How do you avoid feeling bad?
March 27, 2010 5:41am CST
What do you often do to lift up your mood when you feel bad? Do you try to avoid other people to get affected with your emotions? or Do you share the bad feelings you have with them?
27 Mar 10
Instead of dreading future, we should be proactive. We should recall past successes to recover our confidence. Instead of feeling like a failure, we should exploit what we are good at. We should ask for serenity to bear the things we can't change and courage to change the things we can and the wisdom to know the difference. Feeling better is not enough. We need to remove that which stands between us and our happiness. We must identify the things that make us happy and do them. Without being critical of ourselves, we must learn to improve ourselves. When bad things happen to us, we need not feel that we are being punished. Likewise, when good things happen to bad people, we need not feel deprived. Instead of feeling guilty for past actions, we should take reformative actions.
28 Mar 10
Very well said airakumar, I agree with everything that you've mentioned. If only all the people see the way you look at things and will follow what you've said then life would be a whole lot better. It takes time for us to learn to do and practice what is right and good for ourselves and for others. We need wisdom for us to see and appreciate life and live with happiness and satisfaction. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
27 Mar 10
Hi,there.When I feel bad ,I always try to find the reason.I know each time I feel bad it must have a reason.When I find the reason,I will easily get out of the bad motions.But sometimes I can not find it or maybe I just don't want to face it ,then I will choose someting I like to do ,for example ,eating or reading.These two things will certainly help me get away from the bad feeling no matter when and what.Hope you have a nice day.
28 Mar 10
Hello langjipingzong, Sometimes when we feel bad to try to avoid and control our feelings, we don't want to fight it because it hurts and always bring us down. But we need it in order for us to be strong and to strengthen our ability to face those kind of situations. There are so many ways we can able to balance and control the negative feelings we feel, such as doing those things that we love and enjoy. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
27 Mar 10
When I'm in a bad mood i often keep quiet and let time pass by. After a few i feel okay and ready to be on the go again. I believe that this is part of our day to day living. There are negative and positive things that are happening to us wether we want it or not. We just have to learn to accept and then do things in a positive way. We can't avoid to be affected but then we must know how to handle all these after all i believe that in everything that's happening to us is always destined to happened and for a reason.
28 Mar 10
Yeah, feeling good and bad is part of our life and we can't avoid it. We need it as much as we need happiness, but we must also learn to balance and keep our feelings and actions in control. You're right everything that happens to us were destined and happens for a reason. No matter what we do to avoid it, it will still happened and we must accept that's the reality. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
16 Apr 10
I think I have always benefited from discussing a problem with a good trusted friend or with a stranger that I will probably not see again. But if it's just a mood then I just do something that will hurry the bad mood out of my system, like go for a walk, call to talk to someone, put on some music and dance.
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27 Mar 10
Hey careguarden! When I'm in a bad mood (which for me is often) I sometimes will talk to my bf or my close friends. Then there are other times that I don't want to talk to anyone and that's when I know that I'm in trouble~ When I close myself off to everyone I know that I had better find a way to snap out of it or I will just go into a deeper depression. I already have "Major Depressive Disorder" and am on meds for it so I have to be careful to not isolate too much or too often! My friends understand because a few of them are also Bipolar, which is different than me, but also a more serious mental disorder and it sometimes help talking to things out with them!
27 Mar 10
When I feel bad I spend time alone and I tend to rationalize things a bit myself and as much as possible I try to avoid sharing my bad feelings towards other people because it would just magnify my negative feelings on things. But sometimes, talking with trusted close friends may actually help lighten up the burden. In order not to feel bad I try to identify if my negative feelings are reasonable enough and if I deserve it somehow...and most of time when I found out that these bad feelings are man made (which means - I made it happen to myself)...then I just accept it and the next day I try to move on and learn from the scenario. Every event that happend to our lives have their meaning in life and if you don't attempt to at least extract a learning from it then it would just be another ghost haunting you through the years. Better think of what you can do in the present and try to enumerate the things you can do to place happiness back into your life again. We are given the time to make things better...and in fact, there are many ways to make good things to happen in our lives. Just embrace the essence of living and everythintg will fall into their respective places. Good luck and happy mylotting.