friends become lover or not

India
March 3, 2010 12:19am CST
hi guys i think it is some what interesting matter to discuss so many guys get confuse between the love and freiendship according to me love is different from friendship.we talking to girls by the name of friendship after a few days it become a love by taking the name of the tool "friendship" we missuse the friendship friendship is the amazing feeling that differs from love,so please dont missuse that .friendship ever think male or female it will to all the people but love is not .love is not a bad thing but dont disguise in the name of friendship.thankyou guys,you can give your discussion "friend in need an friend in deed"
7 responses
@simonelee (2718)
• China
8 Mar 10
Hello there. I guess friendship is the strongest thing that make your relationship last. I'm not saying that your partner should be your friend in able to last. In every successful relationship friendship comes first before courting. Getting to know each other, spending more time with friends then courtship is a good foundation. This time you see the other side of the person that you're planning to be with. In my previous relationship all of them i met in social party and it didn't last. We met and we started dating. All failed and resulted to heartaches. Now, I'm happy with someone which started as friends-to-a lover.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Hello Dhamodhar, Yes, many people misuse friendship especially when used as friends with benefits. Guys love this because they do not ever have move forward in the relationship and they think this is cool and the same for the female thinking it will lead to forever. Friends means holding hands or kiss not then but nothing more. Talking and shareing activities. If you are getting benefits you are contradicting yourself and not really be true to yourself. In the end one gets hurt anyway most of the time. Many people use this as crutch or because they are lonely or have low-self esteem issues. Thanks and have a great day Sincerely unique16
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
i think every one knows the difference of it but because we have the power to reason out, then that's the time when the word "friendship" is misused. i believe that friends that became lovers would last longer than those who just hang around one moment and decided to have relationship or sometimes, it depends.
@Alivia (47)
• India
3 Mar 10
if one's lover cant be his or her good friend then they cannot share their feelings.After a few days it may happen that love doesn't exist and the the relation can break.My husband is my good friend and we share everything in our life.
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
well the father of my baby right now was used to be a good friend of mine whom i though who really care and love me since he knows me already. but he took advantage when i had problem with my ex broke up with him. since i was so down, sad and lonely he took that opportunity to catch me so down feelings, but looks what happened, when i got pregnant he just gone like a wind. i still prefer friendship to be limited coz sometimes they took advantage of it.
• India
3 Mar 10
Yes friends become lover because they only can understand and know what your are. Friends are always in need and my friends always help me in any kind of situation.
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Take from me if your not friends first it will not last, I Married my best friend we were friends first then we had love and got married and we celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary in April this year. My sister and brother thought they had love and married not a friend all got divorced my sister now for the third time. One brother five times never did he have friendship first. What you think is love is lust not true lasting love. I have a son who did not listen he is divorced he went on looks and feelings not freindship first all told him she did not love him and it proved true she cheated on him from the start. My other three children are all still married one will celebrate 15 years in May the other two 8 years and staying married. The one who divoced lasted 1 month past 5 years and his ex remarried and got divorced again after 5 years. Everyone I know who has a lasting true love and marriage started as friends first then became lovers and are still lovers and friends. Think again and re-evalutate it is not love if your not truly friends first.