what age should i have kids?

United States
March 12, 2010 12:59am CST
you know most my life i been wantin my own kids but the only good question i have is what is the best age to have a kid?? i mean i already got a girl i have chosen to be mine and now we just dont know when we really want to have a kid cause it is a hard choice to make when you got no money or anything yet so i was wondering if you people can help me with this? i'd appreciate it alot thanks.
2 people like this
19 responses
• Bangladesh
12 Apr 10
Hey man, That depends on your mentality. That is, when you'll be mentally prepared to have a kid whom you'll be able to take care properly. Some people take kids a long time after marriage. They say that it's not so easy to rear kids. First, you must have a lot of money along with a safe and secure home from where all types of modern life facilities will be available thinking about today's world. Some people take kids just after getting married. They argue that if you have kids early perhaps you may not get the chance to nurture them as the longevity of our life has been shortened. Have a happy life.
@maximax8 (29036)
• United Kingdom
14 Mar 10
I think that is helps if a couple have a home to live in and some money for day to day expenses before they have a baby. I believe that between ages 24 and 29 years old is the best time for a lady to have a baby. Other great times to choose would be between 30 and 34 years old and between 20 and 23 years. After age 35 years old the biological clock starts ticking. In life it helps to have a target like hoping to achieve some things by this time next year. I hope that you and your lady will have kids when the time feels right for you both.
@lindsiko (358)
• United States
13 Mar 10
For me, I don't want to have kids until I'm thirty. I'm twenty-five now and and have been married for a year and a half now. We are nowhere near settled financially or location wise, so I want to wait until we are moved into our own house and aren't planning on going anywhere.
@philgirl (74)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Well, some people the wanted to have a child while their still young, so when the kids grow up its more like their younger sister/brother or friends only.But some people the want to have a child late like 30 up, to enjoy their life and save more money. So really its up to you when do you want to have a kid!
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
13 Mar 10
HI jonnyboy, I think having kids is a personal serious choice that one has to make. I decided to have my son when I was 30. One has to take financial matters in consideration but also other social matters, are the couple prepared to have kids? Are they mature enough? Do they have time for their newborn baby? Is their relationship stable enough? You have to consider all this before deciding to have a baby.
@fianne (1059)
• United States
12 Mar 10
i probably say if you are mature enough and responsible enough to become a father.. age? let's say before you age 35 or so. so all will be mature to you, physically, emotionally, psychologically AND! financially. being a father is a great thing! but you must know how to handle it too because it's not that easy just being a father. lots of obligations really. you will ask yourself am i being a good fater and am i able to give my child the best there is... so if you are ready for everything and you feel like you are stable enough for it, go go go! even now you can be. asl long as you're ready.
@sushie93 (1359)
• France
12 Mar 10
I think that if you are feeling ready to have a kid so get it. ^^ But better is when you have finish your studies (if ou are a student yet) and when both of you have a job so you could spend the money to buy all things that need a new children. ^^
• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
Jonny, the best time for you to have a kid is depending on your readiness. There are a lot of thing that you must setup if you want a baby, not just a girl that you love. Like u said, money is one important thing that u must setup for your kid later. But if you ask an ideal age to have a kid, i think 27 is good. because in this age a man reach the top condition in his reproduction system. Hope my answer will help you. Good luck Jonny... ^^
• China
12 Mar 10
The best age for having a kids is 18-40. So i think 22-30 is the best age for having kids. In that time one girl become conscious about other matter or how to maintain a baby. I beleive all people has there own luck so if your baby's luck is good then he/she will get his own things. You or me can't decide about this only our Allah know about this. So dear friend best of luck for your kids.
@rinzgca (317)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
I think this depends on your own culture and beliefs. Basing on my own, I would have to say, the first child is probably good to have around 29 - 32. Why, well, at this time, it is assumed that you and your spouse have already enough time together and are emotionally and financially prepared or stable to build a family. At this age, you are already mature enough to handle being a parent and its responsibilities. Also, at this time, you probably won't be as irritable with kids as when you are young, if you're not fond of kids. Also, since it's still relatively young, you would know how to act when your child becomes a teen, which would be around early 40s. There won't be that much gap as compared to if you had a teen child during your late 40s or early 50s. We all know teens are unbearable at this age. But everything still depends on you and your spouse. You guys could plan when to have a child so you can start saving for the child and prepare yourselves emotionally and as a couple.
@lindiebiz (1013)
• Canada
12 Mar 10
In my opinion, I think the earlier you have your kids, the better for you. But there are a lot of things that would not make this possible like money. It is necessary to have a stable source of income if you want to have children. However try to have a children by 35 yrs if you are a guy and for a girl, fertility starts to decline at the age of 30.
• United States
12 Mar 10
There is no "best" age and things don't always work out the way you plan, I would have said 28 or so, but there was a happy accident shortly after I married and now I have a son.
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
having kids is not just like the food you want then eat and if you dont like it you can just throw it out. if you think your financially stable enough to support your kids then maybe you can start it now whether you have husband or not as the only problem that a person is facing if they have kids is the fact if they can give good life to their kids or not. so if you have all the capacity to get pregnant and you think your healthy and you have stable job to support your pregnancy or your baby or your rich enough to have all the money then go ahead.
@MAllen400 (830)
12 Mar 10
Oh jonnyboy take my word for it if you wait to be able to afford children then there is a very very high chance you will never have children! Age? well definately before the menopause and after the legal age (16 here). To be serious its like when you meet someone, you ask your mum when you are young how will you know if you are in love with someone and she will say that you just know. Having children is the same. In my case, I had never taken much notice of children and one day my husband and I were watching tv and a beautiful baby was shown. We both say aww (seen plenty on tv before mind) and how about us having one. That was it. Go with your heart not your head on this one. Mind you it is best to have someone you know you want to spend the rest of your life with and a place to live but that is the only practical things I would consider. May I wish you and your girl every happiness.x
• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
We are in a financial position where I could make the choice to stay at work, which I wanted to do. I also think I'm a much better dad than I would have been when I was younger. I'm more even-keeled, and I don't get thrown by little things the way I used to. I'm satisfied taking each day as it comes.
• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
We are in a financial position where I could make the choice to stay home, which I wanted to do. I also think I'm a much better mom than I would have been when I was younger. I'm more even-keeled, and I don't get thrown by little things the way I used to. I'm satisfied taking each day as it comes.
@galileo2008 (1147)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
It would be better to have kids before you reach the age of 30 so that you will not have a difficult pregnancy. Some experts say that old primigravid women (old first time moms) have higher risk of difficult pregnancies than those who are in their 20s to 30s.
@se7enthbird (8327)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
welcome to the wonderful world of mylot. i got married seven years ago and my son now is four years old. before i married my wife we lived together for 4 years. there are no perfect age to have a child but you have to be emotionally ready and financially ready as well. me and my wife tried a few times and unfortunately my wife had a few miscarriages before we hit the jackpot. so i guess since you said you have a girl already and you have a very satble relationship next step is to talk about having children. if you are ready then she needs to be ready as well. having a child is one true happiness but there are also a lot of responsibilities with that. congrats and goodluck
• India
12 Mar 10
If you are going to marry then first of all congratulation so age that you have your baby is after 5 year then your married because at that time your fully settle so at that time you can have baby and also you will not face problem at all OK.