What is the big deal?

@AmbiePam (50450)
United States
March 15, 2010 5:29pm CST
Have you ever dreaded something, and then when it was time for it, you discovered it was not nearly as bad as you thought it would be? Or you knew you were going to be in a class with a certain teacher you didn't like, but they turned out not to be so bad? I was thinking about that today when I filled out my census form. People had been saying all these personal questions were going to be asked, and it was going to be so detailed...Once I read the questions I thought, what was the big brouhaha about? The only one I didn't answer was my phone number. I figured since they asked for my name, if they wanted to talk to me so badly, they could always look me up.
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17 responses
• Canada
15 Mar 10
I have been in situations before where I was expecting something horrible and it turned out not to be so bad (both births of my daughters)I had them both via c-section and when you get a c-section their are always certain risks like everything else because it is a pretty big operation. Before having Chloe on the 7th of October I barely slept at all the week before worrying about her and asking my hubby all the what if's and what not. But it wasn't that bad at all! A few parts of it were really scary (I won't go into detail), but overall it went fine and now 5 months later I am completely healed!
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@GardenGerty (105498)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Ours came today, I need to answer it. If I remember the last one correctly it was nothing. I know that there is a lot of skepticism and fear of the government going on right now and that seems to translate into distrust of anything associated with the government. I will probably even give them my phone number, it is the same as it was the last three times.
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@HelloMickey (1663)
• Hong Kong
16 Mar 10
It happens to me a lot, thought it bad and turned out to be so different as what I thought it would be. After several times of worrying, I get used to this feeling and would stop feeling bad on the thing I worried about.
@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I know what you mean! I haven't looked at my census paperwork yet - LOL. However, I have been in this situation. When I was in high school just about to graduate, I knew I was close to having the top grade in the class; therefore, I would have to give the Valedictorian speech. Being the good student that I was, I went ahead and prepared a speech two weeks ahead of time just in case. I found out the night before high school graduation that I was in fact the Valedictorian. It was great that I already had the speech put together because it paid off! Even though the hardest part was done, I was SO nervous! I had to give this speech in front of a few hundred people. Yikes! I was dreading the speech SO much by the morning before graduation that I skipped out on the last day of school and awards ceremony because I was so sick over it. Graduation wasn't until that evening, thank goodness, so I had time to pull myself together. For crying out loud, the speech was only supposed to be about ten minutes long. How hard could it be? Especially considering I had it all written out and rehearsed already?? Well, I wasn't going to skip out on my own high school graduating so I sucked it up and went. I knew I had to make the speech either way so I got over my nerves. I ended up having a blast. My speech got over with within the first few minutes of the program so it was great. Also, one thing I've found that calms my nerves more than anything else is talking! So...what better way to do it than stand in front of a few hundred people and talk. That did the trick! The speech went so smoothly, and I got so many compliments. I had so much fun. It was one of the best days of my life that I wished I could go back and enjoy it even more (without all the nerves). They say 80 percent of the things we dread and worry about never even end up happening! I thought I'd mess up the speech so badly, but it all worked out in the end. How cool. Thanks for posting this discussion. It was a lot of fun!
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Mar 10
hi ambiepam oh I do remember when I was younger and working as a nurses aide out of a nurses registry I would get panicked over being sent to an unfamiliar hospital and wonder if I could cope even though I had been working as a nurses aide for years, And every time I did go to a place I had not been sent to before, it turned out to be just fine, nothing I could not handle. maybe a bit more posh some of them than I was used to but I could handle it easily enough. I was liked so much at this one very posh hospital they wanted me to come back for a whole month to take the place of an aide who was very ill. As they wanted me to work without a day off this one I turned down. in that kind of a job you need your days off to rest up.
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@coffeegurl (1470)
• United States
16 Mar 10
There's always a bit of nervousness when I got to the dentist. But, afterward, I realize it isn't so bad.
@AmbiePam (50450)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I used to dread the dentist when I was a kid. Now I wish I had the money to go more often! lol
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@AmbiePam (50450)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I'll check that out, thanks.
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
18 Mar 10
Ironic you say this because I too looked over it hoping to see if I can help my husband fill it out. ARE YOU KIDDING? I can fill it out probably better than he can, because he always forgets birthdays and such. So I ahve no idea other than the govrenment gets your name and address, which like you said, if they really want to know, they can find it themselves..
@AmbiePam (50450)
• United States
19 Mar 10
By the way, you mentioned wanting to know which issue of Reader's Digest my little "anecdote" was in. It is apparently in April's issue, and the cover is something about vitamins. My Nana has a subscription to it, so that is how I found out which issue. It is near the back of the issue, under Life in these United States.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
18 Mar 10
I think it is like that most of the time; we worry about a future incident and almost always imagine it will worse than what it actually is by the time the event actually happens. I think it is because when we worry we envision the worst case scenario which is not necessarily what is going to eventuate. In fact I cannot recall any situation in my life up to date that has ever turned out as bad as I feared it would! I am attempting to teach this concept to my eight year old daughter who is prone to stressing like I am!
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@AmbiePam (50450)
• United States
18 Mar 10
I hope she learns it better than I have. lol
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@megamatt (14326)
• United States
16 Mar 10
Yes, I have dreaded something numerous times in my life. It is amusing almost at times some of the things that I have dreaded. I find myself laughing about the fact that I ever dreaded that particular thing later on once it is done and I can breath easier. Many times, the anticipation is ten times worse than what actually happens. It will allow something to build up in the mind to insane levels and escalate the deepest, darkest fears to insane levels. There were many tests that I had in school that reached these levels. It never failed, no matter how many times I had went through this song and dance, there were similar feelings of dread each and every time. I think the ACT tests were the biggest example of this. Obviously important, but the level that I freaked out was a bit much and it amuses me now. Of course, I think my fear caused me to do so good in an indirect way.
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@AmbiePam (50450)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I can relate. : )
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
17 Mar 10
We got our census today too. I, like you, was expecting more personal questions than what was asked. Maybe there is more than one version going around, but this one really was no big deal. The last time I was that pleasantly surprised was when I took the road test to get my drivers license. My older brother failed twice before getting his. Mine ended up being no big deal...the tester spent more time craned around looking at my mother in the back seat, he didn't pay any attention to me at all. I passed with flying colors...
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Mar 10
Almost always something I dread ends up not being so bad. The exception to the rule is talking to my husband about certain sensitive topics.
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• United Kingdom
16 Mar 10
My mind seems to be inundated at times with needless thoughts! I do tend to over-think a situation prior to being involved in that situation. Then, upon arrival I notice that it's not really that bad and it's nothing in comparison to what I thought it would be. I have noticed that there are still times when a situation is as bad as I imagine it to be. Life is tough with its twists and turns but I manage to cope the best way I can and I try to focus on positive thinking now as opposed to negative thinking, I find this helps me a lot when preparing to go into a situation that I'm not too comfortable with. Andrew
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
16 Mar 10
Hey Amber! I am lmao at your comment about the phone number! I was thinking the same thing! Why do I have to tell them that? If they want to find me let them look it up! I forgot how simple the form was too! I thought it had alot more information to fill out too since it's been awhile since I filled one out! I got mine yesterday too! And what if they miss a person or two? Do they really think that some of those illegal's that are living here are actually going to tell the truth about how many people are living in their house? I think not! And are they going to go door to door and count? I was thinking of putting down Star and Luna just to throw them off!
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• Philippines
16 Mar 10
Interesting topic! Yes, I too have been in situations when there's something "scary" and when the day comes, I would say "that's it"? I am a nurse and I remember dreading our licensure exam. It sure was scary. We were studying a lot and we all were trying our best. My classmates and I chose the best review center for us. I neglected my hobby (drawing) for 2 months so that I could give time to study. When the day came, my classmates and I were thinking that the exam was really easy. On the day of the exam, I saw a male test-taker and he was crying. I was thinking "What the $%#@? The exam was easy." I also heard conversations like "I didn't finish like half of the exam." While answering some questions, I was thinking "Is this a joke? Really?" Most of us in our batch passed the exam. Now I know, it's not hard if you studied hard for it. So don't let what others say get into your head. I have another exam coming up and knowing this, I am confident I will pass the other one. There's been an anouncement that the passing rate for that exam would be higher. Many are threatened by it. At first, I was thinking about it too. But then, I thought about it logically. "What is the big deal? They said the passing rate would be raised but they never said anything about making the exam difficult." It's really funny, disappointing, or relieveing when what we expect is so threatening yet it turns out something that's easy to deal with. I guess it depends on a person's perception of things around him/her.
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@pergammano (7755)
• Canada
16 Mar 10
Good morning, Ambie. Apprehension...fear of the unknown, another one of those human traits I am blessed with. Normally, it is exams...of any form that put the fear into me. I think in all my life...exams/tests are my biggest hurdle! Many times it comes from knowing that I am not completely prepared...but do not know how to achieve that level of comfort! And you are sooooo right...oft times the "mountain out of a mole-hill" was created in my mind! Take care and Cheers!
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
16 Mar 10
The warning was not on the form ya got thru the mail but from the poeple coming to the door! Those are the ones to watch for for they try to get all info so they can either steal you name or all your info!
@AmbiePam (50450)
• United States
16 Mar 10
Good luck to them. I never answer my door unless someone has called ahead and I know who it is. I don't have a peephole. So I have nothing to worry about. hee hee On another site I was being warned that the paper census, what I got, was a big deal and all of these personal questions would be asked of me. I related this experience to the people on the site who had been so vocal about it. They just replied that some people got longer surveys for the census than I did.
@AmbiePam (50450)
• United States
16 Mar 10
Lakota I just had a thought, did you do a discussion on the census or something? Because what I was talking about was over on gather. After I read your response again I thought, uh-oh. Did she mention that in a post and think I was talking about her? I like you a lot and would never want to offend you. Because what do I know anyway?
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
17 Mar 10
No I never did one on the census. I just got mine and all its asking is names of people living her by the 1st of April well my company will be moved out so guess they wont be counted this time. From tv I had heard that they had bogus people out there tring to pass thier selves as census takers and asking very personal questions! But I didnt see any good thing they would have got a chewing out. I have window in my fron door and to other window I can see who is coming to the door dont answer if I dont want too. Now if I dont see them Grand daughter wll come tell me and she might have already answered the door good thing we have security screen locked! Now this morning on our news its telling us that we need to be counted so we might get another seat in the government and another electorial vote hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. any how the more poeple that do the more the state gets for certain things. I dont know about that never see any thing but rasing tazes! lol hugsssssssssssssss
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
23 Mar 10
Oh yes many a time and as you say once the time comes it was not as bad as you expected it to be