my parents compare me to my brother!

Philippines
March 9, 2010 1:08am CST
sorry guys. I just want to let go of my emotions. It's like he's always good at everything and they were like always praising him. And I think no matter what I do, I can't be better.
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@besthope44 (12146)
• India
12 Aug 10
Well its just way to encourage you and never go down.
@Dumpertaker (1189)
9 Mar 10
I am the eldest of 6, and every time they do something good, they always say to me "why can't you be like them? You being the eldest, you should be a good example to them!" That's all very well and good, but when I am medically retired due to ill health and cannot do half the things they are able to do, it makes it a very unfair and unjust judgement.
@intelpink (163)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
I had that emotions too but I changed my perspective. It's effective if you try it. First thing I did was to love my parents by showing them that I care and love them through obedience and I don't expect anything in return. I started to show care and concern to my brother and think of him as my brother and not an opponent. Since then, I had a different emotion and I enjoyed being a child of my parents more than before because I discovered that true love is understanding everyone without any condition.
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
i am sorry to hear that. can you see yourself in your brother's shoes? maybe he is also feeling the same. i know it feels bad when you are compared with somebody. maybe your parents are insensitive on your part, but you can tell them how you feel. you can't stop fire when you don't use water to put it off. so you have to do something to put off the fire. this is a challenge for you to improve.
@saanjh (784)
• India
9 Mar 10
It's a normal think my friend because my parent's also every time praising me that my brother is good compare then me my friend I can say that our five figer's are not same so how ca we. try to achieve your goal.
@common_man (1799)
• India
9 Mar 10
Hi friend, never underestimate yourself. Comparision is aleways not good for healthy relationship. No two poeple are identical. Some body will be good in some aspects while other may be better in other aspects. U must be better in some respect then your bro and he may be better in some aspect. U know friend, Parents always wish that their kids should be perfect in all aspects, So some Parents always point out how somethingis done better by others, may be bro or friend. The intention behind it is they hope you will also lear to do the same thing in better way then u do right now. Look at their intentions, learn whatever u can learn from good habits/things of your BRo. And Above all keep a positive attitude. U will go ahead, much ahead in your life. Best of Luck friend cheer up!
• India
9 Mar 10
No my dear friend never let your self down ok nobody is greater and if your parents treat like this and tell them that we girls are also doing best things in this world and try to proof your self in front of your parents ok.