"It's difficult to find sincere friends", says Megan

@laydee (12813)
Philippines
March 27, 2010 6:26pm CST
I saw this today in a status of one of my Facebook buddies and came to wonder - What does being a sincere friend mean? Is it sincere when you are always there greeting the friend hello? Is it sincere if you will say yes to every request? or is it sincere when you don't gossip about the other friend (but it's okay to gossip with her?) hehe.. I'm confused. What does being a sincere friend for you? What does it take to be called a sincere friend? Happy Palm Sunday everyone!
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
28 Mar 10
A sincere friend is someone who is there when you need them, a shoulder to cry on, a person you can call in any kind of emeergency who will run out without a second thought at 2 AM. Who will lend you money if needed knowing that you'll pay them back, who your children can call "uncle" or "aunt"... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysgAbwKub7Y Tracy Lawerence says it best, there's a link to "find out who your friends are"
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
Oh yeah, I do agree.
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
30 Mar 10
I love that song. I listened to it a lot when I found out who my friends were, or should I say old friends.
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
A friend is someone you can talk to, someone who s there, someone you can rely on. a sincere friend could be absent most of the time but is there when you ve messed up big time.
• United States
28 Mar 10
Yeah. This is it pretty much on the nail. I have "friends" all over the place... but I have a good friend some 12,000 miles away and besides my wife, is the best friend I have. and not only have but, have ever heard of that acts like a true friend ought to be. This person understands me and I him. We don't have to be agreeing with other or helping with finances or the like. But what we do have in common is knowing of each others' faults...honesty.... and a hobby; guitar. This buddy of mine...weve known each other since 2nd grade. but there have been looong periods of no contact and the like.. we know we are getting on with our lives. we don't expect each other to "be there" every time sum'm happens. We are not a cuople. Just 'familiar' in life with each other.
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
28 Mar 10
hi laydee. in my opinion sincerity should be 'caught'. when a help we need is given and given without knowing who the person who has given it, that is sincerity.
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
I didn't get what you mean by 'caught'? It should be unexpected for it to be sincere?
@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
9 Apr 10
I think "sincere friend" is redundant. If a person is a true friend, they will be honest, sincere, and so on. If they're not a friend, it's not to say they aren't sincere, but isn't it understood that if a person is your friend, they will possess these qualities? I think it is the same thing, but that's just me!
• United States
29 Mar 10
Hi, Laydee! My closest friend and I were discussing this a little while ago. Too often, those we thought were friends turn on us and cause great harm. Some think they're doing something of value to us, which turns out to be hurtful. Many times, though, jealousy pops up to spoil what could have been a great relationship. A sincere friend accepts us as we are and respects the relationship as he or she respects us...
@umit_umit (1986)
• India
28 Mar 10
well very true my lot friend its very dificult to find asincire friend!in todays world!
@bdn317 (25)
• India
28 Mar 10
According to me, sincere friends are the ones who accept you just the way you are!! You may be good or bad. They shouldnt mind anything. If they are sincere, they must see to it that you never de-track in life by doing any mistakes. If they find that you are doing any mistake, they must make sure to inform you their opinion. Friendship just doesnt means saying hi how are you all the time. It must also not be one among those give and take relations. sincere friends of course dont gossip behind your back. If they have any problem with you, they will tell it to you on your face and wont have any double standards. Dont expect your sincere friends to do everything you ask them for. Its not right on your part to expect them to do anything that you ask for. But then a sincere friend will always do anything within their reach.
• China
28 Mar 10
DEAR laydee.what a confused topic,i am working now,there are so much relationship need us to resolve,it is a pity that i can't find out anyone we can share each other secret,nowadays everyone is selfishness and ever though they want to help others who are weak,before they do any action,they have an idea of effect of helping others,like as reputation,under that condition,people can't help others,how they can understand each others,and then make friends?i think i sincere friends will support you whatever you do or think.it is not so easy to find that one.
@bjane02 (19)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
...for me, a sincere friend means being there for someone through ups & downs... that u accept him/her despite his weaknesses & shortcomings... there are times that u tolerate his madness, but most of the time u try to be frank & tell him what he's doin is wrong... that u stay in touch wd him/her, & distance isnt a hindrance in ur friendship... ^^
• United States
28 Mar 10
Thats correct. It is difficult to find a sincere friend. I was friends with this one girl for like 7 years and we called each other best friends. my mom knew her mom and so forth... make a long story short, she betrayed me. talking about me behind my back. leaving me behind for her other friends and just started being totally rude. these are things a sincere friend wont do. remember the golden rule...( treat others as you would want to be treated)
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
being sincere is a lot of many things combine in one word sincere. By being there to help your friend when they needed it is one thing. Just be the shoulder to cry on in moments of loneliness is already a great thing. Overall...it's how you treat your friends that really counts.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
28 Mar 10
Sincere means the relations which stays with you, so as the friends. But for me sincere friend, is myself. I dont search of a friend sincere to me rather i wanted to be a sincere friend. You cant find a friend sincere, unless you become a one. Whatever you give, it comes right back, so as the friends!
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Mar 10
I think a sincere friend is a person that is always honest with you as well as you are always honest with them.They are also people that you can rely on to not spread gossip aswell as you do not gossip about them.I think also that you never let each other down whan you have made plans only to break them at the last minuite.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
27 Mar 10
I think the sincere friend more like they stick with you no matter what. Good times, you share the friendship. Bad times they won't leave you. Whether you rich or broke your sincere friend will stay around. Sounds like marriage, but i think it's greater, since friends really no "vow" you took at the church. So when you found a friend when you are in trouble, that is your sincere one.