Due at a specific time, doesn't show up, how do you feel about being let down

March 22, 2010 2:59pm CST
This afternoon someone rang up to come and view my car that is up for sale. He was very keen to see the car, asked all the right questions, even made me a tentative offer on the spot. He asked if he could call round at 6pm this evening, have a look under the bonnet and then buy the car. Two hours later, I'm still waiting for him. No phone call saying he was delayed, nothing. No idea if he will be coming this evening, no idea if he has changed his mind, nothing. I have been waiting in since 6pm, delaying dinner so we could eat without being disturbed, now my other half is eating while I am jumping up and down every time I hear a sound outside. I hate it when people make an arrangement, an appointment, or set a specific time to call, and then don't bother to turn up. I have always had this *thing* about time. If I make an appointment then I stick to it, usually I'm early, but if I can't keep that appointment then I have the courtesy to phone and postpone. But why don't other people do this? I feel I have wasted my evening waiting for this guy to call round, and that makes me mad. How do you feel when you are let down by someone who doesn't keep an appointment or date?
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@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
22 Mar 10
That is just bad manners my friend, it's even worst when you yourself have principles that won't allow you to let anyone down, you say you will be there and you are and rightfully so you should expect other people to do just that and when they don't it's even more infuriating. My first response would be if that guy phones up again to say it's been sold but that's like cutting your nose to spite your face which I do a lot I have to admit. Either he wants the car or not, some people are just selfish, inconsiderate time wasters. Courtesy in this day and age seems to have gone out of the window as to has empathy. I find it highly bad manners myself. I am the most reliable person out and even if I am going to be five or ten minutes late I will ring ahead to let them know. I hope you find someone worthy and decent who turns up to buy your car my friend. I believe in karma and hopefully one day someone will let this guy down like he has let you down, so there!
22 Mar 10
Hi Wolfie, thanks for your words hun. Definitely some karma would be good here. I feel so angry that I have wasted the evening, the guy has no manners or consideration at all. *hugs*
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• Canada
22 Mar 10
I agree in karma too wolfie so I also hope that one day someone will let this guy down like he has let goth down! Some people are just so rude! I too ring ahead if I'm going to be 5-10 minutes late nevermind over an hour late. I really hope this guy showed up, bought the car, gave goth the money, and then she let him have it!
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@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
22 Mar 10
Even if he doesn't turn up, it'll be his loss, knowing Goth it would be a wonderful car and well looked after too! I feel naughty saying this but I hope if he buys from someone else and ends up with a piece of junk!
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@eileenleyva (9465)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
I might be over reading your dilemma but I think it is time to be cautious. Some people call and ask because they want to know details about your person. I might have watched too many thrillers but it is important to take necessary precaution when dealing with strangers. Take the car somewhere public. If he doesn't come on the appointed time, leave.
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30 Mar 10
The car is parked in front of my house at the moment, I have someone calling round tomorrow, hopefully, but I also have a couple of mates coming round to back me up if anything goes wrong
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Good security measure. Take extra care still. Hope you get to sell your car.
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@celticeagle (114430)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Mar 10
I am the same way. When I know I have an appointment I allow for enough time for everything I need to do, driving time and am always 10-15 minutes early. I always want the office people to know I am there and keeping my appointment. I have consideration which I think is the key word here.
23 Mar 10
Yup consideration, that's all it takes
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@celticeagle (114430)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Mar 10
It seems so easy.
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• Canada
22 Mar 10
Goth Sweetie I am sorry this guy is being such a jerk (to use polite language). I too am the kind of person that is usually (like 95% of the time) early or at least on time. If I am going to be late ... even just a wee bit I call and let the person know! Or I phone and apologize and say I just left my house ... give me 10 or 15 minutes so they at least know I AM on my way! I was always raised to be respectful that way! One day karma will get him good hun! Doctors need some good karma too along with this guy! I hate how I show up on time for the Docs but end up waiting anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour, sometimes even over an hour!
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23 Mar 10
Yup, doctors and dentists are notorious for keeping you waiting long past your appointment aren't they.
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• Canada
23 Mar 10
They most certainly are! I think it's partly because they think their better then everyone else, and they know people will keep waiting as long as they need to!
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@coffeegurl (1470)
• United States
22 Mar 10
I wish you were in the states. I need to buy a car. I would like to take a look under the hood. How much you askin?
23 Mar 10
LOL Shame the shipping would be prohibitive hun. It's a lovely little red Corsa automatic with sports mode, goes like a rocket. Right now I'd take £250
• United States
23 Mar 10
What year...
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
22 Mar 10
It makes me mad to when People are so rude, specially as they should know that you will be there waiting If he does turn up eventually once he has bought the car I hope that you will give him what for I really hope this was not a prank call you had because I know People enjoy making them Hugs to you
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22 Mar 10
Oh I really hop0e it wasn't a prank call, I really need to sell the car to pay some bills. I can't believe anyone could be so downright rude
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
22 Mar 10
Oh I can believe me manners are not top of the list any more with People I really hope this Guy will turn up still and buy your Car
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@MsTickle (25007)
• Australia
29 Mar 10
You sound just like me. I become terribly agitated if I am expecting someone and they don't show up. I also have this thing for myself about being punctual. Isn't being punctual about respect? Whether people are strangers are not we all expect that keeping an appointment will be done. Sure, there are unforseen circumstances but then a quick call or contact is all it takes to rectify the situation. To me, anything less means that person does not give a fig for me.
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29 Mar 10
We are very alike hun. I hate being late for anything and have a real *thing* about time anyway. If I say I'm going to be somewhere at a specific time then I will pull out all the stops to be there.
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
I hate people who are late, and of course those who doesn't show up without any notice. I just hate it cause they don't think about the time and the effort of the other person waiting. I think being late or not showing up, is just really very inconsiderate, and they just don't respect other people's time.
23 Mar 10
You're right, there is no respect
@pandaeyes (2068)
23 Mar 10
I think that person was very unreliable and disrespectful. It is such a disruption having to be in for people and then if they don't even call to say they are lost or cant come, it is like you gave away that time for their convenience. We have just had a similar experience with an unreliable person . It makes you less amiable to the next person who calls though which is sad.
23 Mar 10
You know I'm still hopping mad about this.
@rosegardens (3044)
• United States
23 Mar 10
He is just rude. A call would have been nice. I think most people are put off by such rudeness. I do not mind someone being a little late, but a total no show or making me wait longer than 1/2 hr with no phone call is just wrong unless they got stuck in traffic or had an accident. I am sorry you were let down by this fellow and your dinner was spoiled. I hope that someone buys your car for what you are asking and very soon.
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23 Mar 10
Thanks hun, I'm hoping the car sells very quickly
22 Mar 10
That is so annoying. If he's changed his mind, it would only take a phone call to let you know. What makes me angry about people who are always late is the implication that their time is more important than yours. It's a type of arrogance to be always late for appointments.
23 Mar 10
Absolutely, what makes them think their time is more important. I still feel very angry about last night.
22 Mar 10
There is nothing I hate more than bad time keeping. I always make a point of being early and if I have told someone I am going to be somewhere, than that's where I will be atleat ten minutes before the specified time. If I were you I'd be absolutely furious, not only is it bad manners but it is totally disrespectful to the fact that you do have a life too and cannot be waiting in for someone to show up.
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22 Mar 10
This situation just shows how bad manners and inconsiderate behaviour seems to be the normal these days. I despair sometimes, whatever happened to good manners
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
8 Apr 10
If that situation happen to me. don't even bother to call me again, or ask to buy that car again if I saw the same number show up again. That is just not right, and I don't like that. What if I do the same thing, if you like that?
@zzyw87 (1260)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
I hate those kinds of people. They are so insensitive to others and selfish. Why can't they think that others also have their own schedule? I have encountered these kinds of people several times already, usually with friends. That is why I tell my friend who don't show up or shows up late my opinions. I tell them not to do it again or at least have the courtesy to call or text me if he/she will be late or won't be able to make it.
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@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
I would feel the same because I really value time and never miss any of my appointment and if a friend will betray by not showing up on time I would really feel bad. It happens to me all the time, I don't know why there are people who seems did not care if they already cause distress to other people through their bad manners.