online love

United States
March 9, 2010 11:16pm CST
Can an online relationship turn into something real ? We are great online, I love talking to him and when i'm not talking to him I wish I was. Should I just take a leap of faith and meet him ? What are your opinions ? I don't care so much that its online, when you click with someone, you click. But its moving fast but I feel i can't ignore our connection.
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@olydove (1209)
• United States
19 Mar 10
Hi Kate, well indeed online love can become real. There are certain precautions to be taken though. While you are emotionally in lust right now and feel a connection do remember you haven't met this person and have no idea what his life is really like. I'm now married to my online love so please know I am speaking from experience. I went though big heart ache though with another situation before my husband, when I found out that the earlier online "crush" I had was actually married and had 4 kids, he had been lying to me for 8 months! It can happen and the sooner you meet this person the better, because then you will know for certain who it is you are talking with and getting involved with, and if there is any reason for this not to go any further you will find out sooner thus it will be less traumatic of a let down. Good tips. 1: Very important-Make sure you meet in a public well populated and well lit place. 2: Bring a friend with you to the meeting if possible 3: While you will be excited to finally meet him in person do remember to be reserved, we as women do have a tendency to get too emotionally involved too fast and thus lose our common sense. Try to remember your common sense. I'm not saying don't be excited, please do just be careful too. 4: Last but not least write his name, email address, age, if he has profiles on sites include one or two of those as well as the time and place you are going to meet, and if you can print a picture of him if you have one to print. Leave that with someone you trust so that if anything were to happen authorities would have information to go on! I know an online romance can be very exciting and you can for sure get attached. People always say "How can you possibly get attached to something you don't know, have never met blah blah" but the truth is, when you spend so much time chatting, talking on the phone etc.. to the point where you started chatting with him at 6 p.m. and before you know it,.. it's 2 in the morning you can get very emotionally involved. Not to mention some guys just know how to say the right things at the right time LOL so it can be tricky. I wish you the best of luck and please do keep us posted I'd love to know how it turns out
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• United States
19 Mar 10
Thank you so much. That is exactly how it is. We talk for hours I think out shortest has been 3 and as many as 5. We never run out of things to say. We are supposed to meet soon, I'm very nervous. I would like to wait a little longer but I know he will get upset. and think I don"t trust him. I just really want to make sure that nothing happens that I'm not ready for, and I don't trust myself. I'll keep you posted. Hope my love turns into something great like yours did.
• Canada
19 Mar 10
Wow! Great response olydove ... you have a ton of great ideas there! I especially like your last idea (#4) and it's a shame not everyone that meets someone from online does that because sometimes a bad situation can come up! Hopefully nothing bad happens to Kate and she keeps us posted and does all of your suggestions (especially #4) just incase!
@binagupta (628)
• India
10 Mar 10
I think yes because it happen with one of my friend and their relation is going smoothly she has a good experience and they really love each other.
• United States
10 Mar 10
I really appreciate everyones responses, Its allot to think about. I'm new to mylot and I'm so happy I have a whole new source opinions, and advice to look too . thank you
@mhaibless (210)
• United States
26 Apr 11
I met my husband online. It doesn't really matter where you find love, when your heart beats it beats for someone you love. But it really requires a lot of care since its a long distance love affair. And the secret of love is to love without getting tired.
• Philippines
28 May 10
Yes, it can. I can prove it because it was based on my experience. My fiancée and I met online. The key there is the feeling you have for each other. It doesn't matter if you met online, as long as you really love each other. It maybe moving fast but if you can't keep up, all you have to do is do it at your own pace. Chat online, phone calls, go out and see a movie. Get to know him more, meet him personally and spend more time with him. And if he really loves you, he will respect you, understand you and adjust to you. Remember love comes from the HEART ONLY. =)
• Canada
19 Mar 10
Hi kate! I personally have never experienced anything like that (love online), but just because I haven't doesn't mean it can't happen! If you really think that the time is right then I would say go for it, but definite;y try to meet him in a public place! That way if anything were to happen their would be whitnesses! Please keep us posted, good luck, and be careful!
@mhaibless (210)
• United States
19 Mar 10
Hi kate, I can relate to you. I met my boyfriend online and now planning to settle down. We been talking for almost a year now. And I met him last January. We've been friends for 4 months. Then we fall in love, and we waited for a few minutes to determine if its really love of infatuation. Sometimes, its hard to identify the infatuation and love. But as long as the days fast by you will learn if you truly love him. Online love requires a lot of time to cultivate in to grow.
• United States
10 Mar 10
My daughter's brother-n-law met his wife online. They have been married for 9 years and have one daughter. So yes it can happen. But proceed with caution. Remember,meeting on line is really just a one way conversation, so you really don't know the person.
@xxlost (59)
• China
10 Mar 10
online ,is not true,if you want to meet offline then i think you need to ready for this specially appointment. some times i am not believe the love online.
• India
10 Mar 10
I don't believe in all this on line love because its all fake and i really don't even our own betrays us how can we believe in all those thing so my dear friends beware of this on line love.