Why is looks always important???

@saphrina (31739)
South Africa
March 16, 2010 9:21am CST
Now, tantrum and get it over with. I need a straightforward and honest answer. I want to know, why is it always looks that have to come first in anything?? Friendships or relationships. Aren't we forgetting the real person behind it all?? Now, will someone give me an answer. Lame won't do it for me.
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19 responses
@pcserver (395)
16 Mar 10
exactly, why are looks so important i do not know. but recently it seems it is better to hire for a job someone a goodlooking person rather than a qualified one. Goodlooking people sell something easier with a little charm and fawning and others buy it because of that sometimes not because it is the best product that is on the market, for example. Beauty controls the world, so it is not such a shock for everybody. everyone knows that pretty girls tend to find jobs easily and people pay more attention to them, actually they can be a centre of attention. As much as the others they struggle and compete to become the best in something, but I don't think they would or maybe there are a few exceptions maybe if you compare two people in that situatiun, for example.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
You are right. And that makes me really angry. It is degrading to treat people that way. I wish i can get my hands on some of those people. That would give me satisfaction to teach them humility and very good manners. Thanx. TATA.
@pcserver (395)
16 Mar 10
Get them. :)
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Mar 10
Don't worry sweetie, i will. TATA.
@primeaque86 (8112)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
Hi saphrina... This is an honest answer dear. When you are really inlove, you are not considering the looks at all. What matters is what you feel... it's from within... why is it you can still feel the love even if you have not seen the physical looks??? That only proves that true love never consider first the physical look... PAALAM.
@sunnycool (12736)
• India
16 Mar 10
That was coool prime nice definition and enough of information for some one to have a look at your love
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
Thank you man... I really hope she'd realize...
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
And the master of love has spoken. BB, if i knew you were such a professional, i would have knocked on your door a long time ago. Now, Prime, i like what you have said and it is true. Beauty comes from within, but for some reason a lot of people don't even know what to look for in another person. They only see the face. TATA.
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Looks are for first impression. The attitude plays second since you will only see this once you get to know the other person more.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Mar 10
Yes i get it. But if that person hasn't got the looks you want, will you still want to get to know that person?
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
Yes of course. The difference between the good looking and the not-so-good-looking is men usually get attracted to the good looking. There's that physical attraction already. On the other hand, men also like to be friends with the not-so-good-looking just to be friends. As they get to know more each other, they will realize that they like that person not because of the looks but for more deeper reasons such compatibility. In this case looks is no longer a consideration.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Mar 10
Sweetie now you have me confused. But i will take your word for it. TATA.
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
17 Mar 10
saphrina, what comes to your mind when you look at a still-life painting and an abstract? there are people who enjoy looking at one, not the other. there are also those who enjoy looking at both and can spend hours gazing at them. a lot depends on the individual actually, especially a person one meets for the first time. there are people who judge and accept us by our looks. there are also people who look beyond our physical selves to see the inner beauty in us. whether it is just physical beauty or inner beauty it is all up to one's priorities and aims/goals you might say. i cannot deny the fact that physical look does play a part because it's the first thing you notice about a person. and that's only human.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Mar 10
I know it is human nature. But who are we to judge other's, especialy on looks?. Thanx. TATA.
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
18 Mar 10
i'm sure we have all heard this phrase many times over, "be yourself". as long as we are ourselves we don't have to worry to be accepted or otherwise. i've read some of your comments. you have your own mind and you can be humourous too. well that should somehow shine through in your words and actions. they say the body is also a good mirror of what's inside.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Mar 10
Thanx sweetie. But that is just me. Oh, and i think my mirror broke or something. It went all hazy. TATA.
@dpk262006 (56566)
• Delhi, India
16 Mar 10
Hi saphrina! You see now a days packaging matters and if the packaging is good, people love to buy the product. Same is true in case of human beings, if one has good looks, many get attracted towards him/ her. (BTW, I have good looks and I take advantage of my looks ........lol!) Deepak
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
And you always do that to me. But don't worry, my time will come. I agree, but it isn't right. TATA.
@dpk262006 (56566)
• Delhi, India
17 Mar 10
Saphrina, I love humour and fun (if you took it otherwise, I am sorry) because whatever I wrote, I wrote in a lighter vain. You can also do likewise. (BTW, I can assure you that I look handsome.........)
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Mar 10
You know me better than that. I love humour, it keeps me going. And we are handsome, are we??
@sunnycool (12736)
• India
16 Mar 10
Its human nature SB---every one looks for the best and hence there is a demand for that---i do agree that Good looking ones are very much alert in their thoughts and they do not have a plain mind and heart for sure than others.But they can be good lovers tooo but a little harder to impress them than the others
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
BB, i am the kind who would actually take you on and win this one. There ain't no such thing as a plain mind, for pete's sake. And why would we want to impress others. You like someone for what they are, not how they look or you leave that person alone. As simple as that.
@sunnycool (12736)
• India
16 Mar 10
Impression in the sense -----isn't trying hard to get their attention.In a pool pf crowded people the good looking ones stand out right in that way it works and First impression is the best impression---i do believe in this and before you add something of this kind i shall add one more proverb on behalf of you-----Faces can be deceptive tooo.As you have already said that no one is plain enough then why not go for the best
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
Sometimes i wish i can just give you up, BB. But as i always keep my promises, i geuss your answer will have to do.
@cloud31 (5811)
16 Mar 10
Hi saph, I never consider looks when friendships and relationship is concerned I always look behind that personality,I don't think I will have to prioritize the looks, i cannot remember anything I did at all. I just love people who act like humans and not just pretend for something good on them. Happy myLotting..
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
Thanx sweetie. So you are one who never judge a book by its cover. I like that. Thanx. TATA.
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Me too. I don't prioritize looks when it comes to friendship. I'd rather befriend those people who are not stunningly goog-looking because I would just get insecure or discriminated if I do have very good-looking friends.haha.As to relationships, I'm very particular with looks.Sorry for that.
@cloud31 (5811)
17 Mar 10
@gambamarcela,nice one! That's my girl..
@adaox1 (65)
• Belgium
16 Mar 10
It's all about first impressions. What is it that our brains 'meet' first; exactly, the appearance of someone. After a certain amount of time we try to dig deeper into the person, but at start it's all about the looks. The speed of the 'digging deeper' process also depends on the looks. We want to be friends with people that we find attractive and if possible even get a relationship with them. It's nothing to worry about though, it's human nature.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
Ok, then answer this for me. You come into a reataurant, for instance. You see only two people at a table. One is good looking and the other one not. Who is the first one you will talk to or will you talk to both, equaly?
@adaox1 (65)
• Belgium
16 Mar 10
This is a very, very interesting question saphrina! I can answer you on this but it's all in people's mind. A year ago I would mainly talk to the 'less good looking' person becouse I didn't feel good about my own looks. However, as soon as I'd think that the better looking person likes me (in anyway possible) I'd try this one. Nowadays I feel my skin is getting clean and I'm feeling alot better so I'd try the better looking one at first but also trying to give some attention at the less looking person. I hope I answered your question correctly without insulting someone, as this is surely not what I want. Another thing, with 'good looking' I especially mean the way they behave and such, you can be hot but still act ugly if you know what I mean.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
See, that wasn't so bad. Thank you. You answered it as i wanted it. TATA.
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
..bcuz it is the truth. people base their assessment of someone from the looks. if someone comes up to you and says he doesn t base it upon looks dismiss it immediately as a lie. i, for instance, was mistaken for a gay. im a dude straight up. the thing is i have small asian eyes and a bright complexion so i guess that s gay for them. they were telling me things like i have to come out of the closet or something. i say im friggin out in the open. lol. they were so convinced that i was gay. that s how serious the basis of looks is. they see someone, they form this image of you inside their heads, and they start seeing things that s not really there. people nowadays just dont take the time and look at what s really there or whats really happening. they want to make it easy for themselves and just form their own reality. that s how conmen got their way around. conmen know this principle and always keep it in mind. they dress up accordingly, produce the familiar, and bam! next thing you know you re a couple of bucks short.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
And that my friend is exactly what i was looking for in this discussion. I hope you sorted them out. Otherwise, i will come and do it for you. No charge at all. I would love it. Thanx. TATA.
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
anytime. oh, sorry for the double post. or i think it was triple. my computer was hanging up. happy mylotting!
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
Don't worry about it. These things happens. TATA.
@vividh89 (69)
• India
17 Mar 10
According to me, Looks are temporary and will only help you in a beginning. It might be easy for you to start a relationship or to go for a job if you are a good looking. But your good looks are not going to help in long run. After a certain time what is inside you will matter the most. The people who give preferences to only looks are miserable people.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Mar 10
And that is so very true. Sorry, there isn't a gold star here. But i can give you this, instead. TATA.
@di44ito (496)
• Bulgaria
17 Mar 10
the look is so important because this is the first thing that you see in someone, before you talk to him or something else you see him first and sometimes it`s realy important for people to make that first impresion good.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Mar 10
Thank you for the response. I have to think on this one. TATA.
@bensclai (62)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
for younger ones, looks are that important. yet when one grow older, looks will not matter that much anymore. Communication then will be most important. That is why they say ' marry the one you are most comfortable talking to with, because when you grow older, look will no longer matter but communication will'. I think there is a biological explanation to it.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Mar 10
Thanx, i appreciate it. And i have to agree. TATA.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
17 Mar 10
Hi Saphrina... I am sure you'll get many answers for your question... Looks!!! Looks define the personality of a being. Looks attract/repel others. Looks are important because they're valued by all. At the same time, no one is ignoring the real person behind those looks, of course... But when one meets you for the first time, does he give you an entire idea about his innermost personality? Or for that matter, is that even possible? Tell us, what do you see first when you meet a stranger? Suppose you have a blind date tonight, he has told you that he has casanova or greek God kind of looks... And when he turns up, you find him to be entirely different from your expectations; would you proceed with your date? Looks are important because they define our personality...
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Mar 10
I understand what you are saying. But here is the real me. I will still go on that date. I give everybody a fair chance in life. I don't care about looks. I care about the person. Hope that made sense. TATA.
• India
17 Mar 10
my friendship s important.. without understanding we cant continue friendship..but with other relations we can continue for name sake also.. than all other relationship, friendship s a step head.. hop u ll get wat am sayin...
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Mar 10
Thanx and yes, i get exactly what you are saying. Enjoy. TATA.
• China
17 Mar 10
i think when i meet some stranger.i'm aways use my eyes to look at him first.who doesn't. this is the easier and faster way to konw people.so looks is very important.but we can't trust someone just because what his looks.we need more inside understanding.as chinese folk adage(i don't really know how to translate it):as day long ,you will know people's heart.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Mar 10
I look at eyes as well, as i love people's eye colour, but to tell you the turth i have two not so attractive friends, but they are mine and better i will never find anywhere. Thanx. TATA.
@fianne (1059)
• United States
16 Mar 10
i think it depends on what you are into. if you are making friends and you look bad, people will not even dare look at you. most of them will ignore you. that's true. come to think of it, if you looked like a beggar, looks comes first before anything else. that's how people are. i've been to that because we made a research of it so we can put something in our article in the school publications. and people are ignoring us! if you have friends already and are very honest to you and you look bad, they will tell you that you don't look good at all. not that they make fun of you, they just peak their mind on how you look and they mind it because you mean to them. not that you need to look fabulous, but being clean will matter. now, if you are in a relationship, may it be you look good, you look bad, you smell foul or whatever, it will not matter as long as he or she loves you right? BUT! would you like to look ugly in front of the one you love? no right?
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
Very good points. But i still cannot see why everyone just look and don't really make a point in getting to really know that person. Thanx. TATA.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
16 Mar 10
Well, when you see a person, you first see, then talk and then understand. So first goes to the eye. And so the looks. Though thats a sad part, we dont understand the real character, thats the fact. The present world gives importance to looks and personality. But friendships i dont agree looks comes first. My gang is a mixture of all, looks is least important in our friendship!
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
16 Mar 10
Yes, it is sad that the real person, doesn't get noticed at all. But at least you and your gang don't worry about that. TATA.
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
..bcuz it is the truth. people base their assessment of someone from the looks. if someone comes up to you and says he doesn t base it upon looks dismiss it immediately as a lie. i, for instance, was mistaken for a gay. im a dude straight up. the thing is i have small asian eyes and a bright complexion so i guess that s gay for them. they were telling me things like i have to come out of the closet or something. i say im friggin out in the open. lol. they were so convinced that i was gay. that s how serious the basis of looks is. they see someone, they form this image of you inside their heads, and they start seeing things that s not really there. people nowadays just dont take the time and look at what s really there or whats really happening. they want to make it easy for themselves and just form their own reality. that s how conmen got their way around. conmen know this principle and always keep it in mind. they dress up accordingly, produce the familiar, and bam! next thing you know you re a couple of bucks short.
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
..bcuz it is the truth. people base their assessment of someone from the looks. if someone comes up to you and says he doesn t base it upon looks dismiss it immediately as a lie. i, for instance, was mistaken for a gay. im a dude straight up. the thing is i have small asian eyes and a bright complexion so i guess that s gay for them. they were telling me things like i have to come out of the closet or something. i say im friggin out in the open. lol. they were so convinced that i was gay. that s how serious the basis of looks is. they see someone, they form this image of you inside their heads, and they start seeing things that s not really there. people nowadays just dont take the time and look at what s really there or whats really happening. they want to make it easy for themselves and just form their own reality. that s how conmen got their way around. conmen know this principle and always keep it in mind. they dress up accordingly, produce the familiar, and bam! next thing you know you re a couple of bucks short.