do you treat your girl child and boy child in the same manner?

@ksmita (482)
India
March 4, 2010 2:31pm CST
hi. in india , many parents wish for boy child as they think boy will take care of them at old age and grow their ancestral family name further. wish for boy is so strong that many parents kill the baby girl as soon as they take birth. in families we see more love and care is shown on boys . this kind of partial behaviour is common in many families. have you seen around such instances around you or do you unintentionally treat boy and girl child differently?
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@Hatley (164672)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Mar 10
ksmita you mean even now in 2010 they would kill a girl baby just because she is a baby? oh my no thats horrible. I know so many cultures do see boys as better than girls and I hate that as for one thing,if they tried to get rid of all girl babies who in the hell do they think is going to bring up the next generation. boys cannot produce babies only women can. and thats really sad. we do not treat boy babies and girl babies differently here in the US. they are both precious to their parents. I have never treated either of my kids when they were babies any differently ,I loved them both equally.
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@ksmita (482)
• India
5 Mar 10
do you think rural india is not part of india. oyou can watch the documentaries and read reports on net. its not the thing of past and what technology has to do with it!!!
• United States
5 Mar 10
Wow that is amazing that a mother and father could do that! But I have both a son and a daughter and when it comes to most things I treat them exactly the same. I show them the same amount of love. The only things that I treat them different with is with play and their roles. With my daughter I play dolls, and dress up and I dont rough house with her, because she is a little girl, and with my son, we play with trucks, dirt and everyone rough plays with him. Of course we dont tell them that they can not play with the other toys but that is the only difference that my family shows. No matter what gender they came out we would love them no matter what.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
5 Mar 10
It is awful to hear that in this day and age there are people that will kill a baby girl. As for me, I have both a son and a daughter and for the most part I treat them in very much the same manner. There are some things that are different about the way that I rear them, such as the fact that we can play rougher with Paul than with Kathryn. However, when it comes to love, affection, and attention they are both treated the same way.
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@GADHISUNU (2164)
• India
5 Mar 10
This is really sad but true. But my parents were not all that old fashioned. If they were a trifle harsh on my sis it is because she is gonna get married and go away and too much of love showered on her would make it difficult for her get adjusted to her in-laws, or husbands home. It is a lot of prudence to make a girl child feel uncomfortable at mother's place hence she find that her husbands place is a better place to stay. Thoughthe killing of the girl child is beig practised in many families in India and undoubtedly is the most barbaric and cruel practice, the general showing of difference in love is more because they want their girls to not bring a bad name to the family. Now, why do you think of this? If it is an educated family such things or not happening, and girls are not taking it lying down either. Today's educated girls are more aware of their rights. But true in villages where personalities are warped from to early ages, one may be finding some discriminatory behavior. But surveys say that women from the villages are also asserting themselves now. If you ask me I owuld say the cozy Indian Family is a thing of the past. We are seeing the ill-effects of westernization.