How do you forgive yourself?

Hello, This is the single most difficult thing a human can do to himself. Do you know why? Because what you are saying is more than just human, its divine. We can't forgive ourselves mainly because our ego gets hurt in a process. It bleeds and never seems to heal. Ego and attachment is the root cause of all misunderstanding and sorrow. The only way out would be through reasoning yourself properly. An absolute faith always helps in this process. If you have one you have extra advantage. Faith is more effective than logic as per as the healing and forgiving process is concerned. Step 1: Ask yourself what exactly you did? What actually went wrong? Why is it that you are taking so long to forgive yourself? Be introspective and for sometime just forget the whole world as if it never existed. Step 2:You have to fully understand that as a human being you have every right to be imperfect. You are imperfect and so is he. God knows it all. That is why he always forgives one who shows sincere repentance. Step 3:You know that looking back won't help, don't you? Looking back always prevents you from doing the justice to your own future. We either live in past, mourning or, we stay in future, daydreaming. This is exactly when we start ignoring the present. One charm of past is that its past.Seriously consider this. Step 4:Now, that everything has been said and done, there is no way you can just reverse it. What you can do is that you can take an oath not to commit the same mistake again. You can do it in front of your partner. But it is more important to ask do it in front of God. Ask forgiveness and be sure that he will be the first to forgive you. Step 5: Your sincere repentance has already cleansed your soul. That is the best thing you could do. You are pardoned. You have to believe that there is nothing that happens without the consent of God, we are just being instrument to serve his purpose. We really don't have enough intellect to analyze his decision. So having faith in it and depending on it is the best we could do. Sometimes we face situations that seem bitter and unbearable, but as time goes by, we realize for certain that this incident actually happened for good. Have faith in him. Surrender everything to him. He is the one who saves you, like he always did. Get rid of the ego and have some discussions with wise and strong people. You can also think about talking to your partner, but only if you have already got rid of your ego. Otherwise, it would be severely hurt again. God bless you

Acceptance. And then moving on, with the knowledge that the same mistake or experience will not be repeated again. I think it's important to forgive ourselves once in awhile, just like we are forgiving in nature towards others. Time is the essence sometimes.

Well, I think one should understand the importance of forgiveness. It sounds easy. And it can be. In order to forgive yourself you need to practice. Forgiving yourself is also important for those in your sphere of influence. It is a well-known fact that hurting people hurt others. The longer you avoid forgiving yourself, the longer you allow yourself to harbor the feelings that you deserve to suffer for what you did, the more explosive you will become and, therefore, the more apt you are to hurt others.

Hi Dawn, thank you for accepting FR. I have never been in a relationship, so I cant really answer this. But yes, I have my share of sins. I dont think I have forgiven myself completely for them. I try to ensure that I dont repeat the same mistakes. Everytime I take a correct step, I feel that guilt diminishes a little.

Forgiveness is a tall order. I've been working on forgiving for years now, and just when I think I've got it, it comes back again. So, it's an ongoing project at best, regardless whether it is anger at yourself or another. This said, I've been kind of following a Chinese spiritual master this past year, and he outlined a forgiveness practice that I have found to be powerful and helpful. Basically, you call in the souls of all those whom you have hurt, harmed, taken advantage of, etc. You apologize sincerely and ask their forgiveness. (You can start by asking for assistance from whatever spiritual higher beings you are drawn to, Jesus, Buddha, angels, etc. This does help.) Thank them for their forgiveness. Release them to go on their way. I always invite them to stay and join my forgiveness practice, and many of them do. Then, we do the flip side. We call in the souls of those whom we need to forgive. We do our best to sincerely forgive them. It may not happen the first time, but as you keep doing this, you will find that you are making progress. Thank them for coming and courteously send them on their way. Thank the higher beings who assisted you and release them. As for your anger at yourself for your mistakes, apologize to the one you hurt, if you can, or call in their soul and do this. Realize that on any given day you did the best you could. Remember that all of us down here on this planet are seriously flawed, there isn't a perfect one among us, and if you were perfect, you wouldn't be here on this wonderful planet. You'd probably be off floating around on a cloud somewhere, or whatever it is perfect beings do. And don't be harder on yourself than you would be to a good friend. Okay?

that's a tall order, dawnald. people don't usually forgive themselves, directly that is. they try to compensate, even right a wrong they have committed. and that's that. forgiving finds more substance in the act, not the fact... and in trying to right a wrong committed, you don't seek nor need an approval...

Hi dawnald, It’s time to say good bye for No passion anymore after knowing each other too well It’s extremely difficult or impossible at all to shake away the same chronic mistakes that recommit again and again... It’s not bad we are still good friend Happy posting

chalk it up to experience and throw myself into something else (a trip,crafts,whatever) not to think of it. a plug solution,but it allows you to find your levels eventually. even things that suck at the time add up to a better future you. that's like they say if you could go back in time,would you change anything? no..because i wouldn't be the me of now.and i like me

hi dawnald I was only in one relationship and for good and bad it lasted forty three years. the only thing that I felt was on me was that I did not get to say that final goodbye to my dying husband, but I did one thing that comforted me the night before we hugged and I told him I loved him so he went to heaven at least knowing I still loved him. My relationship with my dad was bad, very bad and he brought it on himself, He broke all moral and legal laws when he molested me even just once at the very young age 8. and I did not forgive him for many years. it was at my husbands urging that I did finally forgive him, but I did it more for me, as the hate was making me physically ill, so by telling him I forgave him, it took the burden off my shoulders and I felt so much freer. But I never could find that love I had as a child, and I do know you should honor your mother and father. now I am still confused at my old age as to how to feel towards a man who ruined my childhood, and betrayed everything I had felt for him. And he still thought when I was thirty and wanted to marry, that he had any right to stop me from marrying the man I loved even though I was an adult so he thought he would fix me. He wrote me out of his will , and I told him so what. I will marry the man I love. and I did. My dad was furious but still he did help us to get started, mostly because my mother sort of forced him too. I did not love my father , and I feel guilt as all people should love their parents.

What is done is done & u can't change it friend. Life goes on , don't orry about it.

Time, give yourself time. And remember that to attract the type of people you want to get to know you need to become that type of person. Join a church, a club or take a couple of classes. A new hobby can often bring you into contact with new people. Just relax and enjoy this period of your life with the faith that what will come your way is just what you need. That is the way life works and if you look back on all the mistakes you think you have made you will see the lessons that were there for you. Blessings