Being a Mistress is Great!

@fianne (1059)
United States
March 5, 2010 8:19am CST
Well, i have read this somewhere in a site, the lady is chinese i forgot the site name, somwhat with a china at first with some continuations... YOu can look it up on yahoo (that's where i found it). The lady thinks that being a mistress is great because she is able to do what she needs to do and she was being pampered like a queen by the guy. She said she goes to school with much allowance, goes to party whenever she wants, she even has car given to her and she goes shopping 5x a week! I think that's crazy because being a mistress is always terrible. Not that good in everywhere i lokked at it. How can I say it? Because I was one before for a short time and it was really terrible. I was doubting all the time, my self-esteem is getting low and I am not able to concentrate with day to day activities because I am thinking that I am only econd in his life.
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@frissph (130)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
I think the only women who'd be attracted and enjoying this kind of set up are gold diggers, they're only in it for the money anyway which that girl from the article seems to be taking advantage of and is enjoying. I have a friend who is a mistress and it caused her much grief. The guy kept telling her that he'll break up with his wife and stay with her but it didn't happen in the end so she ended up heartbroken because of it
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@fianne (1059)
• United States
12 Mar 10
yes, i think so too. you'll just keep on trusting and hoping and believing what you are being told and promised. you never see the reality because of your feelings. thinking a lot can really be good over choosing your feelings especially if you're in such a situation.
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
5 Mar 10
Well this type of person may be getting material items that are good to her for the time being and that is okay with her. Somewhere down the line she may face the harsh reality of having such behaviors may cost her more than the material items she acquired.I mean she may have been hurt, she may not know what she wants, or she is just caught up that her body and companionship will get her what she needs and could careless of what others think of her. These individuals that engage in activities or are entertained by her presence have their own issues as well. Where is the safety issued being addressed? No one can change a person, they have to do this on their own. She may be with one guy but how many people has he done this with? Is she only admitting it is only one guy? I wonder how long this will last? Take care.
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• Philippines
7 Mar 10
i guess the girl just overwhelm with all the things she received from the guy. shes more into material things than love and respect. as of now perhaps he can make her happy and give her every thing coz shes still young, pretty and fun to be with, but how about if the guy become so tired of her, he can just simply go and she will left behind. anyway, i cant blame those kind of people as its their life but then somehow they will still realize that having their own family is still best specially if they are getting old already.
@kaylachan (4776)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
6 Mar 10
While it may not sound like much to you, in other cultures the word "mistress" can mean different things. The term itself isn't all that bad, and to top it off you have those who are so low on the self-confidence scale as long as they get perks and can do as they please, they could care less. You have to understand first and farmost that not everything you read about is bad. Not every term has a single meaning. cultures are different, and meanings of words change with them.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
For me that situation is very hard to deal specially the child of you husband is not behave in you and don't like you to be there mother for what she told I'm in neutral situation of that.
@machivado (529)
• Indonesia
6 Mar 10
I don't know about that. I'm just a normal guy although my father has a top position where he's working. But still I believe being wealthy is much better than being poor where you have to endure your hunger, making money only enough to eat not to mention about your family. Personally, I hate rich people who don't care about poor people.. They make this world unbalanced!
@Hatley (164670)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Mar 10
fianne well if all that Chinese lady wanted was lots of stuff and money fine for her, there's a number of ugly words that describe her, but gold digger is sure one of them.She evidently has no conscious or it would tear her apart knowing shes trying to break up a good marriage, and again this simpleton does not realize her sugar daddy never intended to divorce his wife at all,not at all. poor foolish woman.She will forever be second in his life and who wants to be second. sad but true. You are a wise person to realize that it was terrible to be in that situation. Hope now that life is good for you.