Are they never punished????

@mr_pearl (5037)
India
March 10, 2010 11:02pm CST
My life has been pretty colorful. Unfortunately, most of the colors had negative shades and some of them turned negative, later. Well... The facts are these. I dated one girl for almost 2 years. During that time I cared for her like a little and delicate flower and sacrificed all my personal pleasures for that girl. I didn't understand in those days that she was with me, because of money. I had a lot of money, then; my hard earned money. I never understood that she had been squeezing out all of it- in form of cash, jwellery, cloths etc. When she came to know that she had made enough of it, she left me. And now, she's with another guy, who's also rich. I did all I could to make her come back, but she wouldn't! She doesn't even care to talk to, write to me.. I will run out of words, if I am to write how much I've cared for her, how much I lost because of her (not just money, but also valuable friends, relatives). My family has almost deserted me, because of this girl. That is the biggest loss ever.. Every night I sit alone on my bed and wonder, how I could be such a fool? Why did she do this to me? (this is the most repeated question). Will she never be punished? Will God, let her go with it? I pray to heavens all the time, to make her experience what I have been through because of her. Let her shade as many tears as I have shade during these 4 years. I know 'revenge' is petty thing, a sign of degradation. But it doesn't go away from me. I want REVENGE.. At present, however, I can do nothing; as financially I am broke and she has gone to America with her latest victim. I don't know how many guys she has fooled. I have made up my mind that I am going to have my revenge. In my last letter to her I wrote, '...I am sure God'll punish you. And if He doesn't, I will..' I am going to make millions again. I have made once, and can make twice of that, again. I have all her addresses etc. And I am going to get even with her. I have nothing to lose anymore. She has taken away all. I pray for the strength, as this is going to be the longest journey. My dear myLotter buddies, have you known things like this? What would you do, if you were in my place? Please share your opinions about this whole thing... If possible, give me some good idea about the revenge plan... I know revenge is a very petty thing, but I can't live in peace unless I teach her a lesson...
5 responses
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
11 Mar 10
Hey Mr. Pearl. I think what she did was shady. She is a money grubbing hoochie who plays with mens feelings to get what she wants. From what you're saying Im afraid she's good at it. I dont even know you and I am so relieved she's gone. Had she stayed you'd ended up with nothing. No family, money, nothing. At least now you can go to your family if you want and let them know what happened. Im not sure of what happened between you and your family so I dont want to speak on it too much. Maybe you can put the family thing on hold. Right now I want you to get rid of the hate and revenge you feel you have to bestow on her. Revenge is dibilitating. It can eat you alive. You cant move on with the intent to have your revenge. I know your mad but she'll get hers I promise you that. Eventually her greed will get her caught. People are going to find out and sh*t is gonna hit the fan. I know you dont know me but I have seen this more than a few times. I wish these things didnt happen. Unfortunately bad things happen to good people. If you show her its not bothering you and you've moved on, she's gonna think she didnt affect you. SHE LOSES! Revenge is a thing that if you dont get rid of it it lingers growing and growing until it can get deadly. You dont need those problems my friend. If you need a friend, Im here. Happy MyLotting dl
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@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
11 Mar 10
Hi DL... Thanks for your valuable reply. It feels better a little now. I am parted from my family forever... No more amends! I know what this feeling of revenge can do to human frame. Trust me, I have tried to get over it for a long time, for years. It comes back from time to time and I feel that I am the one who did everything and sacrificed so much and yet I suffer. She cheated, fooled me and she is having a good time... And this feeling kills me. I am trying my best to get out of it... I wish I could clean my memory and clear all the things that I shared with her... Wish there was some 'magic button' for that. One thing is true for now, that I am going to make a lot of money once again... I have set this goal for now. I wonder, are such people never punished? I mean, does the God let them go with it? I am sure she must have fooled other guys too... Will she never suffer for the pain that she's given me? I pray to Lord, all the time, to give her the harshest times. Let her heart ache and let her shade trillions of tears... I know it isn't a good trait to wish bad for someone, but I can't do anything better for her... never..
@kiran8 (14841)
• Mangalore, India
5 Apr 10
Hi pearl, you are still young and you have so much more to do in life.you are bound to meet many better girls and I am sure your family too will come round .I have learnt through experience that one can NEVER say .Time heals everything and life changes everything around us.So be positive and move on, there are much better girls and people out there...all the best
@kiran8 (14841)
• Mangalore, India
5 Apr 10
typo...One can NEVER say NEVER...
@Naxous (968)
• India
11 Mar 10
Friend I can understand the kind of feeling that you are going through as I also have gone through that same feeling in the recent past when my lover deserted me for somebody else and she even insulted me in front of a lot of other people when I tried to talk to her.Yeah, initially even I thought that I will take revenge and do anything and everything possible to make her suffer but then I remembered the saying that "to forget is good but to forgive is divine".Beside I also told myself that I used to love that girl so how can I harm her?Yeah it's true that she didn't possess any kind of love for me but that's her problem not mine.Very soon another girl came in my life and I am happy with her right now.So don't be revengeful.Just take sometime out for yourself,go to a different place,stay there for sometime and engage yourself with a lot of work and I am sure that very soon you will forget about the treacherous girl.
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@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
11 Mar 10
Thank you for your valuable response... I am really sorry for what happened to you. The same almost happened to me. It has been almost 2-3 years, since she's gone.. In the beginning, I had thought that it'd be healed with time and I'd get over it. But it doesn't go away, that feeling.. Sometimes, I feel kind of crazy.. .I wish to smash things and destroy all that is around me. I get strangest dreams. I know hatred isn't a very good thing. It is the root of evil things, but it doesn't go away... Yes, there's a wonderful lady in my life now. We love each other passionately and madly... When I met this girl, I thought I could get over it all, now. But no, I have been committed to my fiancee for almost an year and we plan to marry this year. Besides all this, I still remember the girl who fooled me and abused my emotions. Can't get over it!!!
@Naxous (968)
• India
11 Mar 10
It is true that it is very difficult to forget our first love. The same thing is happening to you. However, if you really feel angry then the best way is to count upto 10 and you will find that the anger will subside.Why are you wasting your time lingering over the past.You have a nice girl in your life now so just concentrate on her and let bygones be bygones.Wish you a very happy and prosperous future.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
11 Mar 10
Yes my friend, it really is difficult to forget her... She was the first woman in my life. I had made so many beautiful plans.. You know, I had even planned the names of our kids. I am trying my best, to forget what happened. It keeps coming back from time to time and leaves me under loads of depression, which I can't cope up with.. My fiancee doesn't know about this; I don't want her to think that I have been kind of a loser at one of point. I am trying my best to forget that girl... Thank you a lot for your valuable advice... :) Have a nice time!
@rosegardens (3044)
• United States
11 Mar 10
Revenge is mine, sayeth the Lord. Sweetie, do not let this consume you. Only be thankful you are separated from her now, for if money was all she wanted then your love and attention was in vain. I am sorry you are hurting and this terrible thing has happened to you. God shall replace what has been lost, only trust in Him. If you allow vengeance to consume you, you are no better than the one who did harm to you. Also, you will be miserable and depressed. You deserve happiness instead. Put her out of your mind and go on with your life. Go back to your family and friends who love you no matter if you are rich or poor. I wish you sunny days in your heart and the Joy of the Lord to be your strength and shelter.
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@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
12 Mar 10
Hello my friend... Thank you for your wonderful and encouraging response... I know what the fire of vengence can cause! I am trying my best to get over it, I promise you. I have done all i could and I am still trying.. And I am sure I'll be out of it, some time soon... I am thankful to you, for your encouraging words.
• United States
12 Mar 10
I hope it is very soon, it is so awful to have those feelings. I know, I have had them. Lord, have mercy on poor sinners who have broken hearts and broken dreams and help us respond according to your will.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
11 Mar 10
I am sorry to hear this my friend. Please understand that there are girls like this all over the world. Please try to forget the things happened and concentrate on your future. God will punish her for sure. You can leave it to the hands of god. If you want to punish her, you can do that by having a good life by working hard, making more money than she squeezed from her, and find a good girl slowly. Let her go to hell. Don't waste your time, energy, and money for revenge. She will get punished for her acts. There is god who watches everything.
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@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
11 Mar 10
Hi.. Thanks for you reading my painful tale and thanks for your valuable response... Yes, I am trying to get over it... But it doesn't go away. That feeling of being cheated with, doesn't go away... Yes, I am going to make a lot of money, again... And this time, it'll be much more. I have planned it all. I hope God'll have punished her, before I reach her... I have different plans ready. But if God does it for me, then there'd be no point in doing what has been done... I am sorry if I sound disturbed or hateful, but these emotions have been suppressed for years. My fiancee, whom I plan to marry, has no idea about this. I have not told anyone about it. It has been supressed for too long... have fun! may no one ever meets such a girl, ever...
@edorms36 (266)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Mar 10
Hi. I believed you mentioned that you have cared for this girl when you were together then, and in fact you have sacrificed a lot for her. Don't you think what you have done for her is more than just caring for her? In fact, if you have given and had sacrificed so much for her, that only goes to show that you loved her. And if you loved her, why revenge then? I know that she had fooled you, but for somebody who had loved the other person, no amount of pain and betrayal caused by the other person can ever erased that love that grew in one's heart. That's what I believed in. I have also loved somebody and was hurt by that person I've grown to love, but you know even when I tried so hard to hate him, just so I can forget him, I just couldn't do that, my heart will always hold him dear and forgiveness was the only option. If you have loved her maybe you have to learn or to try to forgive her for what she had done and revenge should not come from you... let go and let God!
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
27 Apr 10
I agree with you, upon all the points and that is because you also have been through similar kind of a thing... I am sorry for such a delayed reply, I didn't notice that you had replied to it.. Yes, it is extremely hard to forget her. There are still times, when I sit alone and remember the times that I spent with her. Those were nice days! And had someone told me that she would betray me in such a inhuman fashion, I wouldn't have believed it ever... And yet, it happened!!! The feeling of revenge comes from the LOVE itself. It is something like this: When one loves someone or something dearly, One can't go on without it. And if one fails to get it, then one thinks of its destruction... It is human nature! Well... I don't know what is going to happen. I still get depressed again and again, whenever I think about her. Thankfully, I have met with a wonderful woman and we plan to marry soon.. I fear, sometimes, what if this woman leaves me one day, like my ex did... What would I do then? Life is so Unpredictable... Thanks a lot for your valuable reply... Have a great time!!