What hurts the most in life?

@uniqueorn (1011)
Philippines
March 16, 2010 8:31am CST
You know, in life we cannot deny pain from the path we take. They are always there. They are of different forms. They destroy us but they make us strong. They make us cry but to prepare us for a greater problem to solve in the future. They make us give up but let us realize somehow the value of standing up. There are reasons why we are in pain. Like for me, the following makes me hurt so bad a.) When I am naturally hit by illness b.) When I am left by someone I love c.) When I am injured d.) When I feel alone in a group of people e.) When I see people struggling f.) When I see helpless people on the street g.) When I cannot own something I dearly want And there's a lot more. How about you? What do you think are the matters in life which hurt you so badly that you cannot just get over easily or you haven't forgotten yet?
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35 responses
16 Mar 10
Losing my beloved Father the other year. It still hurts me every day, I can't just pick up the phone and hear his voice, I can't go to see him, he's not there anymore. It hurts a lot, and even with the passage of time, the hurt doesn't lessen
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
17 Mar 10
Sorry to know that..
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Sorry to know this too.
@kiel_d_01 (136)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
for me... it's losing something beloved ... i've always valued everything i have since i can only have a few ... i value others but i dont value myself ... i've got a lot of pains that i've never showed and i think they're all filling me up and making it more painful to bear ... i'm not used to losing something valuable ... or rather i've never lost one ... but the thought of losing that special one ... ... ...
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@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
learn to value yourself. emo, i know people like you have usually pain to keep inside. Remember pain is natural. But when it lingers long inside your mind, it may be a psychological matter to heal from time to time. Just ask for God's guidance though for pain to be milder than they should be to you. Anyway, going back to the topic, I too have never tried losing someone special. But the thought of losing them is painful. I have had cried already when I think of those things to happen. But I don't pray them to come true.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
17 Mar 10
Losing that special one.. me too... I feel very hurt when I lost any of my love ones..
@celticeagle (157563)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Mar 10
Yes, we cannot deny the truths of life. It is wonderful to stand up and be strong and do all we can in life to be happy and fulfill our dreams. But, for me I seem to be a down mood that will not let go. Here are the things that hurt me so bad: 1.) When there are more days in the month than I have money 2.) When I realize I have so little to look forward to. 3.) When I think there is no reason to get up from bed in the morning 4.) When i feel sick and down day after day and nothing changes. 5.) When I come to the realization that my life has no happiness or adventure left in it.
@celticeagle (157563)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Mar 10
Well, I think you are much more disciplined than I am for one thing. And, for me I have to disagree. I think my situation is both pathetic and sad. To wake up each day and not care if you get up, get dressed, and get after it or not. Nothing wonderful or great about feeling this way. It is like taking a huge wedge out of the circle of life.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
But you know, we only have a life. Only one. So we just have to make things happy and smooth-flowing. We cannot just let a smile slip away everyday. You know what i mean.
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@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
Phenomenal! I mean, well you just said it. It all wraps to this idea that it pains when it bores. When I think that life is senseless and has nothing more to give to me, I feel helpless and numb but in pain. This is the kind of thing which irritates my mood. That's why as much as possible, I would like to make myself busy and join in the things I loved to because they make me earn money everyday, they are something to look forward to, they inspire me from getting up from bed early, if I'm sick I am motivated to move still and increases the adventure of life. Thank you for this celticeagle. This is wonderful
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@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
The things that hurt most: You thought he was the one but he wasn't Not being appreciated by your work Nasty things said about me that arent true. Ignoring the things that IV'e done. That is one long list, unfortunately it's not going to work for me..hihihi
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
It crashes and falls and crumbles. How hard could that be? Well No matter how hard we complain it's always going to boil up on the same thing. Silence helps but sometimes you just cant help and wish that you'd do something about it.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
So true! Well moving on could be an option. Find things worth spending with your effort.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Ignoring the things that I've done! So true! It makes you shiver to the bones and wanna scream. After all those time wasted to do this particular thing and let people appreciate it, they are ignored and it crashes the world all at once.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
16 Mar 10
Hurts most in life is when my love is hurted coz of me. Well thats the most paining part for me. I always want my lovable wife to be happy. When she gets hurt by me and if i know i was the reason, that hurts me so bad. For me she is the world so pain is more!
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@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
YES! This is clever. I haven't thought of this! Yes. The feeling of guilt after having hurt someone you love so much is grinding my body all over. I feel like it's a grave sin.
@totor_53 (223)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
the most painful happening in life is that when you see your loved one suffers and you do not have anything to do to ease his/her sufferings.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
17 Mar 10
The most worst kind of betrayal that I can think of is betrayal. It really hurts real time when someone whom you have trusted for too long suddenly betrays you. Hence losing your trust and especially when they don't think that they have done anything wrong to you at all.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Betrayal hurts really bad especially when that someone who betrays you is the one who have lived with for a long time.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
17 Mar 10
That is so true,my friend. And more often than not, we find ourselves struggling to get back on track... but it can be done, with time.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
As they say, time heals all wounds.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Oct 10
I have always been a person that loves and loves deeply. Of course, this also means that there are a lot of things that deeply injure me. That said, these are just a few of the things that I have a hard time dealing with: 1) The loss of someone that I love 2) Betrayal by someone that I care about 3) Not being able to help a person that is in need 4) Having to tell my children that we can't afford something that they want
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
It's like saying the deeper you love the more you are deeply hurt.
@acer5540 (354)
• China
18 Mar 10
I feel the life is hard for me recent days, most of time i don't know why and do nothing.I just sit there, facing the window, look at the outside and don't know why i am here. I have a warm family, my parents love me, and my husband treat me well and take good care of me , and i have a steady work... It seems that i should satisfied, but i don't ,i still feel painful about the life, just like you mentioned, when i think about the future, the price of the house is very high in China now, for common person,maybe 3 generation are busy for one small flat....There are many poor people in the society,while the rich people never take on the responsibility to the whole society,the law is not integrity, it is easier for the rich. If we are naturally hit by illness, the high cost of medical will raise this painful.All i want to say is how hard the life is, while we should not to be so painful in fact.Sigh.
@acer5540 (354)
• China
18 Mar 10
Yes, you are right, i just feel helpless when facing difficulties... Sometimes,i do want help, but feel myself is too weakness. Anyway,thanks for your advice and your good topic.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
Exactly. Sometimes life's pain is caused by other people's greed and mischief. I feel for you acer5540. The irrelevance of life sometimes we cannot help but be helpless. Even if we do something about it, they are constant or so hard to change even. So to say, the least we can do is to accept how things are going and stay positive as much as we could.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
You are welcome acer. Happy Mylotting
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
What makes me hurt so bad is: 1. You have good intentions, such as helping people and being taken maliciously by others. 2. When you did your utmost best but it seems that it is not enough. 3. Pleasing people but you're aware that you can't please them all 4. Being honest when everyone doubts your motives.
• United States
17 Mar 10
I know what you mean. To me, there is nothing worse than being honest and people seem to be attempting to make you be dishonest anyway. That burns me up!
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
Bullseye! These are concrete answers to begin with. There are some people really who just can't absorb your aura maybe because you're just too good for them or they thought they are too good for you. It is either way. But whatever it is, you still have a life to lead you know, please others who need you the most and leave those dislike you. This is a situation wherein you have to loose what makes you sick and give the best shot with what makes you good.
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
In this journey called life, the roads we travel are often rocky. But, when times are really tough, Someone carries us on His shoulder to make our trip bearable. But, being human, we still feel the pain and sometimes lose faith. Being human, we are also resilient and we get back on track. What hurts me most is losing a loved one. After a while, though, I realize that we don't really lose anyone because someday when the time comes, we will be together again. I console myself by saying, "God needed my son to be with Him anywhere and everywhere so that both of them can help his loved ones and everyone who need help." For now, I pray that I will be the next one to go. Such is life, so let's focus on the brighter side and hope for the best. Have a lovely day, uniqueorn
@acer5540 (354)
• China
18 Mar 10
In fact ,i'm not happy recently, i just don't know why i have to in this world.Your above words were encouraged me, being human, and a general one, we have to face our lives,with courage.Tks!
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• Philippines
19 Mar 10
Hi uniqueorn and acer, Thanks a lot for your comments. You're both right, let's face life with courage and faith. Have a fabulous day, my fellow mylotters.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
That's heart-warming. You are an inspiration. :)
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
It's loosing someone you love! Some die and some go away. I just don't want to be left alone for the matter that i always need someone. Parents, friends and all.
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
yes, no man is an island as they say. good day!
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Being lonely pains a lot. But being alone hurts more. Nature to human is a company. Without them, life seems meaningless.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
16 Mar 10
hi uniqueorn. i can only think of two types of pain. physical and emotional. unfortunately, the latter is one which does not heal easily long after all the physical wounds have cleared up. to me, what hurts the most in life has got to do with something emotional in nature. when my grandmother passed away i thought that god was unfair to have taken her away. she was the best grandma i ever knew. i was so depressed for several months and wasn't my usual self then. my studies, my entire life was beginning to feel the pinch as well. that must have hurt me the most. i have since got up and moved on...
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
That's sad to hear from you tomitomi. But surely though, your grandma will always be proud of who you are right now. She knows too that she is loved by you. Happy Mylotting!
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
17 Mar 10
thank you uniqueorn. happy myLottin too!!!
• United States
16 Mar 10
...When my dad passed away, It's been five years ago but still, I wish, I hope...he still alive.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
This is much more like the song "Dance With My Father". And scenes like this do make me cry time and again. I cannot imagine losing my father. Anyway, you can do it angelsofmine. It's just a test of character from God. Happy Mylotting.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
That makes your father a legend now. You are always welcome angelsofmine2010. :)
• United States
17 Mar 10
Thanks uniqueorn,I know wherever he is right now, he's so happy and proud knowing that my son's name is after him. :)
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
9 Apr 10
Hi, uniqueorn. When someone lies on me. When I failed at something that I have been waiting on all of my life to achieve. When someone that I love tell me that they no longer love me. When I am very sick and have a bad illness. When my kids don't listen to me and are disrespectful. When my friend does not want anything to do with me because I may not have something that they do have. When the man that I have been married to for many years, is cheating on me. When my own family that I grew up with forsake and reject me. When people at school don't want me to be in the same group with them. When my own parents don't love and care for me. When people treat me unkind for nothing. These things will crush my heart if they are done to me. This is what causes me pain.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Thank you for sharing cream97. We do know that we have common denominator when it comes to pain.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
9 Apr 10
when someone hurts me deeply with their words. Their words will repeat in my mind again and again just like music turning on without a break. That hurts me so.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
WE all have this kind of attitude actually. But it would really depend how you control it. This is a psychological matter. We can take control the way we think. It may be hard but I've been there. I just have to be very passive with what I think is destructive and be appreciative with the constructive.
• Bangladesh
17 May 10
I'm a believer on Allah. I remember Him in my worries and happiness. He is the Master of illness and peace. Therefore, when I think that I'll get nothing what I want from him hurts me most. But after a while I recover by His grace and feel very happy, comfortable and peaceful. Have a nice day.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
That's a nice motivation though. I will surely learn from this.
19 Mar 10
when i get betrayed... but as much as it hurts so bad i never dwell on the pain or the act done against me..they are people just as i am and i know that we always end up hurting the people we love. it's just a matter of looking things at a different perspective. you hang on to negative feelings...you'll miss out on more essential things in life.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Now, upon reading the responses of this thread, it is such a realization that betrayal is the number one matter that hurts people. Who anyway would not be hurt with this kind of thing, right?
@edorms36 (275)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Mar 10
As we go through life there will always be pain along the way and as I look back to those years that had passed I realized that those things that hurt me the most are those pain caused by people who had betrayed my trust and confidence, the one's who made me doubt my worth as a person; who had broken your faith in the goodness of the human heart. The people who are dear and close to my heart. When you've held them and carried them in your heart, nurture the bond that ties between, grew and cultivated it only to be torn by betrayal and distrust; my heart bleeds...aren't yours?
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
My heart bleeds when betrayal comes. But you know, I must learn that people are imperfect. We are all prone to betray. For that, I give reconsideration. I just move on but things are like never before.
@engrdng06 (248)
• Japan
28 Mar 10
yeah pain is like a twin of happiness. Im only 23 right now but Im diagnosed to have sickness that seems to be impossible to be cured. During my university years people often tell they are so envious with me. I am on the top of the class,am very active with the extra-curricular activities competing to different parts of the country, I got good family, found a good job and everything was good. Right now, Im into a very good and stable relationship with plans to marry and have my own child. But recently, all these dreams turn into a nightmare when I found out I cannot bear a child and the worst, I have this sickness.The painful part is, I was just starting to dream then all of a sudden, Ill wake up in the morning as if Id never dreamed.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
I'm sorry to hear this. This has been posted 7 months ago like I've never had the chance to peak on my threads because I have been very busy. But anyway, It's not yet too late to tell you that my dreams are with you. It's not yet the end. We still have lots of ways to consider being happy.