In preparation for a long distance relationship

Philippines
March 25, 2010 3:32pm CST
My girlfriend is leaving soon to work in the States... we haven't really been together for a long time. It was in January when she finally said "yes" to me and now she's leaving. It took me 6 months of persistent courting just to get her to say that. Sheesh and my track record is usually no courting at all. So it's my first. Of course were both afraid of what'll happen in the 3 years that she'll be gone but I promised her I'd be holding on. I've had a long distance relationship before, twice actually and it all ended bad. The first one was 5 years and I didn't know she was already going out with someone on our 2nd year. The second one got married 6 months after she left. I'm hoping the third one will be the charm. We've talked a lot of the things we needed to get in order before she left and number one on our priority is to maximize the time we have together building a strong foundation for our relationship. So I guess we'll be spending a lot of time together and going to church as well. I'm also organizing my things so that when she leaves I will be preoccupied on things that will help me grow as a person and not put me in any situation where I will be tempted to indulge in my past ehem hobby hahaha So there... Oh yeah I will be posting a lot of things here too just so I won't go out of my mind when she's gone
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3 responses
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
I'm not sure I know who you're talking about. If I talked to your girlfriend, then i must not have remembered if she mentioned she was leaving. At the back of my head, i think i remember a conversation about this. Man, I wish the both of you the best. I don't want to see someone like you go down in the dumps because of this. I personally don't approve of the long distance relationship because I never really believe in it. I've never been through it (probably because I don't allow it if I can do something about it). But don't worry, we'll be here to keep you occupied..
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@zashimi (148)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
Yes, building a strong foundation for your relationship is essential before she leaves. You need to put emphasis on trust for it is usually the first thing that is breached in LDRs. Next is communication. Make it a point to communicate regularly and constantly in manners allowed by your circumstance. Make your relationship transparent, where you tell each other the things that you are doing so as to erase one partner from having doubts. You lead individual lives and it is important you share it with your partner even though you are apart. Good luck!
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
Thank you so much for the support. A strong foundation and excellent communication... check! I'll keep that in mind
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@meng23 (146)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
How sad.. Everytime I'm thinking my partner leaving I can't stop myself from crying. Me and my boyfriend is already 1 year and 4 months . We've been together always. Sad to say he had to leave the country because he needs to work for my own sake. He wants me to finish my studies and to gave a good life to me, my family and his family. It really hurts because I don't want him to go. Actually its me why he decided to go. HAyyy... I don't know what will be my life without him. I'm also worrying what would his life there. I want to take good care of him always.I'm also afraid maybe he would find another much better than me. And soon he would forget me. Though it really brokes my heart. I have to allow him because he needs it for his future. I'm just hoping his promise will still be strong till he comes back. I think trust and prayer is the best in this situation.