Would you give your husband a second chance after seperated from him for 8years?

March 1, 2010 10:35pm CST
My friend is separated from his husband for 8 yrs. She's asking advise from me what to do, co'z she found out that her husband had children from his different woman. I was surprised to hear that!!! Because 8 yrs passed by with no communication, and then here comes her husband trying to get back to her! It's amazing! I told her, maybe he realize all his faults and she should give him a chance. Everybody deserves a second chance. And she should accept the children of her husband, for they don't have child yet. I'm so happy for her. I don't know what they call it, true love or destiny? Whatever it is, for sure they will happily for the rest of their life.
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8 responses
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
wow!congrats for both of them. they must really love each other to be back in each others hand after 8 long years of separation, that's really a story to tell especially that she still love her husband even if he have already children with his relationship after his wife.
• India
8 Mar 10
Love will come at any time,I think she takes the correct decision and carry the rest of their life with their husband with joyfully.Any how I congratulate her .
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
eight years is quite long for them to be together again. i don't think things will work out in a smooth way because her husband has a lot of women and children already. it took her husband eight consecutive years to realize that he loves your friend, c'mon.
@fred11 (62)
3 Mar 10
Why not even if 8 years past by both your lives if you think if you still love him after all the years give it a try maybe you are destine for each other after all
@kaylachan (4778)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Mar 10
If that amount of time passed by and I had no contact from him what-so-ever, I don't think I could. I would want to naturally, but wanting to and actually doing so are two different things. But, it would have to depend on how things ended actually. If I couldn't take it when we seperated I don't think I could fully trust him. Be friends maybe, but trust, not so much.
2 Mar 10
I am sure there is more to the circumstances of their initial separation, but for me eight years would be far too long for me to ever turn back the clock and start up the relationship again. If he still had feelings for her, why did he not try and get back with his wife sooner, why did he go on to another relationship and father children? This is a much more complex situation, at least it would be for me, but after eight years apart I would say no to a reunion.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
That depends, if the reason for their separation was infidelity, I would have to say no. But if it were because of another reason than why not. Maybe when they separated it wasn't the perfect time for them to be together. I believe that second chances should be given to people of deserve it. That is why I don't believe in giving second chances to cheaters cause they don't deserve it.
@erikmama (12934)
• United States
2 Mar 10
8 years is a long time to be speerated from a person.I dont know all of the circumstances,but people change.So the man she loved back then may not be the man she loves today.Or vice cersa.Of course things could hit it right off once again,but only if she is willing to accept what has happenedand this mans children. If she thinks there could be something there, then I say she should give it a shot.Keep it slow to see what develops.They really have to get to know each other all over again.