break up

@skbh12 (2950)
Philippines
March 7, 2010 9:46pm CST
it has been past 1 month and 3 weeks already since i had my break up experience with my boyfriend. we both ended up talking and agreed to give each one space from each other and give him time to think things over before deciding to get back into the said relationship or not. i would like to know how long does it take for a man to realize certain things whether he wants to win her woman back or not? does it take forever? know i am clueless about things but i thank God somehow that we both ended up good friends. it is just that it felt like i am hanging and clueless with what is about to happen. thanks for taking time reading my post. hoping for happiness in anything that may occur to my life.
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@rachel999 (211)
• India
8 Mar 10
Hi Skbh, It totally depends on person to person, we cannot say for all men, it would be wrong on our behalf to say that. If you are still friends with your ex boy friend you should talk to him directly and ask him, if you think asking him is not good for yourself, then try to judge him and see if he has moved on or is he still not sure, if he has moved on, chances are very bright for that, then I guess you need to also move on and explore your options, life is for moving on, with or without pain.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hi rachel999! yeah i know i myself have to move on. i am starting it already i guess. wanting to have a peaceful heart and a peaceful mind.
• India
8 Mar 10
Hi Skbh, my personal experience says, try and avoid him as a friend also because whenever he will have a girlfriend around him in the coming time, you will smile to both of them but inside you will break harder and feel more frustrated with the whole issue and there in another problem, maybe unknowingly when you are jealous, you will just date any guy to get over this pain, but in the long run that may also not work for you, so the best thing is avoid him, concentrate on your work and leave the rest on god. Good Luck & God Bless
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
i know. you are right about this but i made a decision that i'll wait till he comes back. what if he decides to win me back and i engaged in a new relationship. i don't want to have regrets in life. if ever he finds a new girl to replace me then i will have to accept it. i know it will hurt me badly but this will be a good start for me to really look for a man of my own. i don't know if you call this stupid love or being martyr. it may hurt me badly but i have decided to take this part.
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
i do not know how long for a man to realize that. but based on my experience if the man does loves you very much then he wont take much time to back you again. with my experience with my boyfriend. we have been broke up for 2 weeks and i never stop to text him and email him. but you know what i do to bring him back to me and to miss me that much. i never text him and email him for 3 days. so you know what he do. at the middle of my sleep he called me up. so then it goes. our relationship is in good terms again. my advice for you is to keep distance from your ex, do not text him or call him or see him so that he could realize how he misses you and loves you.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hi krinel! that is what i did for the past 3 days too and he also said to my friends and cousin that he misses me so much. but im too scared if he would think of coming back to my life. sigh..
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
dont be scared girl. just give him a time to realize that. i know he will come back to you. this is the most effective advice that i get from my friends and i did it too. dont forget to pray. nothing is impossible with god. i see myself to you when it happen to me. and i want that both of you to come back to each others arms.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
im scared. right now i am very clueless about a lot of things. i do want him back and i want to win him back so badly but how long will this take me. huhuhu..
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
If you both decided to give each other a space then give it at least time so that both of you could take and go for the right choice. based on my own experienced, when we both agreed for "cool off" we considered it as break-up, AFTER then never see each other again.. both had move on, and found another love after few months, then when Our eyes met at the campus,. he smiled at me and so did I.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
yeah we both are giving each other space and time to think but i hope we still end it in a good way. not into something like not seeing each other. i still have high hopes and i hope everything will turn out well.
@jugsjugs (13046)
9 Mar 10
I think that if you had problems back in your relationship yet could not sort them out then,why do you think that you maybe able to sort them out in the future.I think that no matter how long people have been in a relationship for if there have been problems aswell as break ups then there are going top be doubts in both of your minds to if things will work out ok.Good luck,but do not leave it too long before you try to talk and sort what ever the problems are.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
sigh. hope everything will be okay. i thought i am okay. i thought everything is fine but i was wrong.
@scja16 (323)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
It shows that you love him that much and I can only say that there are no basis on how long because if you will rush him, it may end up loosing the relationship. Just let him take his time to think of the situation in God's plan if he is really meant for you then God will find a way to him to let him know how important you are to him. So i think for now, the best thing you can do while waiting is to be more of yourself, love yourself more so that it will be easy for some to love you back. Show him that you are still there for him and if in the long run that wont change the situation at least you can say to your self that you did your part and you just love a person. Be positive...Maybe this week, everything will be alright..
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
hi scja16! you are right that is why i am so hesitant to talk about these things with him. i want him to think about things hard so that when he finally makes a decision then it will be right for me to know what the real score is. sigh. hoping for a good ending but i know it is not good to expect too much for me not to get hurt and all.
• Singapore
8 Mar 10
hello skbh... i have boyfriend too. the word break up, sound is very cruel. i and my boyfriend often quarrel too. the think is we must understand from both side. normally we take some times to think but not less than one day. try to understand and do not keep so much time that normally we do. i want everything come back like normal. love is not a game where you can fall in love easily or you forget them easily. love is about giving. its depend on man to realize certain things, but if he do love you, i am sure he will try to keep the relationship. both side must try talk slowly, do not let it too long.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
sigh.. hoping for happiness. hoping everything will be back where it should be.
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
i guess it depends to him, if he found another girl then im sure he will going to be busy with the girl first then he will make comparison that your still the best then thats the only time he can realize that he needs you more and so he will try to win you back but if he enjoyed being with the girl then you will be totally out from his life. so instead of waiting if he will win you back then try to move on, go out with friends, open with another possible love, go out for a date so you will forget him.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
hi homeshoppers! for now i don't want to date with anyone else. sigh. maybe it broke my heart that badly that aside from waiting for the final decision maybe i want to enjoy life for the meantime with friends and family... thanks for the advice... hoping for a happy ending though. sigh..
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
It depends on how you guys feel for each other, he will be back if his love for you is immeasurable