should i take a leave from work because i am pregnant?

Philippines
March 10, 2010 9:51pm CST
i am turning 7 months pregnant now and my husband who is away for work would always call and convince me to leave from work for a while so i could take rest and earn strength as my big day is approaching. he is always worried about my condition and check how i felt with my pregnancy everytime. i would always tell him that i could still manage myself and besides my work is not that stressful that i don't tire myself most of the time. his worries is that i travel from house to office and everyday and i wake up too early, which is 7:00am already,lol! he knows that waking up early is one of the things that really stress me out! he even asked me to stop from work upon learning my pregnancy but i refused. i could not stay home and wait for his allotment, besides that i have a daughter from my previous relationship to support, i am not used to just staying home and having no income of my own. and now, he would not stop convincing me to leave from work for a while. i am happy with my work now and very contented with it, reason i don't want to leave not until i deliver the baby. but i know i have to listen to him too. i am torn between being a wife and a working mom. what do you think should i do? should i consider his reasons for him to stop worrying about me or just follow what i want because i'm feeling great besides that my tummy is getting bigger everyday.lol!
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• United States
12 Mar 10
if my fiancee was i would have her leave only if you had enough money
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• Philippines
12 Mar 10
my husband told me that if my worries is about my salary, he will be the one to pay it for me. but i don't think that's an issue, the thing is i don't want to stay home and get bored.
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• India
12 Mar 10
i have gone through your cocern about your sitting idle m at home and at the same time you want to keep your relationship good with your husband by accepting your hubby"s advice. my sicere advice is that u listen to your heart. your husband is showing concern towards you , this is good. by making your self happy..........will be good to you and your baby. you can easily convince your hubby.tell him wat matters more is your feelings..about being busy n happy at this time of pregnancy. i am an experienced father of two daughters.......and husband of a happy wife. satish
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• Philippines
12 Mar 10
wow! at least i get it from a father and a husband's point of view. i know my husband will understand me, as he is trying to understand me now. i told him that i will only stop working two weeks before my due date and he has no reply about it yet, as he already wants me to stop working right now. we are entitled for a one year indefinite leave from work, and that's what he would always tell me, for he said he can support our needs, with my child and the coming of our newborn. but my concern is that i might get bored to have nothing to do at home for the next two months. i know he will consider my feelings as i am happy with what i am doing now. thank you once again.
• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
I think you must take a leave from your work..I agree with your husband,because your pregnant is very important..have a baby is the best moment in your life..you must take a break,consumption good food,enough nutrition for your baby..happy nice day..thank,s
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@jambi462 (4599)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I think that you could continue working until you get closer to actually giving birth if you truly felt like it. You should know your body and be able to tell whether or not you need the rest. After you give birth though I would recommend a break from work for a while to make a full recovery. Plus so you could get some time to spend with the beautiful new little being you'll be bringing into the world. If your boyfriend seems to be genuinely concerned about you still working while getting closer to your big day then maybe I would take his advice because he just wants to make sure that his beautiful mother is doing as well as she can and his new born to be as well. All he wants is to make sure that you are safe and not in pain. Congratulations on having a new baby when you have it!
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
thank you for that wonderful response my friend. yeah, i still feel good working at this age of my pregnancy, i am afraid i'll get bored when i will just stay home and wait for my baby to be delivered. though, we planned that when i already give birth to our baby, i will leave from work for four months. i am working in a national government office here in the Philippines, and we are entitled for an indefinite leave of 1 year, but i find it too long to be consumed. so i decided to be back at work after my baby is already four months old, and my husband agrees to that. it's just that at present, he already want me to leave from work when i am still capable of doing it. i understand him, as he is really concerned with us of the baby especially that he is far from us. he wanted to make sure that we are always safe.
@Jeineh (23)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
Maybe you should stop working now. your in a 3rd trimester and it might be harmful to your baby if you don't stop working plus you may be exposed to many microorganisms that can affect your pregnancy.doing strenuous activity can cause you a premature delivery anytime.
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
i am working at the department of labor and employment office here in our city. the office deals with the labor laws and see to it that every employee is enjoying all their rights. my boss are so considerate with my situation right now that they don't give me too much work load. so that my job is not really stressful, plus our house is just 10 minutes away from my office, so i find no reason to be alarmed with mine and my baby's condition. i am afraid i'll be happy if i'll just stay home and do nothing at all. thank you for your response.
• Bulgaria
11 Mar 10
I think that if you feel good and the doctor sees no reasons to not go to work, you can go. But there may be a moment when you'll feel it's hard to you to go to work and that will make you very tired. Then it's better to stay at home. I went to work until 7.5 month. But at the end I really had to make efforts to work and that made me exausted. Actually I thought it's normal to be more tired than when you're not pregnant and didn't pay much attention at this. My child came 1 month earlier. So now I think it was a mistake to continue to go to work when I felt so tired. For a future pregnancy I'd be more careful.
• Bulgaria
11 Mar 10
Here the doctor is obligated to give you a list to stay at home 45days before your termin
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
thank you for the response friend. with my case, my doctor says that it's still ok for me to go work as i have no problem with my heath and i feel good about myself. but if i get tired at the end of my seventh month, she would advise me to stop working for a while.
@jimmysun (401)
• China
12 Mar 10
if you feel not tired while you are working, just go to work (do some easy work)and keep in good mood...but remember you must be stop working and be in home in the last 2 weeks before the big day(in my country the office ladies who pregnant do like this...and after baby coming, they will have 3-4 months maternity leave...),your husband's advice should be consider carfully, he so think of you and your baby...so go ahead and take the advice...not only for you but for your coming baby and your husband...
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
yep, most of the time, i don't really felt tired with my work. it is not too stressful and i could handle it well. that's what i am also planning, for me to stop from work 2 weeks before my expected due date and i will be on leave 4 months after i deliver our baby. we are entitled for a 1 year indefinite leave from work, but i find it too long to just stay home. i am afraid it will make me bored. so my husband agreed that i will be back for work four months after i deliver our baby. thank you for the advice my friend.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Mar 10
I think it's up to you and how you feel and what your doctor says. If you really want to continue working and he doesn't want you to, maybe you can find a compromise? Work part time or stop working at 8 months or something like that?
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
yep, i guess i need to compromise, but i want to stop working just 2 weeks before my due date. i hop he will agree me with that. but i need to leave from work four months after i deliver our baby. and i could go back to work after that. thank you for the response my friend.
@mrsl2008 (635)
11 Mar 10
It's a difficult situation, If you feel fine & there is no reason for you to stop just yet, then don't. I worked until 7 days before I was due to give birth however she was 10 days late!! The maternity laws here are different, thay have to keep your job open for so long & you receive a state benefit after a certain time frame. If I wanted to I could have had 9 months off however we could not afford to do that so I went back when my youngest was only 4 months old It isn't too bad though as it works well as I work shifts as does my husband & we have an older child. You need to do what is best for you & your baby, your husband sounds like he will support you if you choose to leave but you need to be happy with that decision otherwise you'll be unhappy!! All the best with the little one & whatever you decide MrsL x x
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
same with our labor laws here in the philippines, we are entitled for a one year indefinite leave if we want to, but i find it too long so i ask my husband if i could go back to work four months after i deliver our baby, and he agrees with me. i am afraid i'll get bored to stay long at home. i am not used to it. i love working and i enjoy the work that i have right now. i am happy that he said yes with it. but for now that i am still 7 months pregnant, i guess i have to continue my work not until i am 2 weeks before my expected due date. thank you for the response my friend.
@dreamnishu (1253)
• China
11 Mar 10
Yes you should take a leave from work. As it's a risky time. You should not move so much. Should be very careful. But don't stop to move. You should walk. Then baby will be more fine. So take a leave from work and enjoy with your tummy by seeing it. Have a good day dear!
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
my work does not require too much energy and i don't find it stressful. i am a secretary to our assistant regional director and she's also a mother. so i am very comfortable with my work with her. i think, i have to stop from my work when i am already 2 weeks before my expected due date. thank you for the response my friend.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
Hi churchill when I was pregnant with my little boy, I worked until 6 months of pregnancy..because my husband worried bout my conditions.and you know what??? I regret it after all, after quitting my job and just stay at home makes me more stressful he he. It's a good exercise if you'll work until your tummy get 9 months. The reason why husband worried bout their pregnant wife cos they care and love us So I think it depends on you, if you want your hubby to stop worrying bout you?? specially he is working far from you.. then better take a leave and just stay at home
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
that's what i am also worried about, i am afraid i might get bored if i leave from work this early and just stay home. he said i could do a lot of things when i am still at home, i could prepare the baby's things and all that stuff, but i am already done with that.like you with your husband, i really felt his concern and love for us of his baby. i think, i will only stop from work when i am about 2 weeks before my expected due date. thank you for the great response my dear..
• India
11 Mar 10
Yes my friend you must in care of your sweet child you must get rest in this condition you must think only this not on work because you can for whole long life but these days it is just miracle
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
thank you for the response..yeah, i think i have to consider his advices, not until i'll be two weeks before my due date. i never felt anything unusual besides the pregnancy discomforts that i have..and i could still manage my work, it is not too stressful, my boss who is also a mother would always consider my condition before giving me any task to work for.
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
11 Mar 10
here where i am in canada, you can take a year off work and they have to hold your job for you. you get about 75 percent of your wages given to you by the government. its not a bad deal really but after you are off a year, you have to go back to work (unless you quit).
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
it's the same here in the Philippines, especially that i am working in a national government agency. we are entitled for a 1 year of indefinite leave. but i find it too long to be consumed. i am afraid i might get bored to just stay home. i am used into working since i am 18 years old. after i'll give birth to my baby, my husband and i agreed that i will be off from work for four months to take care and enjoy the moments with my newborn.
@humairaku (2040)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 10
I think it's good for you to stop working when your womb is 8 months. cos It's too bad for woman who is being pregnant to have hard work. beside, if you keep working, of course it's bad also if you have to deliver your baby on the way home or work (I mean you deliver baby in a bad place not in a hospital or clinic because you keep working when your womb is getting older and older). I think you should take a rest half month before delivering baby and one or two months after it. then it's ok for you to start working again.
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
thank you for the response. but he wants me to stop working now, i still have almost two months to wait for my big day. and he wants me to go back for work after 4 mos, he said that leaving the baby home and trusting baby's care at a very young age, to someone else is not good. i'll try to convince him that i'll just stop working two weeks before my expected due date. besides my work is just 10 minutes away from our house.
@MrDollars (454)
• Australia
18 Aug 10
I know that you posted this ages ago but being pregnant I think it is best to work as much as you can actually handle and then have your time off so you do not make yourself too sick. $-MrDollars-$
@krnavtr (285)
• India
3 Aug 10
Its better you take leave rather than working.Don't you feel lazy and uncomfortable going for your work.Its very difficult for you to walk up and down when its almost 7 months.I think they will understand your problem and considered leave for you rite.Stay leave but don't stop totally to walk as you should walk to have a nice baby later on.Go for walk but not too far and always forget not to take one friend along with you.Listen to your husband as he is too worried about you and he is telling for your goodness.Try to have proper meal,drink more water and have complete rest.
@chabawel (330)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
I have three kids of my own. It's not easy to give birth even carry each of my baby for nine months. But, going through all that gave me joy and fulfillment. To take a leave, is really your personal decision. You are in control of your body and you know if you're really pushing your limits or you really have enough of work. Your husband loves you very much. He is concerned of your well being and that's how he'll be for the rest of your marriage - a caring and loving husband. So basically my dear, you are the captain of your ship. You can shout ABANDON SHIP whenever you feel like it, because you know its time to take a leave and take care more of yourself. God bless.
@Hatley (158039)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Mar 10
hi churchill1980 I was a nurses aide when I was pregnant with my first child and that is not like office work,its physical and at times demanding. I was trying to bath this three hundred pound'lady and was on a step stool to reach her, when her doctor came in and he was furious with me as Iwas starting on my ninth month. He said, you want to kill that poor baby you should not be rolling this too heavy lady around, let me call another aid to take your place, you need to go home and rest now. I protested we cannot afford that as we need my addition to the family budget the doctor asked me how much I made per month , he reached into his pocket and insisted I take this wad of bills. I found out that he was not my patient's doctor but her brother and he was the other doctor who belonged to the clinic where myob gyn., was. so he insisted on taking me home, making me keep that money, and i took off that month. infact I got pregnant again and had our second an d last child 11 months later. lol lol. so my kids weree in school when I went b ack to work, and it felt so good getting back to wor k too.