Do I posess any value?

India
March 15, 2010 1:06pm CST
I have a feeling that my life has no value. No one likes me or even cares for me, my thoughts. Do u also feel the same about me? Be honest.
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@champan (513)
• Argentina
15 Mar 10
Don't say that come on. Every person is this world has lots of values. Lots of things that other doesn't have. Although there are lots of mean people. That dont care about the other, they only think and do things for themselves. And our life mix with those people. Sometimes we think.. this school mate is cool, this girl is really sweet,and -logically- we like those people, and maybe we start to trust them, and when you start knowing better those people, you realize how they really are. They were faking it, and it hurts. Of course there are good people out of there. You dont have to worry. Come on. Dont say those things.
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• India
15 Mar 10
Dear Champanl, Let me be honest with u. Others dont think so. I ahve been told by people that many feel that i have no value, no knowledge and dont know work and many other things. People always make fun of me. No one gives me respect and trust me, i have no friends. They feel i am worthless and even if i try to talk to someone they just go offlinbe or give an excuse to go away. Except if they need money or any other help from me. most of my mails i send r never replied and chats unanswered. Only if i talk to people over phone they may speak for a minute or two, but they never feel to call me. I feel really hurt and valueless. I had a real bad day today. One of my friends broke off with me just because she had a misunderstanding that i am trying to fall for her where as i was just trying to behave like a friend. So we had a short fight and she said she doesnt want me to speak to irritate her again. Proabalu u have now understood my life.
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@sushie93 (1359)
• France
15 Mar 10
Hello Howllowheart, after reading your story, i think that you have just met the wrong people, you have not chance to meet them, they are really bad people because they only talk to you only to profit of you. I think a day you will meet people who will be nice with you and want to be friend with you and who will understand your true value (yes, you have value!). It is just a question of time. Try to meet new people and don't care about those old fishs you talked about.
• India
15 Mar 10
Dear Sushie, thank u so much for ur support and suggestion. I may be wrong, but i have lost all hopes that anyone would want to be my friend or wife. Hhahahaha! Sounds funny isnt it. But then ya i am bad at expressing too. my teacher had told me that. My trainer at work told i keep talking to much. Today my graphics teacher said my work is just meaningless. Every comment i get just makes me wild and shattered within. Maybe ur words would come true someday, but i dont know how to move on till then. Everyday seems to be a chalange. Every person i meet, i feel would be the right person, a true friend. Unfortunately i didnt meet that person yet.
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• United States
15 Mar 10
You posess great value. I know this because you are an active member of this site. You share your opnions and knowledge. Just becuase one person is down on you doesn't mean that everyone is. I bet you don't have to search real far or think real hard about a life that you have positively impacted recently. I know, now you are thinking ok whose life did I change, well it may have been a stranger on the street that you gave a little smile to or even better than that my life. You gave me the chance to realize that no matter how bad thing are that their are others that feel a little doom and gloom from time to time and that we all need to stick together to get through those times. So you can always look my way if you need a smile. Here is a smile just for you. :o)~
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• India
15 Mar 10
Dear Rose. Thank u so much for that sweet smile and also for feeling that i have some value. Let me be honest with u. Others dont think so. I ahve been told by people that many feel that i have no value, no knowledge and dont know work and many other things. People always make fun of me. No one gives me respect and trust me, i have no friends. They feel i am worthless and even if i try to talk to someone they just go offlinbe or give an excuse to go away. Except if they need money or any other help from me. most of my mails i send r never replied and chats unanswered. Only if i talk to people over phone they may speak for a minute or two, but they never feel to call me. I feel really hurt and valueless. I had a real bad day today. One of my friends broke off with me just because she had a misunderstanding that i am trying to fall for her where as i was just trying to behave like a friend. So we had a short fight and she said she doesnt want me to speak to irritate her again. Proabalu u have now understood my life.
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• United States
15 Mar 10
hollowheart you must remember that each person is entitled to his/her own opinion but the only opnion that should matter about your self worth is your own. I know that a fight between friends can hurt, especially if she took your words/actions as more than what they were meant to be. If you continue to have great feelings of sorrow and sadness, consult a medical professional. They may be able to help you get out of this slump and help you move on so that you can make better and greater friends.
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• India
15 Mar 10
Friend, i guess u feel i am depressed. Ya thats true too, but nowadays my depression has reduced a lot. I have managed to keep my self busy and engaged, though all alone. However after i was hurt today twice i am feeling depressed. First my friend hurt me and i would never talk to her again in my life. More over that even my graphics teacher hurt me today. He said that my designs are just meaningless. I was wild in the class, but just to respect him, i kept quiet. But just imagine how much pain i must have felt. But then thats how the whole world feels, that i am at fault always. A medical professional would suggest me anti depressants, but he cant get me friends, the bit of love and care that i need. So till i find anyone who really understands me my life would probabaly be like this. I am sorry if i have hurt u though my negetivity.
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@harmonee (1236)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I'm sorry you feel that way about yourself. I don't know you, but I'm sure you have value. Every person possesses different talents and knowledge that we can all learn from, use, and work together and make the world better. So even without meeting you, I'm sure you have value. If you really feel like people don't like you, maybe you should ask yourself why. Are you mean? Do you lie, steal, cheat, or come across as a jerk? If you can identify the reason, you can change yourself. Good luck and hopefully you can realize your personal value.
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• India
15 Mar 10
Hi Harmone, thanks that u feel i have some value. I have not lied, stolen or cheated anyone, but ya i dont enjoy sharing much and i am very short tempered too. But at the same time i dont go and fight with anyone. I keep that anger and pain in myself. Let me be honest with u. Others dont think so. I ahve been told by people that many feel that i have no value, no knowledge and dont know work and many other things. People always make fun of me. No one gives me respect and trust me, i have no friends. They feel i am worthless and even if i try to talk to someone they just go offlinbe or give an excuse to go away. Except if they need money or any other help from me. most of my mails i send r never replied and chats unanswered. Only if i talk to people over phone they may speak for a minute or two, but they never feel to call me. I feel really hurt and valueless. I had a real bad day today. One of my friends broke off with me just because she had a misunderstanding that i am trying to fall for her where as i was just trying to behave like a friend. So we had a short fight and she said she doesnt want me to speak to irritate her again. Proabalu u have now understood my life.e. Thanks.
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@harmonee (1236)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I'm sorry to hear of your troubles, but I still think you have value. I've learned growing up that there are a lot of people out there who aren't very good friends. I also have people in my life that only talk to me when they need something. It doesn't make you feel very good. In the last couple years my friendships have been scaled back to only a couple good relationships. The rest have fallen away for one reason or another. There are people out there that are good and will not mistreat you and can be genuine friends. Hold faith. I know it's hard.
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• India
16 Mar 10
Dont worry my friend. Everything is fine now. Life is tough. U also faced tough days. But ur inspiration and encouragement helped. I was talking to my girlfriend today and told her everything. She just blew away the clouds of pain i was in and brought in the sunlight of joy. U all r so good. Thanks!
@1hopefulman (33664)
• Canada
16 Mar 10
I really don't know you. This is the first time I have come across a post by you. Of course, I don't see or read every post. But since you are a fellow human then I do care about you. Keep posting and we'll all get to know you better. So I hope to read more about your views on life.
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• India
16 Mar 10
Dear superman. Thanks that u noticed me. However if u read my other posts u would be able to know a lot of facts about me.
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@1hopefulman (33664)
• Canada
23 Mar 10
Will try to get to know you better by reading some other posts. Have a great day!
• India
27 Mar 10
sure. Wish u a happy weekend...
• United States
15 Mar 10
I don't know you. but I do know no one can put value on you. you have to value yourself first.
• India
16 Mar 10
thanks
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@jugsjugs (13045)
15 Mar 10
Alot of people feel like this at the moment for some reason.I think the reason people are feeling rather down is because there are less people out and about as it has been soo cold as well as soo dull and people tend to stay in alot more.I have stayed in a few weeks now,well a few months as i like to save my money aswell as i hate the cold soo much,i was feeling just like you the other week.I find now bt being on here it makes me feel better as there are always people to chat to aswell as i have made a few good friends aswell.I like you.
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• India
16 Mar 10
Thanks friend. Dont worry, u will get a good time of life soon. Life is not easy as we think but then.. Anyways all the best.
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• United States
15 Mar 10
I don't know if you truly feel this way or if you are just saying it to roil the waters & get people to respond on MyLot. If you truly do feel that you have no value, you are showing signs of depression & you should RUN to a health professional to have someone to talk to that isn't going to make you feel value-less. Perhaps even a medication to even out your body chemistry so you can begin to see your own person & your own value. Personally, I have gone through the same self-doubt. I have scads of talents but none that would earn a living & provide a roof over my head. I can do hundreds of things but not well enough to call it a career or earn accolades. That does not mean I have no value. It means I was given numerous talents of a smaller size & it is up to me to find the largest one & put it to use. If you are surrounded by people who make you feel that you have no value, then you need to look around yourself & see what other interests there are that you can join. Show yourself your true talents & others will see them also. The song "Fancy" says "to thine own self be true." After that everything falls in place.
• India
15 Mar 10
Let me appologise even before I start, because i feel u dont trust what i say. U have raised a question that i may have just written this to roil the waters & get people to respond on MyLot. So i have to say, u r free to think that way too. Afterall i cant proove it. Sorry Trashqueen that i spoke to u rudely. But let me share something with u about my life. People have openly told me that i have no value because i dont have much knowledge, or i dont know to work well. Forget about outsiders, i have found similar responses from my parents too. So i dont share any bit of my personal life with my parents. I hide my identity everywhere. I am lonely and have no friends to share with. Even if i go to a restaurant or a movie i go alone. No one cares for me. No one talks to me, except if they need anything from me. I have never recieved a mail, a call or a chat from my friends. Only if i talk they may respond enough to say they r busy, while most of them just go offline which i feel insulting. Anyways i shouldnt be throwing all my pain at u. Hope u have a happy life and good health. God bless. Take care. Afterall no one understands me.
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@busybee10 (3191)
• India
15 Mar 10
Life is something with each and everyone. It varies from person to person. Some gain value due to their goodness,money,helping nature etc etc. Yes,you have the true value - how...???? Because you cannot understand your value. People may not appreciate you in front,but they hide in their hearts and do not express. We cannot measure our value - it people who observe us and then value us. some places it is known and some places it is not known. Hence, let us do our work sincerely and does not bother at all.
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• India
15 Mar 10
Thanks busybee for feeling i have some value. Actaully i am not too sure as how to respond to u. But let me share something of my life. I have been told by people that many feel that i have no value, no knowledge and dont know work and many other things. People always make fun of me. No one gives me respect and trust me, i have no friends. They feel i am worthless and even if i try to talk to someone they just go offlinbe or give an excuse to go away. Except if they need money or any other help from me. most of my mails i send r never replied and chats unanswered. Only if i talk to people over phone they may speak for a minute or two, but they never feel to call me. I feel really hurt and valueless. I had a real bad day today. One of my friends broke off with me just because she had a misunderstanding that i am trying to fall for her where as i was just trying to behave like a friend. So we had a short fight and she said she doesnt want me to speak to irritate her again. Proabalu u have now understood my life.
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@RachelleNH (1408)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I think maybe everyone has that feeling at one point in their life. I know I've felt that way before. I got rid of those negative friends I had, and then got divorced...and found myself with no one but my kids and mom and sis. I was lonely and down...but it went away. I simply refuse to be sad. Everyone has a purpose here and you never know how much you're appreciated..sometimes other people have wierd ways of showing it. you know the saying "don't take them for granted" thingy. That's why we're here on mylot-to talk AND listen
• India
15 Mar 10
Rachelle, I think u r right and more than that u r a very positive personality. i appreciate that. Unfortuantely i have had a very few days when i didnt feel hurt. Almost everyday someone or the other speaks negetive about me or makes me realise that i am not liked by people. It hurts me, but i cant take revenge. I am lonely with no friends and i cant share my personal life with my parents. Actually no one understands me. Thats the problem. Unfortunately most of the people dont want to understand me and have told it directly, that they have no interest to know me. But if they need any help they behave as him i am like a soul mate to them. Strange but true. I have never been appreciated, but rather been blamed for most of things. Ya we r on Mylot to share , talk and listen. The only reason why i posted this. But know what i have felt i am unwanted on mylot too just as much on other sites, at office, and in the building i stay in. Probably thats how my life is to be life for the rest of it too. Anyways wish u happiness.
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• United States
16 Mar 10
Sometimes people can be busy and seem like they're not listening-and they actually are. I know I feel ignored by a my old friends-they all moved away and have hubbies and kids..I just have my kids-and they keep me busy too LOL So I remember that and just talk to myself So you say no one understands you-do you mean your loneliness? Tell me more about this. Why do you feel blamed and unliked?
• India
16 Mar 10
Dear Rachelle. I just peeped into ur profile and i must say that my paain is nothing in front of urs. U faced so muchof turmoil in ur life. Sorry to talking about that. But i must say that my friendships with u and u can share anything with me. My email id is theonestopheart@gmail.com Coming back to this discussion ...when i say no one understands me .. i mean no one understands whats in my mind or how much of pain or lonliness is in me. I just need someone beside me, with whom i can share everything, someone who will love me, and understand everybit of me. Unfortunately its like this that since childhood i have prefered to be quiet and keep my anger in me. When i was in school, i used to be beaten up and some of them used to kick me to make dirty patches on my clothes, throw ink on my shirt, steal my tiffin, and even beat me till i bled. But i never reacted. Once i was too furious and had compalined to the teacher, but even i was caned. I grew up and reached college. Ofcourse still alone with no friends. Here also i had a room mate who was like a psycho. He used to beat me, throw away my food, get me wet by pouring a bucket full of water and lock me up in the bathroom for the whole night. He used to treat me like a slave. I still didnt say anything. I completed college and came to office. My shifts were in the night and i was not habituated to that. So it was obvious to fall asleep in the office. I was not performing too well at that time. My team leader used to make me keep standing in the middle of the office. I still kept quiet. None of the collges there used to talk to me. No clues why. But i still didnt say anything. Soon i was out of the office and managed to reach a better job. But here customers didnt leave me, my collegues r nice, but still they try to take advantage of my being nice to them. In a team i dont get support of my team mates. I still keep quiet. I did fall in love or atleast infatuations several times, but no one accepted my proposal. To them i was the most unfit person to be in love, but if i asked them as why i was rejected, they said i had no faults in me. Its just that they have some problems and cant accept me. All lies. Anyways...this continued and i am still alone. I stay alone and do everything alone. Lonliness is a pain too. So internet was one option where i could get friends. I started to register in different sites like orkut, facebook, mylot, etc. But the same reaction. Unless i speak others wont. I kept talking to all, but hardly anyone responded. So slowly i got a bit tough and decided that i will talk only if someone spoke to me. Still doing that. Its different on mylot. Though i am not regular on mylot. I come here only when i need to discuss or need a public opinion. I have tried to help people...but couldnt always and was blamed for it. Even for mistakes i never did i was blamed. As in the case of yesterday, one of my so called friends said that she felt i was trying to fall in love with her and said that she has no place for me because she loves her boyfriend with whom she has already broken up. I told her that i didnt fall in love and i wont. I was just a friend, but she started to blame me saying i was lying and that turned into a quarell and then she wouldnt accept. She said she has nothing for me and doesnt care abaout me. I was wild and told her that i will never talk to her again. Thats where we broke and she was happy that i was out of her life. I went to my graphics class. I had made a poster on the topic "Dont drink and drive". I agree there were some flaws in it, which i accepted, but when my teacher said it was a meaningless picture i tried to explain it to him. But even then he didnt accept. He said its just a meaningless piece of picture. I was hurt. Can u believe he showed me a picture of an elephant sitting in a soup boul. He says the meaning of the picture is that it has no meaning and that the meaning of the picture. I was even more wild then. But i kept quiet. The pain was unbearable for me. So i decided to write this post on mylot. I agree i am a stranger to everyone here so no oine would be indescent to say i have no values. But people who know me do they think it the same way? They dont seem to ever think i have value. I have now told u almost everybit og my life in short. Oh one more point i missed out is i am a different character in front of my parents. I talk to them everyday, but never share any bit of my persoanl life with them. They have no clue that all these happen in my life. To them i am like a immatured, happy going kid, whose life is as smooth as can be, tention free, cool life. So whom can i blame or share with. I dont share with them because i am scared to share as i have no clue how they may react and my Dad being a heart patient , i am scared if my sadness causes him any harm. So thats about me. feel free to ask anything u wish too. :)
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
dear hollow, i find you feel very lonely most of the times. i wonder why you dwell on this loneliness all the time. how about doing what you find most as pleasant for you? dont mind others first. stop thinking of lovely ladies giving you headaches. how about going on a trip? love yourself. it is only when you do that you will feel you are valuable. cheers, ann
• India
20 Mar 10
Hi Ann. So nice to hear from u after so long. Actually my problem is not only from girls but men too. As of now the problem is sorted out. Graphic designing is what appeals to my interests the most. Thats what i do. But when my faculty there hurt me, i was broken. I just couldnt design anything. But then things normalised out and now its perfeect. I am also planning for launcjhing my very own agency probably somertime next year. Would tell u more on that once the logo is finalised. :)
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
dear hollowheart, that is wonderful news. time always heals the wound so they say. and i am very happy for you friend. good luck on the launching. cheers, ann
• India
27 Mar 10
Thank u so much dearest Ann. I will surely let u know when I am all ready for the launch. As of now i am working behind the company logo.
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@merita (54)
• Spain
20 Mar 10
Es un pensamiento que muchos compartimos en alguna etapa de la vida,sobre todo las personas que estamos solas sin que haya sido esta nuestra eleccion.Lo unico y creo que muy importante que le puedo decir es que intente gustarse a usted mismo y tendra la seguridad de que le gusta a alguien.Si adapta su vida a lo que cree que valoraran los demas puede que no sea asi y ya ni a usted le guste.No esta solo en su idea,somos muchos asi.Animo.
@merita (54)
• Spain
20 Mar 10
Creia que no habia pasado y lo he escrito varias veces.LO SIENTO.
• India
27 Mar 10
dear Merita. Thank u so much for the support. Unfortunately as i dont know ur language, i couldnt understand everything u wrote. But i felt it was in support of me. :)
• Romania
20 Mar 10
You say that no one likes you or cares for you, but you seem to forget about your girlfriend. You say that you want to make friends, but you expect others to notice you and start a meaningful conversation with you. You say that you have no value, but you have a job you enjoy, and are about to launch your own agency. I see you as a very self-sufficient individual who tries to convince himself that he doesn't really need other people to feel happy and fulfilled. That's understandable, considering the fact that you were hurt as a child. I think that you are trying too hard to be perfect and you expect the same from others. I think you should try to know yourself better.
• India
27 Mar 10
Hi. Well ofcourse my girlfriend loves me. She is the only one who supports me. But overall when people go against me i get hurt and broken. So this was one of the expressions after i was hurt. Yes whatever i am and am trying to do , i am doing alone and ya i believe that i can do it myself and keep myself happy. But even then dont u think a friend is needed too sometimes. Specially because my girlfriend lives more than 2500 kilometers amay from me. Thanks friend for ur suggestion.
@merita (54)
• Spain
20 Mar 10
Somos muchos quienes en algun momento de la vida lo hemos sentido,sobre todo si estamos solos y no es una eleccion voluntaria.Lo unico que puedo decirle es que valore usted mismo su vida y tendra la seguridad de que le gusta al menos a una persona,si la varia buscando la aprobacion de los demas puede que no le guste a nadie.No esta solo.Animo.
@merita (54)
• Spain
20 Mar 10
Es algo que nos ocurre a muchas personas en algun momento de nuestras vidas,sobre todo si estamos solas y no ha sido por eleccion propia.Lo unico que le puedo decir y muy importante es que se guste y valore usted mismo y tendra la seguridad de que al menos le gusta a alguien.Si cambia su vida intentando que lo valoren los demas puede que no sea asi y ni a usted se guste.Somos muchos quienes sentimos algo parecido.No esta solo.Animo.