Have you ever had a past love that still haunts to this day?

@Naylani (111)
United States
March 1, 2010 9:10pm CST
No. Not in the supernatural sense, like a ghost, but like a past lover that for what ever reason the both of you had perhaps a brief encounter or a short relationship that ended prematurely. And maybe you think about this person through out your life and wonder what could have been. Though you try, you still cannot shake the memory of this person. Do you still shudder at the thought of those private moments that you both shared? I do, and I am not ashamed to say so. Don't get me wrong, I am happily married to the best dude ever and I have a great family. But every now and then I still think about a really cool guy I met some time ago. We haven't seen or talk to each other in years, but he made such an impression on me, that I think of him fondly to this day. I know I am not the only one who feel this way. Tell me about your pass love story that still haunts you, and if you want to know the full story of my past love, ask me.
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@fianne (1059)
• United States
2 Mar 10
wow, sad to say, but yes... it's my first love. everytime i see him i really still feel what i felt before. and everytime he comes into my mind, i really tell myself i hope i can bring back the days we were together. I already have a child and he knows it too, but it's a strange feeling! he's a seaman and i am a nurse. i just really hope i can get over him.
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• United States
2 Mar 10
He was my first love ever. We were teens and dumb. We stayed friends for many years and did everything together. Many years later our lives changed to the point that our paths could no longer be the same I had to say goodbye. I still to this day think of him and often wonder how he is. I find myself still wishing things could have worked out between us but I now have a wonderful relationship that dulls the pain and makes me happy for that I am greatful. Both he and I have similar backrounds and understand that though we still love another we are happy for what we have now.
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@machivado (529)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 10
I have such experience, and I have to admit that I regret it everytime the memory kicks in. I was such a snob back then, all I care about was myself so I kind of understand how stupid I was. Man...days like those really make me want to go back to the past and kick other self hard.
@ET28LV (1895)
• Latvia
2 Mar 10
Hello, Yes I have not so good realtionship. We and my past girlfriend I love her very much, but she doesn't love me. And she are not said it. After some months I heared from my friend true. And I go away from she. She is just playing with me. Every day I thinking about her, I don't why because I have a new girlfriend who is so honest and nice girl. I think i love she.
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
Before yes, but now that I have my boyfriend which is I really love I forget them but still there are times that they will pop up in my mind and things that happened in past where all come in to my mind and then I shake my head and forget it. I don't wan to remember anything in my past specially if the relationship is not good. LOL.
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@RHIAZAH (26)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
i have that experience its hard to let go of the past when you know that that past was its all the first first kiss, first girl etc... its hard that in almost 2yrs you'll ended up to be apart i waited for 5yrs, hoping that we will be together again, but may hopes ending for nothing she got a boyfrend that i now, and when sometime i seeing her all the moment suddenly going to may mind it's really hard to forget the past when you now have a good memory on that past
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@cocodee (21)
• China
2 Mar 10
Yes. I've fallen in love with one girl in that summer. But I don't event know her name.
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
2 Mar 10
I don't have a past love that still haunts me. I know this happening to some of my friends. According to my observation, this happens when somebody dumps you and you are not in a position to forget the person. You can avoid this if you are strong enough to make up your mind. Also, try to keep a distance from each person you come in contact with, regardless your lover.
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@Chad525 (349)
• Canada
2 Mar 10
You've got no idea....
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• India
2 Mar 10
It happens if it's the true love shared between two persons that too as it might be first love in life.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
I have a two exes which still haunts me to this day. The first one is someone that I let go in the past and regretted it until now. Did something in the past while we were still together that I regretted for years already. I still think about her every now and then but things would never be the same after what I did. The second is my last ex, she still haunts me in a bad way. She fooled me into loving her and cheated on me after I gave her my trust. Its already been a months since we broke up but my hate for her is still there. The wound is still fresh like it just happened yesterday.
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• India
2 Mar 10
Hi Naylani, This topic has made me remember like you somebody who has touched the right cord of my heart.I don't know whether you'll call it love or some kind of affair but I can't stop remembering the sweet memories of her being with me.She actually had a boyfriend far away from her and due to some reason they had bad blood at that time when I was there with her.We've had nice time together like a husband and wife until the day when her boyfriend again came back to her.I broke loose in anger.I told all to her boyfriend.She left the place forever.I don't know how she is going with her boyfriend right now.But I love her with the knowledge that it won't be possible for me to marry her ever.But you know,she'll always be inside my heart.May be the effects of a break up will lessen. And Thanks for raising the topic.
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2 Mar 10
There are two men who come to mind for me, past boyfriends from my late teens before I met my now partner of 5 and a half years ( of whom I love with a passion). The reasons their memories linger with me are not for any positive reasons. They are there to remind me of how not to let people treat you. The things they did affected me, in a way that I found it near impossible to trust people over the years.I became cold and withdrawn to others and their feelings. Many years later and I have finally learnt to trust and love again and the memories no longer have a hold on me. I feel like the spell has been broken. I pray for anyone going through painful relationships, I hope you find your way.
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@sree1412 (208)
• India
2 Mar 10
Naylin gr8 topic ya i am experiencing the same i broke off with my girl around 2 years back but her thoughts still hounts me like anything i am finding it really difficult to forget her.I really dont know wat to do i really loved her but the fact is she is the who dumped me i still love her even though she dumped me.I dont have any other girl in my life but life with her was awesome but now i am alone but still this is life what to do.I dont have to tell you even you know that when you are with the person whome you love world looks so beautiful and problems seems nothing.when she left me i was in a depression but thnaks to parents and my brother they are one who really helped me also one of my friends even she also helped me to get out this.Hey Naylani thanks for starting such a wonderfull topic.It really hurts when the person whome you loved like anything is not with you anymore.But it was an experience tell me something about your love..
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• Malaysia
3 Mar 10
I can't say that it is a past love but yes I am still being haunt by the memory of my best buddy whom I like so much. He is very cool and I notice that he is different from any other guys that I know. We used to annoy each other by giving remark that our friends thought that we are actually meant to be together because of our special way of greeting each other, and yet when we are left alone during science class we are so close that we look like best friend. I did told him that I like him and he said he feels the same way too. Only that we never move to the next level even though both of us know how we feel towards each other. I guess it was a pure and beautiful friendship that we shared that made us refused to change it to anything else other than being real best buddy. But now we have lost contact and I have no idea where he is right now. I dreamed of him recently and deep in my heart i feel that he miss me just as much as i miss him.I am happy with my bf but i still hope to meet my best buddy because i want him to be my best man during my wedding day.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
To be honest..YES like you I am also happily married with wonderful son.. But sometimes I have this feeling of regret especially my husband is far from us. my mind is full of " what if " what if ended with him, what its like to live with him and be with him everyday, what its like to be an air force wife, If i chose him before probably I'm in my hometown now, where's my family and friends..looking back to our memories make me cry. If only I can turn back times Although im happy now but there's this feeling of incomplete
• Canada
2 Mar 10
Absolutely... I had a crush on the same guy all the way through high school and college. I was painfully shy back then and never told him how I felt. We were, however, best friends all that time and I treasure the friendship to this day. Years later, I was getting divorced and he showed up on my doorstep on my birthday. He didn't know about my divorce - he actually went to my mother's house because he wanted to ask her how to find me - and there I was. I had moved there temporarily with my daughters during the divorce proceedings. Anyway, how he remembered my birthday after so many years, I'll never know. We sat on the front steps and talked and laughed and had the best time. During that conversation, I finally "confessed" how I'd felt about him so long before, just in fun. He looked me straight in the eyes and got so quiet and just said "WHY didn't you ever TELL me?"... and I knew in that moment that what I had wanted SO much could have been mine, if I'd only had the nerve to say something. It was kind of a bittersweet moment but water under the bridge too. He was a touring musician and also in a relationship and I was nowhere near ready to be thinking about another guy... so we just left it at that moment of understanding. I've thought of him often over the years, though, and I hope he's really happy :)