Obsession kills love?

Philippines
March 2, 2010 8:54am CST
Do you think mylotters that obsession kills love? Maybe for me, If you are to obsessed with someone or with your partner and you just want them always right beside you and control them I think it would really kill love. Your partner maybe don't like the way you treat him/her. Your partner has his interest, thing that he wants to do in life and you two really have differences and you should not control them on anything that they do.
4 responses
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
well, you won't kill them literally but you'll take away from them their right to control themselves because you're already manipulating them. obsession tends to feel like your changing ones person for the benefit of your own satisfaction so that's so rude.
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
Hello healthbeauty..Yes obsession really kills love. Obsession is not a good way of love. You maybe so jealous in not the right way. Example you are jealous because he is with her sister and he is not with you.. Or maybe he want to go hiking with his friend and you controlling him not to go there instead go to a beach with you. Something like that.... Your partner will not miss you because all the time you are there and controlling him in whatever he wants to do. Making him another man that always go on the flow with you and you don't want to go with what he wants. That's what I think. Thanks.
@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
2 Mar 10
yes it will kill love, i know a few people men and women like this.i tell them they dont own them, they dont control them. to me once obsession started and dont want them to have friends, then it will be they wont be allow to be with family either. then i think more with men it turns into abuse, with females i guess it could too. my daughter is very obsesse with my son, she dont want him have nothing to do with his own sister or any other females in the family or just friends. my one friend his wife is controlling as well of him, she tried to pull that with me, i told her straight up first of all i am not your man, and second of all if i was you would want to get a devorce from me i wont play that crap.
@primeaque86 (7968)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
I am not obsessed, I am just a jealous one... but my friend, she was, she was so obsessed with boyfriend that they ended up a brake up... his bf is my friend too until now... I know that my friend loved her... he loved her so much but she could not really control herself... she would control him from anything, from everything... he could not even go to his province without her. He could not join us without her. And he could not call and receive call without her permission, she would check first who was calling. And there was one time we were enjoying ourselves with a small party, it was a graduation treat from one of our friends that she threw his cellphone over the floor, it was broken, she found out that he texted some unknown person she didn't know and without her consent, she burst with anger... and I have just known several months from now that they already broke up... I thanked God then, they didn't really deserve with each other. I am just thankful that there was no hurt feeling at all, well, she used to tell us... but I know she is still in a state of recovery... they were both single right this time. My friend told me that his love was gone, his over her.