I'm finally free

@Masihi (4227)
Canada
March 12, 2010 6:08pm CST
I made a really tough decision today, I blocked someone that I thought was really close to me & I realised that he was using me all along. It hurt, I cried, but it feels like a weight's been lifted off my shoulders. I blocked his msg'r services. I only hope that I can remain strong. I have my family supporting me. My husband's kicking me in the rear end for being so stupid in the first place. I don't deserve him, in a way cuz he's put up with a lot w/me. I know I'm venting but I need to let it out. Life is a harsh teacher, but probably the best one. Anyway, thanks for listening. Happy Mylotting.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
13 Mar 10
Good for you.I think that it is a shock when you see a person for what they really are as well as if you had been thinking you were being used for a while it still is a nasty blow when it is confirmed.I think that now that you have seen the person for what they are this will help you to be strong and not to reverse and have them back.Good luck for the future.
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
13 Mar 10
Thanks, u really made me smile.:-)
13 Mar 10
Hello, I'm sorry to hear this, but its good you have been able to sort it out. Take care,
@Beaufly (994)
• United States
8 Apr 11
Wow, I think you were very brave for sharing that (even though it was a year ago). You really opened up and let a painful part of your life out which takes courage. I am sure if you read this post again, you can look back and appreciate all of the lessons learned. One thing about living, we all have experiences that are good and bad, but usually if we can let go and decompress, we can learn something about ourselves and humanity, in the process.
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
10 Apr 11
Yes, I've learned a lot in this lesson, what to do, what not to do, how a person that can be so tough can actually be so vulnerable as well. I realised that we're not invincible, nor are we immune to things that may come our way. That's why it's so important to keep on our guard and be self-aware. Especially online, we should take extra precautions and analyse each situation as we know that we can never be positive of who's on the other end of the keyboard.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Hi. Masihi. I am very sorry that you had to block this person. When a person no longer means you any good in your life, sometimes, you will have to leave them alone. Or remove them privately from your life. I had to do this with my 2nd cousin on Facebook. She kept on playing these silly and immature games with me. She would make a comment and I knew what she was trying to do. She was upset because I told her that her sister looked like their aunt. She said that everyone has always told her that she looked like her own sister. Then she went onto telling me that she just had to bring it to my attention. Whatever! That is why she has been blocked by me and my sister for being so darn childish as an over 50 years old woman!
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
6 Apr 11
Good heavens, 50 years old??? When I first started reading this post I had her in her early 20's - yikes. One would expect maturity at such a mature age, I mean they're at the prime of their lives at that age. Sorry you had to do that...and to family at that. It's not fun. Hopefully she'll grow up and you guys can have intelligent conversations with her.
@bryanwmc (1052)
• Malaysia
14 Mar 10
I gues my 2 cents worth would be that there is a lesson there for you,if anything it may make you more alert to pretenses and genuine sincerity having been burnt by a experience,yourself. That s what i suggest,dont erase it totally from your mind,besides learning from how to recognize falsity,you may just be able to alert or caution another if you recognize certain similar circumstance happening to another person you know Life is essentially a school of tough knocks and personal experience the best educator!
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
14 Mar 10
Ya, I agree with you 100% although I ain't going to dwell on it either. This kind of experience certainly makes a person wiser, for sure (if they really stop & look at their situation.) Happy Mylotting
@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
13 Mar 10
I just happened to come across your posting while searching for something else and I must say I applaud you for doing what you felt was necessary once you realized what was happening. The fact that you feel a weight has been lifted lets you know you are doing the right thing even though it hurt. I love your words "I am finally free". Trust me, there are a lot of people who would love to be in your shoes, even if they had to hurt a while. I am one of them. I am near getting my freedom, but in the meantime it is a daily nightmare. I am happy to know someone has made it. You have to stay strong and stick to it so that you don't become a victim again.
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
13 Mar 10
Aww, BIG HUGS to u, lumenmom, I know it was the toughest decision I've ever made, & it took me almost 2 years to make this final decision. It's going to hurt, but actually making the decision is the most hardest thing ever!!! You can do it, as for me, I was literally at the end of my rope.
@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Mar 10
me and my wife, had been from another relationship that we were able to get free, before we met for the first time. today, we can still have communications with our formers, but we are now happy with each other. be strong, is that i can tell you. good luck.
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
15 Mar 10
That's good...however, I don't want ANY CONTACT w/this individual - he's 100% meshugne, and quite frankly I'm glad I ain't got anything to do w/him - people like the person I was friends with only drain you emotionally.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Hi Masihi, I'm not sure I'm following you right here. HE is using you and yet you are saying that you don't deserve him because he's put up with a lot with you?? It sounds to me as if he does not deserve you. I guess I'd have to know more of what led up to the end of your friendship but from what you wrote here it sounds as if ending the friendship is good idea.
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
13 Mar 10
Actually, no this is a friend online that was treating me like crap - I've talked w/my husband a good many times thru the whole ordeal & it's my husband's love that I don't deserve as he's put up w/my foolishness for 2 years. He basically told me that I need to start standing up for myself & I'm finally doing that now. LOL sorry I didn't make myself plain, it's just that I was venting is all.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
13 Mar 10
Hello Masihi. Like you I have been taken advantaged by people close to me before. Sometimes you just can't help it. You think you're helping someone, the next minute you realized you've just been used. Good for you for making the first step in making that decision. However tough it is, you know that you're on your way! Good luck!
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
It is better you could gain your freedom and you make yourself brave by keeping yourself aware of the abuses and certainly you have a way to stop it. S your decision is only right and I greatly admire you for taking those step.
@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
13 Mar 10
Dear Masihi, don't cry.......you are not the only one who has gone through this, we all are human beings with that tricky heart inside us who rules our brain.......and indeed life is a harsh teacher, I learnt my lesson some years ago and you learnt it today....we all do. Mashihi, it is only a matter of time, soon you will learn to smile again.......everything will be fine. Have faith in God...life goes on.....feel proud about what you did today because today you are really matured.....
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 10
you are right, it was a great step. People make mistakes so they can have a learn from there. i believe you can survive, no matter if someone rear on you. be strong..
@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Hi! I have been treated that way too by a lot of people. I try to be honest and truthful and good to other people and it is just easy for me to assume that other people are that way to, although I do know better. I promise that I will never use you and will try to be your loyal friend. Albert
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Hi Masihi! It's very much all right to vent so that you could release that tension inside you. I too have been a trusting person but this person did not live up to the trust I gave him. He has been a nuisance and so I blocked him too. Yours was more difficult because I see you two have been close, only to find out he was using you. Yes, life's experiences are actually the best teachers. I hope you recover from this incident. You are lucky to have your family supporting you all the way. Take care!
@machivado (529)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 10
I guess I can only say congrats to you if you feel like it...Sometimes I feel that it's I'll be better without a certain person..but of course to just really avoiding him would be tough in a way.
@donna22 (1120)
13 Mar 10
Are you sure that you wree being used? Is this someone you know in "real life" or just on internet? If you have heard from someone else that he has been using you then Id be wary.
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
I cannot say that I know what you feel. But I can say that I understand why you feel that way... It just shows that you are a "kindred" Most people once shown with kindness gets blinded right away. Especially people who doesn't have bad blood in them. Kindness is kindness. They wouldn't even suspect that probably that kindness being shown them is not really genuine. I guess that was what happened to you. Happened to me many times. My wife would always shake me up. Snap me back to reality. She always tell me that, first I have to ask myself why the person is being kind to me. That probably the person has an ulterior motive. I used to not care about those things. Kindness for me, once given is plain kindness. I don't think of other reasons because that's how I am. That's how I work it. Thank God we have spouses who look after us when we get too blinded. Cheers!