What if your best friend's husband was flirting with you?

United States
November 15, 2006 11:30pm CST
My best friend's husband has been flirting with me. Should I tell my best friend or not? I have been her best friend for almost my whole life, and I don't want her to get mad at me, I have avoided him at all costs, and haven't ever done anything to make him think that I am interested in him. The worst part is that my best friend's brother is my boyfriend, so I don't know what to do. Any advice would be great, thanks so much.
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@janey84 (547)
• Australia
16 Nov 06
I agree with eunice, u should tell ur bf about it n discuss with him...i'd definitely do the same if i were u..in fact i'd do it without any delay..coz i believe things will be more complicated if u delay..u noe wat i mean? anyway good luck to u..
• Singapore
16 Nov 06
well, if i'm in your position, i will tell my bf about what happened, and discuss with him whether should tell the sister or not. i have to admit that this is kinda sticky situation. Good Luck!
@hodgemo2 (272)
• United States
16 Nov 06
Ooh...that is a sticky situation. I hope this doesn't sound weird, but how serious do you think it is? I mean, some people are just sort of flirty. Is it possible it is just sort of jokey? I mean, maybe he flirts with you because you are close (or I am assuming at least somewhat close if he is your best friend's husband..?) and he knows nothing could come of it. He is good friends with your boyfriend? Does he know there is no chance for anything to happen between you guys? Does he flirt with other people? I mean, I guess the best thing to do in any case is mention it to your boyfriend first and see what he thinks. After all, he should also have opinions on what his sister thinks. And then maybe talk to your best friend. But I would try to get it out there, but not try to put too much emphasis on it. Just maybe something like "I know so and so is a bit of a flirt" (if he is) but it is making me a bit uncomfortable. I just want to let you know that there is nothing going on. Hopefully, she will just laugh it off. Good luck!
• United States
17 Nov 06
He isn't the flirty type, they just had a baby together and he's saying things like he would leave her and their child behind if he could find a better person, and all kinds of nasty things. Thanks for all of the advice, I hope everything goes well and doesn't end up leading to fights or anything, wish me luck, I'm gonna tell my bf!
@brettbum (304)
• United States
17 Nov 06
I'd tell him that I'm not really into guys and prefer my wife. Then I'd go bust my best friend's chops, because I always suspected he was a little light in the loafers!
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
17 Nov 06
If I was in your situation I would definitely tell my best friend I would hate to think if he is doing that all the time with other women she should know...