I wish I had a closer relationship with my sisters!

@CarmenA (129)
United States
March 5, 2010 3:24pm CST
Sometimes I feel so saddened by the fact that my sisters do not ever choose to talk to me very much, and that we never confide in each other about anything serious in our lives. I have 3 sisters. I am nearly 27, my younger sister is 23, and my two older sisters are 31 and 33. Maybe things could have been different between us if I had not had a drug problem since I was about 19 to age 25. I missed out on a lot during that time. They all have childeren except me. I'm not sure if maybe they don't trust me or if they don't have faith that I will stay away from the drugs. I have always been different from them..but I have always loved them, and they love me.. I just wish we knew each other better and could talk about anything. I moved 500 miles away from 2 of them..about 200 miles away from the oldest, and I do not have any friends besides my boyfriend..and the two of us have been having problems. I don't have anyone to talk to and I don't really know how to reach out. I feel like they look at me differently than they look at each other. They would listen to me, and give me advice but the closeness is still missing I think. I wish we had more of a friendship where we could talk each day. Or maybe this is just the way things are meant to be. Any comments on this?
3 responses
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
I have only one sister whose older than me and I have a close relationship with her ever since were small. She's 24 and I'm 23. However, she's far away from me. I work in another part of our country and she is studying to become a doctor. Even though she's always busy with medical school, we still communicate with each other through facebook or we call each other. I think it's never to late to start building your relationship with your sisters. Blood is thicker than water. If you start even in just smaller steps, you'll eventually be closer. Start by calling them or inviting them to dinner/lunch. Or if you have a hobby, invite them to do that with you but if you don't, find one that you think all of you will enjoy. Then talk to them about what you feel. I know they'll listen because they're your family. Eventually, things will get better. :)
@CarmenA (129)
• United States
8 Mar 10
That's really great that you and your sister are so close. That's nice. thanks for the advice!
@pierrella (1088)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
Hi Carmena, Don't worry, you have your mylotter friends to confide in :D Anyway, your situation is very difficult but circumstance made it that way. You had problems before and that made your relationship with your sisters weak. Have you talked to them? Constant communication is important. Of course you have to visit them from time to time. Check out on them and ask how they are doing. For sure, they've already forgotten what happened before. The thing to do now is to patch things up. Catch up with them and talk to them regularly :) Have you considered moving closer to them?
@CarmenA (129)
• United States
6 Mar 10
Hey pierrella.. I try to talk to them regularly. We keep in touch more so by facebook and texting. However, if there is one of us to call on the phone, I am the one usually to do. My older sister will call sometimes.. But it seems I am always the one making the contact..that's what hurts my feelings too. Well, I can't really move closer right now. I live with my bf. I did go home to see them on Christmas though. I was really great seeing them and all my nieces and nephews.
• India
6 Mar 10
hii i am toufiq patel from idia,maharastra in aurangabad. i know that if us sister when not talk with us so we fill very bad. But i dont fill bad because i dont have sister. in my lot i have made some new sister but they are also not talking with us.