long distance relationships, will it work?

Philippines
March 25, 2010 10:50pm CST
My friend's boyfriend will be leaving on Saturday to work overseas for two years, the've been together for I think five months now. Both of them came from long time relationships, her bf was married for 8 years but never had a child, he always work abroad and his ex wife cheated on him,. while my friend, came from a very smooth relationship, she just went out of it for simple reason that she don't feel she still love the guy. The two of them are so afraid of separating the guy has a very traumatic experience because of what his ex wife has done while my friend's really depress because this is the first time that she'll have this kind of set up. please help me cheer her up or encourage her, I've seen and witnessed how happy she is with this guy, she can be herself with him they are so compatible to each other nd now they are afraid of losing their love because of the distance.
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15 responses
@jungia (8)
• China
26 Mar 10
And you are the girl?
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
nope. I'm not
• India
27 Mar 10
it's tooo interesting frnd. anyway's once you love some its hard to leave. dat's d reason they both behaving lyk dat............ u r very cool yaar.
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Mar 10
As far as I am concenred, no matter how long the dictance between your boy friend and you. If you two are in deep love , I think nothing can seperate yourselves. But with the time goes by, if your relationship get be cool, I think then it will be dangerous.
• India
26 Mar 10
hello!!as long as two things,"trust",and,"love",are there in a relationship,it can last longer and thicker irrespective of any argument and disturbance..and just that it takes a lot time to develop this two things,and thats what is called life,you can only enjoy your life if all who helped you to lead it are with you!!and thats what we call relationship!!so good luck buddy!!
@engrdng06 (248)
• Japan
26 Mar 10
I dont believe in long distance relationship until my situation now, wherein I am considering myself to go home to my own country which risks my relationship into a long distance one. I'm afraid this isn't gonna work as times passes by. I wish I had other option not to leave him.
• United States
26 Mar 10
If they are really truely in love and are meant for each other then they should be able to make it through this. I have 2 friends that are dating and he moved for a teaching job and she is still in school for teaching so she couldn't just up and move with him. They were only dating for 5 months when he moved, but they are still together after 7 months. They still love each other very much and plan to spend their lives together. They have some difficult times, but it is all well worth it when they see each other and it will be all well worth it in the end.
@pwang41 (134)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
if they truly love each other, i think long distance relationship would work. you're friend must make her boyfriend understand that she is not his ex-wife. trust is so crucial in a relationship because love alone won't survive if both of you don't trust one another. they must have faith that love for one another is stronger that the distance that would bring them apart.
@erikmama (12929)
• United States
26 Mar 10
A long distance relationship is hard,but it is not ipossible.As long as there is love there then it will work out just fine. Ture love always finds a way to overcome any obstacle in it's way.Threere are tons of military relationships that work everyday as long as the commitment is there. Past relationships always burden the new ones. With the relationship being fairly new I can understand the worries,but stay true and love will prevail!
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Of course, in love, distance matters. It is much better if you have your love ones close to you but in most cases, one should go in other part of the globe to work for their family. Cheer her up by saying that she should pray a lot so taht God will bless and nourish their relationship even when are apart. TIMES ARE MODERN THIS TIME, so communication is much easier.
@gunagohan (3415)
• India
26 Mar 10
Long distance relationship would never win.. Many movies have said this in both practical difficulties and theoretically.. Any one in any way will get cheated for sure.. Take this series "How i Met ur Mother" Lilly and Marshal broke out, because lilly wanted to go to San Fransisco, Marshal thought long distance would never work out, so they broke out.. Same with Ted and Victoria.. Always have this in mind, long distance for 1 month or 2 would be good, but for 5 months and above is not good for relationship..
@kyel_11 (1069)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
tell your friend to trust his boyfriend, as well as the boyfriend to your friend. tell them to always communicate with each other. in this set-up, communication and trust are really important aspects to be able to survive long distance relationship. be open on the problems and tell those to their partner. always be honest and do not lie. hope it helps.
@terozua (45)
• Malaysia
26 Mar 10
i don't think it will be a problem for ling distance relationship. The important thing is just trust each other and be honest with your partner.based on my experience, i'm also start from long distance relationship..i've been couple about 8years then end of last year we get married. Then after get married, we still stay separately in a different state. Just only got a long holiday (because my wife is a teacher) so her will come and stay with me. So i think for me, long distance is not a reason we can't enjoy and get happiest for our relationship.
• Hong Kong
26 Mar 10
I think to keep the relationship work though they will be far from each other sooner is that they should trust each other and do not think negative things for it will just make things bad. So that's it. Just Have trust and love your partner no matter how far she/he maybe.. God Bless :)
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
hello to you. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years now and it's working great for me. Tell your friend that they can do it, just as long as they are very honest with each other and trust each other. They also have to communicate often, like everyday, every hour, or whenever. My fiance and I does it all the time, I even watch him sleep, lol. Or when he is not at home and is at work, he texts me during his breaks and lets me know everything that is going on, well its not really necessary does he have to, its just that he doesn't want any conflict. We work things out together even though we are very far away from each other. Tell her as well, that they have to keep the sparks of their love alive. Like do something sweet and romantic all the time, like sending love emails or texts everyday or twice a week. Tell each other "I love you" constantly. Of course be understanding with each other, no assumptions and such. I know i mentioned a lot but its what I and my fiance is doing to keep us strong. We are getting married this year coz I don't want to be apart from him again. I am moving out to his place so we can get married and be with each other forever. I'm also sacrificing a lot of stuff just for our relationship to work.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
I think long distance relationships can work if both parties are honest with each other. It is also important to be open with each other and communicate each others feelings. Trust is another thing to consider. If they really want to stay together this wouldn't be an issue they just have to take the risk cause they will never know if things will work out between the two of them if they won't try.