing to help. But if someone betrayed her then she can really be a bad enemy and cut ties, it will took long long time for her to forgive. Me I can easily forget but not forgive

yes! I do forgive easily. But we all know that it is not easy to forget what the person did to you. Forgiving is easy, but forgetting takes time.

honestly, no, it is very hard to forgive and forget. asking for forgiveness will not return back what has been damaged. it is hard for me to forget, i keep on rewinding it, throwing it back again and again especially if i was reall hurt. that's how i manage it to get over it, if i hide, it will haunt me. i also tried running, but when i see the person who made something bad to me, it will just come back to me.

I can forget easily but if the person who hurt me cross paths all the hurt that i feel really flashed on my mind. I know that a lot of people experience the way we feel. It is easy to forgive but to forget i really doubt it. it really takes time to erase all the memories. As the saying goes time heals all wound right? but it will always leave a scar behind.

Well, it depends. It's not always that I forgive and forget. I can forgive but forgetting is possible if it is not repeated. My mom use to say that if you can bring yourself to forgive and forget, you are likely to enjoy lower blood pressure, a stronger immune system, and a drop in the stress hormones circulating in your blood, studies suggest. Back pain, stomach problems, and headaches may disappear. And you'll reduce the anger, bitterness, resentment, depression, and other negative emotions that accompany the failure to forgive. Yes, I agree with her. I can forgive yes but it depends if I can forget or not. After all, it all in our mindset..I know without the thought of forgiveness if you forget incidents which are unpleasant or which are really hard to forget.

yeah to avoid extra burden of life and to live freshly every day..it is good policy to forgiev and forget the things which are not so much importent for long life

why should i forgive and forget because i believe in given and take procedure

Basically i forgive others for hurting me but i will never forget those bad day. I will always have them in mind. But i easily forgive, if they apologize. But if they repeat the same, sure then its my turn to hurt them. I do this to let them know the pain of hurt, atleast after that people stop hurting others knowingly!!

For me it depends on how bad they have hurt me. I usually am very open to forgive after some minutes, sometimes I need a day or two to let the anger go away, but then I can forgive and forget only if I can see that person feels sorry for what has done to me. Other times when someone does something really bad to me and maybe even more than once then I will put a big cross on them, they will not exist for me anymore, I have had that with people that I see daily and after years I still don't have any relationship with them, no talks not greeting and so on.

ya i usually do it.......i can forgive n forgot easily........n i like to b like this......

It depends on how you feel. Do you want this person in your life or have your outgrown this person. Hope this helps. Lady Jane from NYC

hi there laura_lmaxi, as for me, when a person done something wrong with me, i can't really forget that in my entire life especially if i can see the person who have done wrong to me, all things he or she have done me will all be coming back in my mind ... i just pray and talk to God that He will forgive me why I have this kind of reactions or have this kind of attitude ... it's just that this is ME. Its sounds like planting iside within your self bitterness but when i can't see the person i am okey, can't even think that i have known a person like that, my problem just occur when i can see that person because it will really shows what i have got for him/her with the things they have done me.

If its something that is major then it is very hardd for me to forgive and forget. Im like you in my past when someone hurts be really bad i have ran from it and cut ties with them. I think the hardest part is the forgetting. I have managed to forgive my husband for something he did in the past but its the forgetting part i cant ever do so it will eventually be the end of our marriage. Some people say if you fully forgive someone for something theyve done then the forgetting goes with that... i just cant seem to get that forgetting step right. I think its sorta normal to run from painful situations and cut ties.

Yes, I can. This is one of the main spiritual rules of most religions. There is a practical reason I try to do this as well. I am hurting myself if I continue to harbor any enmity towards anyone. We all know about the mental anguish, but it also produces physical problems such as high blood pressure and stiff muscles. It is better to forgive and forget and not just for the other person, but for yoursel too. I will admit, however, that somethings are harder to forgive than others, so I guess it depends what or who is being forgiven and forgotten.

That depends! When someone hurt me deeply I think I can't forget and forgive easily. But when he/she makes an apology for me ,I would forgive him/her.I am a good tempered person but even that,I would hardly forget the things easily especially if my close friends do that to me. Maybe I can keep relationship with the friends like before,but I would remember the things if I think I really get hurt.

For most "transgressions" I forgive fairly fast, but it depends on how someone has hurt me, whether I forget very fast. But I find the older I get, may be it's just old age, and I really can't remember, that I forget faster too.