Do you HAVE to know all of your spouses passwords

United States
March 15, 2010 9:06am CST
I am asking this because i know someone who HAS to know all her husbands passwords,his email, voicemail, games, myspace, facebook etc etc. He doesnt mind letting her have the info, in fact she sneaks a way to find out.. she will be like oh i found this new thing and i wanna show you, whats your password ill get in and then ill find it for you etc etc. When the time comes and he needs to use her laptop or somehting and she has a lock on it he will say hey whats the password and she will go type it in for him. If he tried to do that with his email password or somehting all hell would break loose! My husband and i are oppisite, i dont know his passwords to his emails and stuff, theres no point its his email but if i wanted to know he would tell me but the thing is i would not have any need to know unless i wanted to snoop or was worried about something which i am not so why would i care to have it? I have told him mine numerous times so that he may use it if he ever needed it etc etc.
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12 responses
@fattymc (140)
15 Mar 10
I think this is kind of overdoing it. Knowing EVERY SINGLE password to me is just like an invasion of personal information. Especially facebook passwords. There's no need for something like a facebook password because you can see their wall, and if you're married, put married to ____ to show that he/she is taken, so nobody will dare touch him/her unless one is cheating. So, there's no need to have every password. For something like PayPal then okay, but personal information is personal.
• United States
15 Mar 10
exactly everyone is entitled to thier own personal space, some things are just unnesscary to know.
• United States
15 Mar 10
privacy is very important... im not married but i hate when people try to invade my privacy
@Swaana (1208)
• India
15 Mar 10
Though there is something like basic trust, though me and my husband share our passwords for all email ids, face book, Orkut etc, still we dont access other's. As if some thing interesting comes we just forward or we share with each other. There is not much of secret between us but still we maintain our own space.
• United States
15 Mar 10
exactly i feel that even though you are married and you share everything there is still some things that you can keep to yourself, aka passwords. she said she allowed him to have his own account therefore she has to know his passwords..
@laglen (19780)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I'm with you on this one. If I ever need to know, he would tell me and I would tell him. I have never needed to know. There is an issue of privacy. If you do not trust the person you are with, maybe you shouldn't be with them?
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
No. I don't need to have all the info or the passwords of my husband. Why? First, it is because I know he will be offended if I insist of knowing his passwords. He value his privacy so much though we are a couple now, and so do I. Secondly, I don't want to know either because I know for sure that there will be things I might discover that will fuel an argument and I am just sick and tired of it. Not that I am saying that he is doing something foolish (again) but I'd rather know little than know all. I am not also giving my passwords to him for the simple reason of despite being married to him I am still an individual with separate private life. Though there is nothing to hide from him. :-)
@jcj_111776 (3220)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
Nope... He will have a fit if I demand for it!I respect his wanting to keep his passwords a secret... every single one of them. But there was one time when I asked for his email password. I needed to gain access to his email account to retrieve the password sent by our internet service provider. His internet account encountered a problem by not being able to access their website.Because he's very busy and clearly had no time to take care of it,so I stepped in.
@trisha27 (3498)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I don't have to know my husband's passwords. He just gives them to me. Because he doesn't always log onto his accounts and he'll forget his password, so then he'll ask me and I will give it to him. Otherwise, I don't use it for any other use. On the other hand if I had my suspicions about some things that would cause me to go into his accounts. But I trust him and most of the time, I'm probably just logging into some of his account, such as his bank account on line to see how much money we have left. But wow, that is crazy that that person would log onto her husband's account, change the password and then when he asks for it she doesn't give it to him. That's something I'd never do, unless she has her suspicions. You never know.
@youless (94719)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Mar 10
It is not necessary. If I want, my husband will tell me his password for sure. And I also tell him my password. We have no secrets. We can share many things. I think the most important for couples is the trust. I love China
@flowerchilde (12547)
• United States
15 Mar 10
"Do you HAVE to know all of your spouses passwords?" - heck no! If I couldn't trust the love hubby and I have, I'd rather give it up! Or maybe I would be some sort of control freak, in which case, no worry it will all fall apart more than likely sooner or later anyway!
@kaylachan (4776)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Mar 10
I think that's insaine. They are passwords for a reason. That woman must really be insecure. Sure I've given my husband my password when I was at work, but that's because i asked him to count down my drawer for me. Normally I'm supposed to do it, but my legs were about to fall out from under me and I had to sit down before they gave completely. So, I asked him to do it, and because of the way its set-up, I had to give it to him. But he promptly forgot it it five minutes later (thank god, it was only once he had to enter it) but I'm very careful about my passwords. My facebook, myspace, e-mail, blogs and any other website that I've got a password word on he doesn't ask me about me. Its my personal spaces on the web, and he could care less about what I do on it. If someone wants to e-mail him, then they e-mail me and I print the e-mail. George is very computer iliterate. Don't get me wrong, I love him, but he barely knows how to use the computers at work. So..... yeah....
@Wizzywig (7859)
15 Mar 10
We have a few sites which we use jointly so we both know the relevant passwords but, other than that I dont need to know any of them. I often wish I knew mine better though, so i didnt have to keep resetting them
@Ramsesxlll (1436)
• Finland
15 Mar 10
Well I'm single, but I can tell you about my parents. They both know each others bank accounts, email passwords and everything else confidential. But the thing is that my father never remembers my mothers passwords, but my mother does remember my fathers passwords because she has a very good memory. So my mother has quite an advantage on my father on this thing. I personally won't tell anyone my confidential stuff unless I get married. But we'll see... We'll see...
@jewels49 (1783)
• United States
15 Mar 10
My husband and I know each others passwords but we don't use them. I would never think of going through his e-mail any more than I would his wallet or his phone. It has never occurred to me to do so. I do have a friend that insists she and her husband share an e-mail acccount so she can keep track of what he is up to. Not the kind of relationship I would want to have, but he goes along with it.