Do you let people walk all over you?

@free_man (7330)
United States
March 21, 2010 6:53am CST
Just was wondering do you let people do what ever and never speak up and say anything? I don't I won't take any bull from anyone. I have to stand up and tell them just what I think. I try to watch how I say it I don't want to say anything that don't pertain to what I am trying to get across. Sometimes it takes me a little time to say it but eventually I get my point across to them. So my question to you is do you let people walk over you? Do you stand up and say what is on your mind? Do you tend to walk on people?
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
I always speak my mind. If i hurt someone in the prosess, so be it. I am done beign nice. People cannot just walk over you and expect you to just accept that. NO WAY. Just speak up. TATA.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Hi Saphrina. It is better to speak your mind then hold it in cause that can make you just plain sick. I am a tomboy and had many brothers and they taught me at an early age to stand up for myself. I was always the one in school that had to stand up for my sister. She was burnt as a small child and this always bothered her so some people in school would make fun of her. It was an almost daily event me having to beat someone up for being just plain mean to her. Thank God the school days are over and she is over her embarrassment of being burnt.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
I would have done exactly the same if were in your shoes. Children are mean, unfortunately. But at least all that is over now. TATA.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Hi Saphrina. I thank God I was there for her and am also thankful that I no longer have to fight for her any more. I would if needed. She abused it sometimes though she would start something she thought it was cool to have a big sister stand up for her. I told her after a couple of times that she started it that if she started it again I wouldn't step in. She stopped starting the fights. I was very lucky I had an understanding principle she had a sister like mine not burnt but a sissy and she said she had to do the same thing when in school. Hope you have a great day Saphrina.
• United Arab Emirates
21 Mar 10
No i don't allow such, am the very blunt type
• United Arab Emirates
21 Mar 10
& bluntness have been misunderstood for pride
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Hi Shy. We should be just plain blunt to some people. And bluntness may be misunderstood for pride but we should be proud of who we are.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
22 Mar 10
I used to....I use to be quiet and shy and I'm not that way anymore, I can't be..... I had kids and that is where a lot of my standing up for myself and my kids started. I'm not quiet and not shy anymore. I've stood up for people that I see getting walked all over and used as a door mat, that don't seem to appreciate it or get upset that I do and that is worse to me than anything else, when you stand up for someone and the person that is walking all over them hears them self being defended, it opens the door for more mistreatment.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
26 May 10
Hi Mzz. So sorry for the delay in my response but read the one above you and you will see why. Our children will or should make us stronger. Some people don't know how to accept the fact that others don't take this kinds of treatment. To some they think it is normal. All you can do is stand up for yourself and if someone don't like that you stand up for them then tell them to get a backbone and realize that it isn't right for others to walk all over them. I won't stand up for someone more then once if they don't appreciate it the first time. Don't take anything and don't let anyone ever have control over you or your family. Give all the credit to God and God will take care of you with your help.
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Since I was a kid, I was very patient and kind that this results to people walking all over me. But lately, I have really been to my tipping point that I feel I've turned into a bad person. However, I think this is because people can be so mean and inconsiderate. I now try to stand up for myself and let people know they can't do what they want to others. My brother is really good at this and I try to learn from him to fight for something you believe is right.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
26 May 10
Hi EnslinPorter. I am sorry it took me so long to respond but read the response above and you will see why it took me so long. There is no need for anyone to walk on others God created all of us the same. There is no one better then anyone else in this world. Don't think you are bad cause you started standing up for yourself. God don't want any of us to take any BS from anyone. You want to learn to fight go to a self defense classes and you will learn how to put these A holes in their place. Learn to shout NO real loud and believe me it works really good. Don't take anything from anyone you are a good person no matter what others say to you.
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• India
26 May 10
Hi friend normally i don't permit this, as i have said i am verymuch reserved in conversation, my words are few, i don't rant about what is there in my mind, it is always with my wife and kids i am totally free.. Sorry for late response.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Prof
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
26 May 10
Hi Professor my friend. It is good that you can be totally free with your wife and children. I see you are reserved and I bet your a good person. I can sense these sort of things in your responses. Hope you have a great day!
@bestylish (922)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
I don't let others walk over me. If I think they are starting to get on my nerves, I say it to them face to face. I watch what I say since I don't want to hurt others but if they are starting to get all cheeky. It's on!!!
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
26 May 10
Hi Bestylish. Sorry for not responding to you sooner but read the response that I gave the others and hopefully you will understand. I think twice before saying things so I don't say something that will hurt peoples feelings. But I won't take any BS from anyone. I like that word cheeky.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
21 Mar 10
I have a tendency to put up with alot, but I do have my limits. I do not always speak what is on my mind, but am doing better after having to stand up for my disabled son. It has made me get one heck of a backbone at times.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Hi Thoroughrob. It sometimes comes in handy to have that backbone when it comes to bullies. I hate bullies and won't take anything from anyone. I let things slide if it isn't important but if it is something I feel very strongly about I will stand up and speak my peace. Even use a 2x4 when necessary. God didn't make any one of us HE isn't proud of. It must be hard raising a disabled child I will keep you in my prayers. Hope you have a great day my friend Thoroughrob.
@LadyBoss (253)
• United States
22 Mar 10
My parents come from a very religious faith. So when growing up I always taught that violence was bad. This led to being very difficult for me. When I was picked on on school or if someone said something to me I HAD NO WAY of defending my self. Becuase my parents always wanted me to be a Good Little Chiristan girl. Now I am 20 years old this has affected me my whole life from being jumped, mugged all sorts of things becuase I have had this fear get BIGGER and BIGGEr because I could never do anything about it. NOW FINALLy i decide I have to do whats best for me. No more I just cant take it. I dont see anything in wrong standing up for your self Even if you have to give someone a good punch in the stomach . As long as your are defending your self .
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
26 May 10
Hi LadyBoss so sorry I haven't responded sooner to your response but really I didn't get your response in my email. I got the Professors response today and see others that needed to be responded too. I was brought up a good Christian lady too but I had brothers that taught me that the only way to stop violence was to beat the mess out of whom ever was giving me a hard time. The preacher we listen too tells us that as Christians God don't want us to let people walk all over us. And you know I believe this man. He says take a 2x4 and give them an attitude adjustment if need be. I can't stand these bleeding heart christians that think God don't hate God does hate injustice. Don't believe me listen to this man and hear the truth about Gods word. http://www.shepherdschapel.com/index.htm . Again I am so sorry it took me so long to respond. Have a good day.
• India
21 Mar 10
my friends said i am short tempered and i should reduce it...../ yes sometimes it is true... but in some situations i just want to be tempered... when somebody ios insulting you you must give him back... there is opne lecturer in our college who is so sarcastic that people cant bare... when i experienced some bulls888 from him i gave him back and result is less marks in labs......i controlled my temper and i want to use it in a positive manner but you see when you enconter people like him what will you do?
@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Hi Kiran and welcome to my lot. There are just some people that you have to give an attitude adjustment too. Some you can handle with gloves but some you just plain have to use a 2x4 on. No sense in taking any BS from anyone. Don't be a bully but don't take anything either. Have a geat day.
@cloud31 (5809)
21 Mar 10
I always say what's on my mind, but of course I will not walk over people harshly, I always rebuke someone with love and care, I still have to make my self clear and make them side be vivid as I am...Honestly I don't want to step or walk to people,they rather walk all over me and let them pass than I walked over somebody..Unless I know its not really affect me that seriously I can allow somebody walk over me..But It will not be over! Happy myLotting!
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Hi Cloud. I won't take any BS either. I always speak what is on my mind. I don't walk on people but I won't let them walk on me either. Thanks happy mylotting too you too!
• Canada
21 Mar 10
I tend to allow people to walk all over me until I'm trampled to a pulp it seems, but this only applies to me while I'm at work. My work is a nightmare but I can not quit because I need money for school, and I let my boss take total advantage of me to the point I have to spend my free time making my own schedule based on other people so I have to call around on the other employees. I wish I could say to my boss, "Shove it!" but I won't of course, but it's got to the point I am afraid to stand up to him. I wish I took action earlier in my job and stood up for myself more often.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Hi Linds and welcome to my lot. Don't take his BS. There are laws against that kind of stuff. I don't know what situation your in but your free time is yours and you can tell him if he wants to pay you for your free time you will do as he ask and if not then it is your free time. Stand up on those two legs that God gave you and take a stand NOW before it gets any worse. Your a good person and don't have to take what ever is dealt. You have rights!
• Netherlands
21 Mar 10
I guess if you let people walk all over you then you ain't worth a damn. So always speak your mind no matter what. Don't let anyone say otherwise to you, it's all a dominational game. Maybe you should research some psychology books and see why do people react that way and how to react in return? I guess people strive to have the upper hand in everything and conflict is inevitable.. :)
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Hi Dimitarivanov and welcome to my lot. I don't take anything from anyone. I have seen a lot of people that do and it makes me so pissed off becuase I can't teach them to stand up for themselves. I think learning to stand up for ones self is something they are brought up with. Self learned sort of thing. But I had many brothers that taught me not to take any BS from anyone. I won't take anything! Thanks.