Should I forgive her???
March 12, 2010 4:30am CST
Hello my friend's please help I have a friend I can say she is my child hood friend I always love her but she always use me for her profit, every where she dump me she is very selfish and she flash so many wrong rumors about But I don't know why My heart say's that I should forgive her. I don't know what to do please friend give me some idea what I do.
12 Mar 10
Hello saanjh. Based on what you told here, you may not like my reaction but the best advice I could give you is for you not to allow her or ANYONE to do those things to you. Surely you don't deserve to be treated like that except of course if you would really want to be treated like that. In the first place, she doesn't deserve to be called a friend because she does those things to you. A real friend is not someone like that. A friend is not someone who spreads rumors against you. :( Sorry to hear that. Sure you can forgive her, but remember, there's a big difference between trust and forgiveness. You can forgive and don't mind about what she have already done, but the next time don't allow her to do the same things again. Unless you respect and love yourself, people will keep on treating you like that. Certainly you don't want for people to treat you like that, don't you? Anyway, I wish you all the best in your life. Always remember to pray and ask Him for guidance in your every decisions. Maybe that friend has been important to you in some instance that's why it's hard to let her go. But life is just too short for you to dwell with all the negativity. Love yourself and enjoy life. Don't waste your time on such things and with such people. Take care always and God bless :)
12 Mar 10
I would forgive nut not forget. She will continue to treat you in the same way if you continue to act the same way. I think you need to tell her you don't like certain aspects of the friendship and why. If she really wants you for a friend, she will regret her actions and change, if not, she is probably more of a collector of followers than a friend. Some people don't see that they need to contribute to a friendship in return and will be quite happy to always take favours and praise without ever doing so .