When a woman has a baby, when do you think should she return back to work?

@grkelly (1218)
Malta
March 25, 2010 2:25pm CST
Do you think that a woman should continue to pursue her career soon after the child is born? What should she do with the baby- put him in a nursery or take him for care to a relative's home such as the grandmother? In my opinion it is best that as long as finances can be sustained by the husband it is ideal that the woman remains at home with the baby to give him her very best as a mother. Then, when the child reached the age to start going to school she can return to work during times while the child is at school. What do you think?
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Mar 10
She should return when she is ready to. Whether to stay home with a child or work is a very personal choice. I can think of many children who were in day care while their parents worked and they have turned out to be very fine individuals.
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• United States
26 Mar 10
I sent my child to a babysitter. I was off work for about 3 months before she was born and another 2 months afterwards. I was ready to get back to work. We use a babysitter that is a member of our church and lives in the same complex as we do. a mother should go back when she's ready.
• India
26 Mar 10
ya its quite true that working women need to be quite fast irrespective of their health and tears..its not about the nursery age of the child,,i think after getting the baby to 1year,woman should get back to work..it is the normal age after which baby can get into grandmothers touch and affection..the baby stops babbling and recognizing grandparents at this age only..hence it is just after a year the baby grows,the mother can get back to work..
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
That is alright if she have a career being a working mother could be very stressful but as long she could pay a nanny to care for her baby that would be no problem at all. If the mother does not have work and she have a husband who is working then it is better for her to be the one to take care of her child. Since she is the mother she could take care of her child better than anyone else could do.
@vinslounge (1297)
• India
26 Mar 10
She can return to work when she is ready to. But i think the ideal time for a women to return to work is after 3 months of her delivery and by that time she would be fit and mentally equipped for work once again
@cupkitties (6702)
• United States
26 Mar 10
A mother should stay with her baby till they are a certain age. She could always find out if her work place offers paid maternity leave or find some ways to make money from her home if theres worries about finances.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
It varies from one situation to another, if someone will take charge i taking care of the baby and the mom is ready to work then it's fine. If mom chose to be at home with her child it's okay as well. But as for my own experience, i returned to work just recently when my daughter turns 6 because of the bad experience we had with her nanny, i swear i will exchange all the richest in the world for the sake of the safety of my child.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
For me a mother should be with the baby and nurture him his first 4 years. If given the chance I would definitely be there for my son up until he can talk and already understand things you say. I am a believer that children should be around their parents in their first few years because that is the foundation of the children in terms of emotional and because it is important for their first steps in life with their mothers.
• Pamplona, Spain
26 Mar 10
Hiya grkelly, Problems start if you have a Baby that cries a lot like my two did and all you have time left for is to drag yourself into Bed and then out again for the next feed sometimes I never even made it except to the Couch and back again I had puffy eyes for about 6 months from lack of sleep with both. They have both been nightowlers too all their lives so I found it impossible to go back to work in a proper job. I have never had any babysitters in the Family either but a Baby that keeps you awake right from the first Day is going to be a tough experience and believe me that not many People are very sympathetic I would have given the World for one nights sleep right the way through. So although I did try to get back to work the odds were stacked against me as I did not have any sleep till he was about 6 months old and even then he still kept me awake during most of the night till he was about 18 months old I kid you not here the same with the eldest one too. I did get temporary work with the eldest one being in Nursey School and Primary but it was only temporary here and there and for 15 months in an English Steel Tube Company I loved it there I enjoyed it and made the most of it.
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
These are kind of situations where i really salute women,not that i'm a woman too. A Mother is expected to multitask in this life.When the husband is not earning enough, she is expected help how to make ends meet.And bearing a child is not an excuse for her when she has to work just in case money is tight. For me, as much as possible she should be there for her child 24/7 till maybe he starts going to school.The early years of a child is very crucial, cause this is the molding period. But with modern times today and when are working , they are expected to return to work after a month.And if the baby is lucky , he or she is left with Grandma or auntie.But still Mother knows best.And i'm sure she is not so happy going back to work at once, but sometimes she has no choice.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
For me few are doing to work again specially it defend the country policy if don't then stop and it defends in there husband said if it agree of that process then continue.
• United States
26 Mar 10
Six weeks is considered the normal length following deliver. Some women feel they can return to work sooner, it just depends on the demands of their job and the amount of help and support that they have at home. There are a lot of demands to having a new baby at home, so it's a different case for everyone.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
i think its about a month that a woman fully recover after birth.but its just matter of choices anyway weather she likes to return to work or not.but the psychologist said that that mother is a must to be the one to take care of the child until 5 years old because thats the time of how she learn so much things from the mother.can easily absorb the information.
@jilshi (271)
• Malaysia
26 Mar 10
Well, i think all depends on my financial condition. If i am rich and had the chance to choose, i will take care of my baby and spend lovely time with family. It is a great pleasure to take care of own bay. However most of time, our financial condition not allows us to rest at home. I must go back to work to support family financial. Earn more money to had better living.
• United States
25 Mar 10
I think it's up to the mother to decide that and different woman have different opinions about it. Some women like staying home and taking care of their child while some would rather work. As long as there is someone there loving and caring for that child (like a grandmother) during the time where the mother is at work, the mother should able to continue at her job if she wants to.
@maximax8 (27048)
25 Mar 10
If the couple can afford it is best if one parent stays at home to care for the child or the children and the other goes out to work. Like it would be when the youngest child reaches school age that the parent that was at home could get a part time job. In todays world that is not always possible. Bills need to be paid and the cost of living is high these days. I sent my oldest son to a child minder so I could study and then work as a primary school teacher. I liked it more when my mother could look after my son. Grandparents can be better than child minders. Nurseries are suitable for children from three years onwards. Part time work could be for example 9 to 3 Monday, Tuesday and from 9 to 12 on Wednesday. Then the children might be able to have grandmother care from them on a Wednesday morning. They could go to a child minder on Monday and Tuesday. Then the mother would have half the week with her kids.
@Wizzywig (7860)
25 Mar 10
I dont think there is a 'best' plan that suits everyone. It is very much a case of working out what is best for all concerned. Some women dont trust anyone else to look after their child, others dont find being a stay-at-home mum sufficiently stimulating. I believe its something that should be considered and, to some extent planned for before becoming pregnant but, peoples feelings and circumstances change. I think it can be beneficial for the childs development to have a variety of adults in its life but, it also needs some level of consistency. i think its a bit of a balancing act realy.