Bloodstains From The Past

Philippines
March 21, 2010 10:27am CST
it just brings me down to realize that most of us had been backstabbed atleast once in our lives and trust is a pretty big word for us to handle. only a few can handle it well particularly those that has a martyr-like attitude. but for most of us, it s better to be safe than sorry. we only trust if we see through the person entirely. although there are some who can really manipulate you into thinking that you can see through them but what you see isnt really the person, but a perfectly set up illusion based surprisingly on the visions of your reality. and in the end you ll only realize that what you saw in that person was really what you wanted to see all along. that person took your trust, raised it up high, and smashed on solid ground. can you tell me how you handled deciet?
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5 responses
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
I've been there and done that too. It's really not a good experience and one that could really scar your life for a long time. There's really no way of handling it except for just accepting it and learning from it.
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
..and how do you specifically accept it? i mean you. from your experience, how did you accept deciet? if it helps you can share with us your story cuz id love to hear it.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Well, my friend just lied to me and I found out about it, we confronted and I accepted the apology. Things like this happen. It may hurt but I am a very trusting and forgiving person, so I guess it was not too difficult for me later on, but it did hurt in the beginning.
@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
21 Mar 10
I have learned to handle these situations by looking in the mirror. No one is totally honest all the time. Not even me. I have caught myself in lies too. Not intentionally, but we are all human. Realizing that I too can be dishonest, I learned to talk to people who I felt betrayed my trust. Many times things don't seem half as bad when you have taken the time to listen to why they did what they did. As long as you don't ask, you will think the worst. I guess you can say confrontation is the answer here.
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Don t you think that they would lie to you again during confrontation? cuz they re really not restrained to do that and they probably would want to cover up for their lies by lying again. and i m not talking about white lies here.
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@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
21 Mar 10
Normally no. But yes there are exceptions. Just remember, the truth always gets out. It can take a little longer, but the truth always wins. People that lie big time, normally have trouble sleeping at night. Telling the truth keeps your concience clear. Have a nice day.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
21 Mar 10
Oh yes, I have been cheated... I feel ashamed to admit it, but is the f*ckin truth... I hate myself for that, trust me! I was cheated by the girl whom I loved the most.. I did everything for her. Cared for her as if she was a new-born baby. I even parted with my family for that b*tch. And all I got was 'IGNORANCE', when my money was over. She had been squeezing out all of my hard earned money for a couple of years and when she understood that I was going to be a broke, soon; she deserted me. I have lived through HELL, after that! Oh yes, I have got my love of life now and we're going to marry... All is okay!!!! But, I am going to teach my EX a good lesson for being so selfish! I assure you, that these stains of my past can be washed only with bloodier stains than the present ones. Nothing more will be able to help! I have got my Love of Life and we're going to get married and we have made plans for our life. But I can't forget the one who fooled me... Sometimes, I have dreams of killing her.. .or slashing her.. or a bullet in her head... I am sorry, if I sound very indecent... I am not, I promise you! It is just that she's given me a lot of and unbearable pain, for which I want to teach her something...
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
you just figured me out bro. although the bullet in the head and the killing is a little harsh. play her a prank instead. lol. thanks for sharing.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
22 Mar 10
For me, if ever I encounter such persons in my lives.. they are the ones that I will not share too many information, lest I discover they talk more bad stuffs behind my back. But to be honest, I don't really care, because it's their mouth and they are doing an injustice to themselves by back-stabbing. I only have myself to care.. and I hope I'll not become like that and hurt others in turn. Good topic.
@bird123 (10486)
• United States
22 Mar 10
I always give everyone I meet the great opportunity to be trustworthy. There is nothing better than to have a good trustworthy friend. Yes, there are those who let me down but I don't value the hurt so I let it go.I know that when they are hurt in the future they might remember the trustworthy friend they had in me. Who knows. They might become trustworthy.