What to do if you are O.P (Out of Place?)

Philippines
March 13, 2010 4:53am CST
So what are you going to do if you are talking with your friends and suddenly you can't relate to what they're talking about, or you're new in a group and you feel like you don't belong or you're out of place? I used to always experience that in my early teen years. :O
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@TheAdvocate (2395)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Like you, I am a very shy person. However, work requires me to socialize and so I taught myself the art of the small talk. It's okay to keep quiet if you do not know what they are talking about. Just listen politely and allow them to talk. If you do not understand what they are talking about, ask questions. Just keep it to a minimum.
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• Philippines
13 Mar 10
what's your work? :)) Sometimes being quiet makes me feel like I look like an idiot. And yeah, I ask questions when I don't know what they're talking about. Sometimes they don't want to answer me or just not interested at sharing to me what they're talking about. It makes me feel like I really don't belong! Anyway, thanks thanks. :)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
I've been to that situation a lot of times. When they're talking about something I'm not familiar to, I would just keep quiet and listen to what they're saying. or I would politely say "I can't relate" for them to explain and include me in their conversation. I'm usually the shy and quiet type so I just let them finish and maybe start or wait a new topic that I could relate to so I could participate in the conversation. If they're still making me OP, I would take out my mobile phone and pretend to text or even play games. If it still doesn't work, then maybe it's time for me to excuse myself and leave.
@rajaiv0810 (1013)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Since I have been working at home I'm always the last person to know what's happening with my friends coz I can't go with them all the time unlike before. But since I'm the most talkative of them all and persistent i can still keep up. I would always say "Oh my I'm so OP here come on update me, hurry up." Then I am on my "Oh My" "Really" "Oh shucks" blah blah non-stop. I guess I'm really the type who can always be "in" with a group. :)
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@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
I won't talk and will just excused myself and leave the group. I will just try find other place where I could be fitted and can freely talk and express my opinion. I won't fidget in the group where there's no enough room for me.
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• Philippines
13 Mar 10
if my friends are talking about hings that i dont know nor i cant relate with, i will going to ask them what is that all about so they can explain what is it. so at least i can still join their discussion. i can just listen to them while talking then wait for my time to shine.
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@surekharathi (14134)
• India
27 Nov 12
Hehehe...I have also experience about it some time I have no more knowledge about talking and some time my family members talking on anything I jump there and put my thoughts also some time they accept it and some time not.
@sunkernjs (219)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
I am use to this situation. Here are my tips. First if the group comprises friends then nothing to worry about disrupting them talking and starting a new discussion. That way a new topic will be raised which in return will accommodate you in. Second Try to change the topic nicely. Make it in a way that they will not kick you out of the group. You could inject a topic that is related to and or according to their interest which is fresh from the news. If they are strangers to you try to get their attention by excusing yourself for a while. In that way they will know that you are out of place. ^^