Benefactor wanted ....single or married?
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
March 11, 2010 10:34am CST
The spouse you have may not be perfect but be aware that someone out there could be on the fishing trip to get yours! What? Yes, we have heard about endangered species, saving the animals and even the environment. But there's a silent danger of losing your spouse to someone else!
Where is the 'husband-snatcher' or home-wrecker coming from? Well, according to sources and the grapevine, men who appear to be successful and moderately good looking are the targets of unethical and desperate women who are out to fish for an income earner to support them!
Sounds like there's big trouble for women and their children when such immoral women lurk around looking for their next prey. Stroke the ego of the silly men, flatter, praise them to high heaven and give in to them and they'll fell for the manipulative witch!
Today there are many marriage going on the rocks because of these gold-diggers! Wait..don't surrender your men to these women who have no compassion for the welfare of the family and the children of her victim. How do you deal with such cases if it happens to your spouse? And the men, do you easily fall prey to these women who promises good 'after sales service'?
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9 responses
@GardenGerty (157545)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I have had people try to set up flirtations, with both of my husbands. I tend to like the loyal kind, though, so I get to keep them.
. I know that men, and women can be tempted, and it is good to have enough foresight to get out of those temptations really fast. Loyalty and affection are a two way street.
. I know that men, and women can be tempted, and it is good to have enough foresight to get out of those temptations really fast. Loyalty and affection are a two way street.3 people like this
@savypat (20216)
• United States
11 Mar 10
This happened to me and my first reaction was to try to compete, but in the end I realized that it was not my choice, it was his and I told him to leave until he made up his mind. It took about 5 hours and he came back, said he realized how poor he would be if he left and he didn't want to live like that. Was this of comfort to me? NO WAY. Did I forgive him? NO. Was the marriage ever the same? NO.
What happened was I made sure I was never at the mercy of another person to support myself and my children. We have lived together over 50 years now and I never loved him like I did before and I have never asked if he loves me. But our relationship is healthy and we are best friends who support each other. Would I trade what I have now for the excitement of love as it was at first. NO. I think that like all painful situations I learn valueable lessons that have made me who I am today. I am independent and strong and I have a very valueable friend with whom I live.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 10
I went through exactly as you had undergone. From that moment onwards, I changed and no longer cling to him for life support. I went all out to make my own living though we are still under one roof. I decided to run my life as an independent person without having his connection in what ever I did. One good thing that come from this bad experiences is that it toughened me to face the challenges in life. But the bad side effects of being an iron lady is he depended so much on me and in the end I become the breadwinner. 
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Mar 10
hi zandi I told this one woman who was doing just that with my husband who did not seem to have a clue, get your own guy,mine is already taken thank your very much. she had told the two of us she preferred older married men as they knew all the tricks, and I told her my hubby was going to look for a new study buddy a man. Sometimes you just have to
'speak up for yourself. My husband just thought she was sort of pretty but he did not realize she wanted to break up our marriage.he claimed he did not see her as anything but a study buddy, but I did not trust her at all.
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@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
lol dawnald do you really mean that? lol
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@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
I understand that one woman's trash can be one woman's treasure. If you do not know how to treat your guy right somebody else would and men would fall easily to these kind of woman because they felt more appreciated and wanted than when they are around you. If you are a woman who always demand for this and that better think twice because if he gets tired of the banter he sure would look for someone who could give him his needs. On the other hand if a man does that and he has a good relationship with his wife, he is so stupid. I know it maybe exciting as all forbidden things adds thrill but in the long run you destroy the lives of your children and your wife.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
12 Mar 10
I am not with my husband for his money, and any dumb wonan who tries will discover twoo things. 1) He loves me and won't stray 2) if he was dumb enough to stray, he doesn't have a lot of money, and their time will be wasted. If he was actually dumb enough to leave for such a witch I'd tell her to keep him, because I wouldn't want a cheating fool in my life.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
12 Mar 10
frankly zandi, i had been there before, not once but twice. but good thing for me, i made myself free from them. not that i am good looking, maybe that is the reason, they just want to wreck my family by having someone spend my money to them. aaaaaaaaahhhhhh, hate me zandi.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
I like to think that my husband has too much integrity than to be lured away by a 'husband-snatcher.’ If he did he would not be worth my time would he? There must be trust in a relationship because without it there would be nothing. I also have trust in myself; I trust that at the end of the day I cannot be in control of my husband or anyone else for that matter and the only one I can control is me and I trust that I will cope with whatever happens.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 10
Trust is the most important thing in any relationship to survive. With bad experiences behind me, I have only made myself a strong woman who is able to survive under any circumstances maybe even the strong tsunamic wave would not be able to flatten me to the ground. 
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