If you feel happy does it mean you are strong and not weak?
By neelianoscet
@neelianoscet (9615)
Philippines
March 26, 2010 8:02am CST
Some project a happy images and life yet deep inside they feel so weak and a tendency to commit suicide cause by depression. Even if one involves itself to join in many adrenalin pumping activities just to remove those nasty impression others have to you and yet unspoken something in you like to experience but feel so limited. Because of finances, time and lost opportunity many dreams are shatter and so is your only drawback is to hold on your life till the time it expires. So hope still exist and you tend to project a good images for the acceptable things which society need in order to avoid being rejected.
Since if one sway to the way society perceives as a normal things sometimes it could be compare to a vagabond where you have no one to turn to if they look and see you as eccentric. So many people as I observe tend to live a happy life since if they project a sad images they would be look down upon as weak that people may avoid them for being emotional. Since they tend it attract misfortunes if one associated with a person who seem to attract all the negative vibes so other have a tendency to have a happy aura just to stay optimistic. Does it really help? Since if I am happy I tend to express it meaningfully and truly that I express it affectionately as the way i feel it inside.
On the other way around,when I am feeling sad or sick I could not project an image that appears so jolly and too good not to be true. It just appear to me as a superficial and it gives me a headache appearing so well, fine and good when deep inside I like to shout like a sleeping dragon which been calm for a long time. I could not hold on anymore and yet stay calm to avoid being label as rude as the society dictates you to be decent and courteous so the manner of being expressive is limited for quite sometimes.
How about you, could you think or project an images of being happy when you really are not or just project a happy face just to make an impression or just to please other people?
3-26-10
8:01
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11 responses
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Mar 10
hi neelianoscet you do not have to be having a perfect, everything is fine, no problems at all to be happy, as happiness comes from
within you. I am happy although I am not here because I want to be, but given that we were homeless its a hell of a lot better than wandering on the street. okay I am in a retirement center not because I need someone to look after me, but because of financial problems that made us homeless, my son is in a gov.sponsored apt with three other men all of whom are out of work, the idea it that you can be happy in spite of your troubles,I am not being happy to please anyone but myself,I do not care about my impressions to others as my problems are nobody else's businees unless they want to help, they should just butt out. I am happy as the alternative is to be sad, sick and miserable. I do not promote jolliness at all, just peace, and I am strong, to survive as we have you have to be strong.For one thing i do not give a tinkers damn what others think of me,lifes too short to worry about that at all.
within you. I am happy although I am not here because I want to be, but given that we were homeless its a hell of a lot better than wandering on the street. okay I am in a retirement center not because I need someone to look after me, but because of financial problems that made us homeless, my son is in a gov.sponsored apt with three other men all of whom are out of work, the idea it that you can be happy in spite of your troubles,I am not being happy to please anyone but myself,I do not care about my impressions to others as my problems are nobody else's businees unless they want to help, they should just butt out. I am happy as the alternative is to be sad, sick and miserable. I do not promote jolliness at all, just peace, and I am strong, to survive as we have you have to be strong.For one thing i do not give a tinkers damn what others think of me,lifes too short to worry about that at all.1 person likes this
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
hi hatley,
I understand were you coming from and it is better to have a home where others live to than to be isolated with other people for me is a lonely life to lead for and the things which is important you are happy where you are now. Their is a sense of fulfillment in it and although not really to the fullest satisfaction at least you could also relate with your fellows and share good things and building strong friendship and camaraderie. thanks.
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@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
26 Mar 10
I think that this is quite a challenge faced by the majority of people. I sometimes feel happy but I still feel that there is an element of weakness deep inside. I think it's nice when you can portray a happy, peaceful face, a face that is smiling but again, this can be quite a challenge for some people. I try to remain happy on a daily basis but I have to admit this is quite hard at times when things are not going the way I would like them to! I think that positive thinking books help me with this, they help me to get my mind right and start thinking in the correct way! Andrew
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
Hi Andrew,
I do think the same thing as many feel pressure to mask their inner feeling and portray an image that seen by society as appropriate behavior though inside they rebel with mixed emotion. And if one become so expressive this become an irrational behavior and creates a stigma of differences if one deviate from the normal aspects where many expect one to behave in accordance with the acceptable rules as dictates by society where to be accepted one need to unite with a group or rules to become part of a certain groups. yeah, being positive, creating an optimistic attitude no matter hard life begets it work like a healer which could magically gives confidence. thanks
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@airakumar (1553)
• India
28 Mar 10
Well, I am a happy person. Whenever I feel good, I am happy, Whenever I prepare nice food, I am happy. When you have things that keep you busy, you won't feel bored. It feels great to know that I touched peoples lives while playing and I am happy. Yes, I am strong and not weak, Weak are those person who doesn't know the real meaning of life to be happy and doesn't cherish the moment which never comes back.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
hi aira,
God for you and it seem you rarely feel sad and you could be a good company to keep with since being moody most of the times is very infectious it also affect those who surround you and in your case you have a cheerful outlook which is better than being lonely most of the times though being alone is good to have to be in touch with inner self for awhile. i do agree with you keeping self busy is the key to avoid the feeling of boredom.
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@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Most of the times i feel it when I am happy and receive good news. I like to share my happiness with friends so i appear confident most of the times. But the truth other could project a face to indicate those qualities you mention and some are true to their self while other simply lies about the true feelings.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
hi flower,
That should be the right attitude and should be proud as long as you really feel it is true. you just act accordingly and everything would be alright. As i believe out of being natural lies greater happiness and it does need anybody to make you happy it comes along inside what you felt and no one could force you to act happy when you really feel sad it just faking the emotion which is unnatural at all.
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
26 Mar 10
Well strictly speaking I do not think that true happiness has to regard strength and weaknesses. At least when you break it down, there is a more common cause beyond strength and weakness. They can be minor factors, but I think that feeling happy is even more tied to one factor and one factor alone. That would be how comfortable we feel in our life.
If you think about it, if you are comfortable, then you are likely happy. If you feel strong, you could be comfortable with how life is going and thus you are extremely happy with how your life is going. On the plus side, if you feel weak and powerless, then you will not be comfortable and thus not as happy. I think happiness ties strictly back into the level of comfort that you have. It might seem like being strong or weak would dictate that but again, those can be tied back to comfort as well. So everything comes full circle.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
hi megamatt,
yeah, it may be true since one could easily project an image of being confident most of the times just to give an impression to other people that they are strong and lead a successful life when one could only read what on their mind it is basically an opposite of the image which they try to project.
Well, when comes to being comfort is a feeling generated as what the mind think at the moment as what the heart to dictates and even feel great when a person could express it more in a natural way without being superficial. thanks
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
If your not faking it then i believe that your indeed strong. But being strong doesnt mean we wont be having our weak moments too .It just means your feelings are more intact and that your able to handle alot of things and your well loved as well ;)
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
hi stsuna,
I do agree with you but most f the times people are faking it and it is very hard to determine if one companion expression is really true and if one have a good way to detect it ans so one could know even if the person keep on putting a happy expression but in the eyes it would also reflect and the manner the lips movement if it is pressure or totally giving then it is true.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
hello stsuna,
So sorry quite delay for responding been busy with my offline world. Anyway, I am so glad to see you around and do hope so i am going to stalk your profiles for awhile to reply on your topics too and feel free to shares some views too. have a nice day, my friend.
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Thank you for reading my post neelianoscet! and im glad we do share the same opinion about your topic and im hoping we will be able to share some more topics together feel free to join with my simple topics too it will be fun and interesting to have friends like you in this site 
@May2k8 (18049)
• Indonesia
26 Mar 10
happiness is a struggle of life, if people is weak so they are trying to be strong with the ability they have. They face the trials and obstacles which they have to go, people have a mission and each purpose, find what they love. If I had a problem, not buried in my heart but to share with family or close friends. My life filled with happiness, and that's what I always try to keep.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
hi may,
Yeah, that very true sometimes some appear like happy which is only a front face but deep inside they are so lonely, feel sad and alone so they do not like others to see it so it would not infect others people as well. But times their is a need to show unhappiness when you could no longer hide it and for me it is better than keeping the feeling inside the more it is hidden it would just explode like a bomb in no time even your closest beloved would be shock upon learning it. At least they could understand as long as it is not fully shown within the public view it would be such a sort of connecting the feelings and how it would affect one predisposition in life. thanks.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
27 Mar 10
Feeling happy is one of the greatest emotions we can experience. It does not mean you are weak or strong. You could even be both. Happiness is a blessing. We can find strength in being happy. It can also weaken our resolve. It all depends on what crossroads we are at in our lives. Take joy in being happy.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
hi sender,
That very true especially happiness that is full of ecstasy it is a feeling which one could not describe since it is a real happiness ans so it is overwhelming and one could not help but feel so excite like one is feeling floating in a cloud nine. So far the happiness is one derive from receiving and from making other people happy when one is able to help and the other side make a sincere thanks or even if their is no effort as long as one have the true desire to help for me is a genuine happiness.
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@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
26 Mar 10
I don't think so because i think happy person is not a strong person.. because every persons are happy with their life.. but i think who is strong person.. who fight with their sorrow.. and don't afraid.. with their sorrow.. so he/she is a strong persons.. what about you.. have a nice day and keep mylotting always..
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
hi anurag,
When it comes to different levels of happiness their are differences so it is the way a person exhibit it as they presume as their own way to make themselves appear happy and contented when they are full of vigor and enthusiasm it is reflected on their face, acting and the way they treat their fellow human. I exudes a lot of different types of emotion and sometimes i could live in secrecy and life full of revelation when i want to share but most of the times i am more at the peak of my performance when i could think more when i am alone as i could put all of my best efforts without feeling of being disturb when i am in the process of logical thinking. thanks.
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@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
There are instances where I have to hide my true feelings and I just know I have a valid reason for doing so.This is when I have to act rationally even under pressure.Like during business meetings, while working or talking to people who has no connection to whatever I am feeling at that moment.
But most of the times, i would say i am not really good in hiding what i really feel.It just shows in how i look or how i talk or how i write.But i don't let anybody else be affected in a bad way just in case i feel down.
(^_^)
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
hi lipstick,
Some are really good in hiding and in fact i duly appreciate them like an actresses or an actors but does not seem to limit to those types of people as even ordinary normal people have to be quick to hide their true mood since as you have already mention it is not good to let others know your real feeling for the moment when in fact they really have nothing to do with your feeling that they have to dealt with because even them have their own worries and as a great reliever never to show whatever sad or bad moments when it is not the right person or not the right place to grieve or sulk in bad moods and i must say it should be as necessary to be only show in private like to a closest person whom know you best and know to compliments as well as to gives good advices as well.
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@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Being happy doesn't mean that you are strong and not weak. Many of us shows a happy face outside but feeling weak inside. It's a defense mechanism that most of the people do in order to re assure the people around them that they are okay.
I personally will be so hurt if my love ones will knew that i have a problem, disappointment or discontentment. Thats why i tend to show a happy face even though i am weak that time to protect their feelings. I don't want them to be hurt for me.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
hi jinjer,
I do agree with you and many have to put that certain kind of face even in some women putting a lot of make up and dressing well often do shopping just to appear happy and contented but deep inside of their mind what they claim to be for others to see as happy is not the real side of them since they would not let others see them being sad most of the times could be interpreted as being weak especially if one is seen almost carrying those emotion which could be infectious making others happy or sad the way they see it to their companion it also troubles them or enlighten them in some ways. thanks.
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