How long can you hold your breath?

how long is your fuse? - Keeping anger in
@bounce58 (17524)
Canada
March 3, 2010 5:35pm CST
About anger. I guess to put it more technically, how long is your fuse? When something or someone frustrates you, how long can you keep your anger in check? Are you able to hold it in? How do you manage it? Or are you the type who flare up immediately? I find myself being the latter one, lately. I know that it’s all the pressure at home and at work that I’ve been experiencing How about you?
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@jewels49 (1783)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Extremely long. It takes so much for me to get mad some consider me abnormal. I don't know if it's a good thing or not, except when it comes to the kids. The kids that know me appreciate the long fuse and the patience, that's probably why I can't get rid of any of them. I tend to play a great devil's advocate and always try to see the other side of every situation. Sometimes I get screwed over but most of the time I come out ahead.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
Now, that's the kind of friend I'd like to have on my side all the time! Like you, I try to see the other side of a situation everytime. Sometimes it doesn't work for me because all these conflicting ideas would also weigh-in inside my head. And I do get screwed over too once in a while. I just like to think it as looking at the big picture. ...rough night in Chicago...
@jewels49 (1783)
• United States
6 Mar 10
I saw Luongo got a little beat up..on an up note..it was a gret night in and for Detroit!!
• United States
4 Mar 10
i may be very happy these days and I don't let the little things get to me But... if you push the wrong button I'll show you my renowned hot temper. I still can wear the shirt I always wanted . It would say Caution! I go from nice to b!tch in 15 seconds!
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
I'm still wary about that hot temper of yours Sarah. Hehe. If ever I see somebody wearing that shirt, I'll make sure I get to their good side. Else, I'd make my self scarce in 15 seconds or less. Hope you're having a nice day.
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• United States
6 Mar 10
I had a wonderful week! You are ok Bounce! No Worries.
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
normally i could manage it. goodness knows i have the patience of a martyr. hehehe when the pressure gets me though, usually i cry. when i'm mad at someone or frustrated at something, i cry. it's my outlet. but i normally dont vent out my anger. in my entire life, i only have ever flared up 3 times. and they were not good. one was in highschool (chemistry lab), second with my boss (overtime, no sleep for 2 days)... both with no shouting whatsoever and happened several years ago. last was a few months ago with my drunk dad. i learned to keep my mouth in check or walk away whenever i can. i don't normally get mad easily, but when it becomes too much, added to a lot of pressure, the fuse can be oh so short too. my tongue can be so sweet, but given enough reason to retaliate back when mad, it can stab painfully too. but i'm trying to avoid that. people who knows me, knows better than to talk to me when not in a good mood. i'm such a quiet one when mad. i need time to breathe and compose myself or i might say something hurtful.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
5 Mar 10
Oh, the quiet ones like you are the ones everybody else should watch out for. You may only cry everytime, and flare up once in a blue moon, but when you do, it's like thunder and lightning. Thanks mylesnarvaez. And hope you have a nice day.
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
true, like a sleeping volcano. hehe but actually i hurt myself more when i'm mad. the second time i flared up, i had a nose bleed. the third time, i threw up my dinner. so really, i try not to get mad. because it's more difficult for me. hehe thanks! have a nice day too!
• United States
4 Mar 10
I have learned over the years that finding your "pause" button is a great thing to find. I have found mine and it has helped me stay out of a lot of arguments with people. I use to have a short fuse! Woo! Have mercy! I was awful. Then I found my pause button. I can actually see it in my mind and that really helps me. When I get upset I think "PAUSE", breathe, shake and shiver. Then I get past it. Doesn't mean I don't suffer a little but it definitely keeps me out of trouble.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
4 Mar 10
..."PAUSE", breathe, shake and shiver... The only time I do this, is when I'm peeing. Sorry, can't help it. So, there is a proverbial pause button somewhere, huh? I haven't found mine. Usually, it's just a 'stop' button at the other end of the fuse. And by then, it's already too late. Thanks M.
• United States
4 Mar 10
Don't worry. It will find you baby!!
@arystine (1275)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
It depends on the person who made me angry. If the person is family, relative or friend, I can hold my anger and be patient. If the person who made me angry is a stranger or just an acquaintance, I flare up immediately. As in I'm the type of person you'll regret messing up with. :-) Though I think I mellowed out over the years. When I was in college, I was thinking of practicing anger management.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
10 Mar 10
I guess we can be too forgiving if it's our friends or family. But I always thought that it should be the opposite. I always thought we could lash out to the people close to us, because we know that they will always be there, no matter what. I guess that's just me. Thanks.
• Canada
4 Mar 10
Hello Bounce!! I used to have a very short fuse....make that a "tiny" fuse and I could scare even the biggest of man standing in front of me when Id get angry. But lately, since working from home, I find myself not giving a damn anymore. Im happy, I have a husband, a dog and the rest of the world can go fly a kite!! I know I cant change the world, cant change anyone, dont want to and now Im at peace with it all. I get a tiny sort of bubbling inside when someone says something to hurt my feelings, but then I smile at them and this is what I say in my head while Im smiling "you dumb*ss, you have no idea how silly you are right now" and I found out that usually they'll end up saying they're sorry. They must see something in my smile that makes them uncomfortable haha!!
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
Oh that's a great idea MagicalBubbles! I hope you don't mind if I steal it sometime. Aside from diffusing tense situations, it might actually help me find my own peace inside. This way, it doesn't get built up as unnecessary tension. Happy that you found your own peace, thanks for responding.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Hi, bounce58. I can hold my breath and tongue for about 1 minute and I will explode. It also depends on what it is that has made me very mad. I will stay calm, if it is something minor that is meant to not cause any harm. If it is something intentional, someone may see me angry. I may say something or I may not. But, you can tell from the look of my face that I am furious.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
4 Mar 10
Thankfully (or not), myLot is anonymous. I wouldn't have to see your face when your furios. All I will see is a beautiful read flower. Thanks cream97
@airakumar (1555)
• India
25 Mar 10
Well, anger is a bad feelings. Person doesn't know what going on..but Anger is also an emotion. The physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Anger can even be a good thing. When kids are treated unfairly, anger can help them stand up for themselves. The hard part is learning what to do with these strong feelings. Some people keep their anger buried deep inside. If you do this, you might get a headache or your stomach might start to hurt. You may just feel crummy about yourself or start to cry. It's not good to hide your anger, so you should find a way to let it out without hurting yourself or others.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
25 Mar 10
Thanks for the advice airakumar. I agree with you that anger should not be kept inside. It should be released for health reasons. I know people that suffer for keeping feelings inside. And it is not good. And thanks for dropping by.
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 10
Hai bounce.... I think I can hold it for a minute or two, It can be calm down or explode depending on how big is the frustration level. but usually I am being the latter one, I hold the problem inside, sometime people don't know if I mad with them
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
8 Mar 10
Hello nangisha. Thanks for responding. I hope that you learn to release this tension too once in a while, if you decide to hold it in. Aside from being unhealthy, I'm afraid some people will take advantage of you if you keep holding it in. Have a great day.
@kaylachan (4776)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Mar 10
I'm not that bad when it comes to temper. I can usually hold it in, but that tends to be a bit of a good and bad thing. Good when I have to answer phones, bad when I don't release the tension somehow. Either by posting blogging or snapping. I don't enjoy snapping so I try avoiding it.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
I know what you mean about not releasing the tension. I think it's unhealthy. But of course it is also not good to lash out all the time. Maintaining a balance is the key. Thanks for responding kaylachan.
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Hi, As I am a very patient person so most of the time, I will let things go. If someone really pushing me around too much then I would have some words with them but I just want to explain what is doing wrong and what is not. It is hard or deal with people are in anger cuz they won't understand you or listen to you at all. However, if someone really frustrating me then I will take a deep breath and be clam for a while, ask and listen to what they have to say to me. I dont keep thing in mind for too long cuz it is just an headache... I dont like to be like that and another thing that dis attracting me is watching tv or going out
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
Hi smileonstar. It is great that you can keep clam for a while. Thanks for responding.
@ET28LV (1895)
• Latvia
4 Mar 10
Hello bounce58! I can hold my breath about 1 minute and 45 seconds, i can do it because before 3 years i trained swimming for competitions. After that time i fell that i explode after some seconds, if i don't stop it. Fresh air and swimming drills helps improve time performances. If someone want set a new record, good luck!
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
Good for you! Thanks for the response.
• Romania
4 Mar 10
I know I can hold it in for about 5 minutes but when I do explode I do. I mean I can get really frustrated and annoyed and when i am annoyed I say many unwanted things and many offends to the one who annoyed me. I have recently tried to contro myself and I hope in the future I will be able to just shut up.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
It is still good to let it all out. I don't advice just shutting up, because I think it is unhealthy. I just hope that you'd learn to control it. Thanks for responding.
@sreesai (216)
• India
4 Mar 10
hi bounce, About breathing- I can be less than 45 seconds. when comes to anger, I will give the person for 2/3 times excuse for making me feel bad and for 4th time, I will make them realise their fault.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
Hello sreesai. Good on you that you have a good handle on your anger. And that you give people 2 or 3 excuses before you lash out. Thanks for responding.
@hotsht2 (71)
• United States
4 Mar 10
for me i have a pretty long "fuse". if its just an arguement, pretty much about anything i can handle it. if people get louder i just wait till they cool down and shut up for a minute and then i start talking. i try to make every arguement as short and sweet and to the point as possible. but its when someone starts to get in my face and get physical, thats when i lose it. i may be young, but im physically very strong, and sometimes i lose it when people get in my face. other then that, no problems, no worries.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
Hello hotsht2. First of all, welcome to myLot! I guess you're right. If somebody starts to get in my face, that's already crossing the line. In that case there is no fuse to talk about. That's already an invasion of personal space. I'll just start hitting and shouting at the same time if ever that happens.
@DOLLYBABY (2534)
• United States
4 Mar 10
i wish i was you! i personally cannot manage my anger...my anger always get the best of me all the time....i am the type to flare up immediately whenever i got angry at someone...and sometimes even when i got anger i destroy things if i can't get to take my anger out on the person...anything i catch i destroy...if i was right near that person i would probably be strangling them or something...my husband and family said i need anger management...i really think i do need it...but lately i am trying my best to take control of my anger but it's not something easy to do when others are me getting me ticked off.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
Hi Dollybaby. I don't know you personally, so I don't think I have the right to suggest that you go to anger management. Only you can answer that. If you feel that your flare ups are damaging relationships, not to mention things, I think that is something serious that you have to discuss with your husband. Anyway, whatever you decide, I wish you luck!
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Well If I had known that this discussion was about anger I'd've responded an hour ago. let me see, I think that it all depends on how stressed I am, and the situation at hand. Sometimes I can hold my anger in for a good while, while other times I don't get angry but depressed or sad and crying.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
5 Mar 10
I think being depressed or sad or crying is just having the anger bottled up inside you. I wish you don't do that often. I may not know a lot, but I know that that is not good. Specially if you already stressed out already. Happy thoughts to you and have a nice day!
• United States
4 Mar 10
I can hold it about 42 seconds. I think that's long enough to dive to get something and back?
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
4 Mar 10
Thanks gogierm4ge.