Can anyone accept any of their parrent's affair?

@Alivia (47)
India
March 10, 2010 1:57am CST
I have a friend whose father expired when she was in class viii.Now she is in college.Her mother bears many problems to grew her up.Now my friend think her mother has had some affair but for her sake she can't marry him or may for the matter of age .So what should she do she has a mixed feelings.she loves her mom very much.she always worries for her mother of remaining alone after her marriage but she is also can't accept this.So what's your suggestion?
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@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
10 Mar 10
Alivia, I think your friend needs to address a few issues with her mother and one of them would be her perception that her mother is having an affair. I feel that a lot of her negativity is being centered around the ill conceived idea that her mother is involve in something shameful and illicit. In the first place, her father had already passed away and on the other hand her mother may be just having a casual relationship without anything else. So, this is the area she will really have to sit down to have a talk and clear things up. It is no point harboring on negative second guesses and create a communication barrier between them. This is only right as her mother had already been sensitive to her and avoided developing her relationship with her partner further. So, your friend owes it to her mother to talk things over and clear the air. Have a nice day.
@Alivia (47)
• India
10 Mar 10
yes u are right i have also told her to talk with her mother but she is much worried for her mother saying that if her guess goes false then some kind of misunderstand may arise in their relationship. Thanks..
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• Singapore
10 Mar 10
Alivia, Lao Tzu once said: “If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.” You can always set some role playing posers for her and ask her to think in her mother's shoes. I do not think there's anything her mother would not understand or not accept from her own daughter. Your friend should not have that pressure of keeping things to herself. For goodness sake, this is her own mother who gave birth to her and loves her, what is it that she would not understand coming out from her own daughter? She just have to make an effort and take the first step to talk. “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” - Lao Tzu
@advokatku (4037)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 10
married again it is a choice .... a lot of people re-think to get married again, one reason is because the trauma to the previous marriage ... married again it is a choice .... a lot of people re-think to get married again, one reason is because the trauma to the previous marriage