3 Major things to consider before marrying someone?

@cloud31 (5811)
March 28, 2010 7:27am CST
Hello everyone!! Aside from LOVE of course! Kindly, share 3 major things which you will take into consideration before marrying someone? And why??.Kindly share your thoughts.. Thank you, Happy myLotting!
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@airakumar (1555)
• India
28 Mar 10
Well, first off I would say that Marriage is a social union or legal contract between individuals that creates kinship. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships. Marriage is one of those Big Commitments that requires a great deal of thought. And before we married, we talked about 3 of the most important things to discuss before marriage: money, kids and religion. You need to talk about money, and decide how you plan to divide up the finances. Children are large parts of some people’s lives. Before you get married it is a good idea to know where the other stands in terms of progeny. If you want to have children, but your potential mate has no desire to have even one child, it can become a point of strain on the relationship — unless one or the other of you is willing to compromise. Marriage requires ongoing communication and a degree of flexibility in order to thrive.
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@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
Hi airakumar I agree in you with this! Money --is one of the major things to consider.Kids--- well i think its also one of those if both are willing to conceive a baby and the plan of it..Religion --- I think this make sense when partners don't have same religion and belief, so it has to be given a consideration. Its really need to consider a lot of things before marriage to make things work . Thanks for sharing and Happy myLotting!~
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
3 things: 1. COMPATIBILITY in this word I mean is... your love for each other and how you respect each other to make the relationship work in long terms... 2. TRUST tRUST on partners on both sides.. This will surely get the relationship longer. It is hard to build this kind of thing... 3. FINANCIAL STABILITY How can you get married if you don't have the money to do so? I know that you can get married civilly but what about your future. Ready to have kids? hmmm That's what I think I've never been married...
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@cloud31 (5811)
31 Mar 10
Compatibility, trust and financial stability, I agree with you with these to take much of consideration before marriage.. Thank you for sharing yresh! Nice day
@zack786 (40)
• India
28 Mar 10
be true,friendly and more care
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@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
Hi zack! Being true meaning visible in everything to your partner,friendship in marriage is another thing and a lot of care..Yah caring one another is really a must, without care the its impossible to make marriage work... Thank you for sharing ..Happy myLotting!
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@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
Hi my lovely IJ! First thing to consider is "how much he loves you?", of course you should feel that he loves you 100%, you are his only one and he will never get tired of loving you. Second is "are you willing to share the rest of your life with him"?, meaning do you accept him for who and what he is? do you accept him despite of his flaws and weaknesses?. Third is "are you ready to be committed with him through thick and thin" with the presence of God? meaning are you ready to take an oath that you will love him and stay with him for the rest of your life no matter what? If these three major things are positive, then go girl, you should marry him immediately. LoL! Have a nice day! Happy myLotting!
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
28 Mar 10
And done and deal. Great. TATA.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
Thanks saph, she should really consider those three things I have mentioned. Have a great day!
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
28 Mar 10
Don't worry sweetie. If you keep this up, you wil be grey by morning. Now smile and just be happy. TATA.
@gunagohan (3415)
• India
28 Mar 10
Everybody keen on giving many considerations, but i'm a different guy of 21 year old and i have many consideration before marrying my girl.. first thing- Her Physical Structure, because both of us should make love every time, so i want a good Structured lady..i already have one.. second thing- As every one says that, Sense of Humor, i'm a practical man and i like more jokes and i do more jokes .. my friends always say that i have more sense of humor.. Third thing- Internal Character...I'm much concerned about the internal character of the girl, because she should not hurt me and i should not hurt her at any time and she have to understand me and all my internal feelings(I'm not talking about LOVE) means the internal feelings of the heart.. I think i'm HOT....SO there is no questioning i expect a hot girl!!!!!!!
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
I believe different individual have dissimilarity of consideration about things before marriage,.. Physical structure-- well man always keen for this,I think most man, but this just a secondary for me. Sense of humour-- this is a must for me and I need these to make the relationship grow fonder.I cannot live a day with laughing and smiling and even jokes. Internal Character--common known as behavior this also very important to consider and I admit I have to look a bit closer on this I just need a good moral character from a man whom I intend to marry.When feeling is concern that we cannot call internal character it should be could mutual understanding at mutual feelings of the heart, I also consider this as a must..He must understand my longings and his longings to without further questions.This is a mutual feelings between partners. Hot--I'm afraid this is out of my list!!
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@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
Thank you for sharing and Happy myLotting!! Great day ahead!
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@gunagohan (3415)
• India
28 Mar 10
Hot and Physical structure are secondary to you....!!!!! ???? Then u are a girl among the millions, cause girls in my place always wanted to have these two in front, because people here concentrate much on external appearance than the other things.. Seriously u are a beautiful woman, and i have a great respect for such woman like u..
@Aaleexix (2291)
• India
28 Mar 10
Three thing?..... One Who are you? second whom do you want to marry? (Whom means who is she/he?) Third why you want to marry him/her. This is the three thing to consider before going for marriage. But many other things need to bring under consideration before marriage.
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
Hello Aaleexix, You are right , these 3 things has to consider before marriage.. Thank you so much for being hear again..Miss u anyway!. Have a nice day ahead!
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
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@Aaleexix (2291)
• India
28 Mar 10
Its ok. I have red that right way. In these three whole question of life is hidden behind. And if any one find the the proper answer of these three question, I think no question remain hidden regarding married life. I think those are the happy couple who know the each other than self. it is a relation of life of sharing. How much both of then can share the happiness double in the couple life.
@tilldawn (64)
28 Mar 10
I will consider 3 things 1)Beauty-she had to be beautiful as you 2)attitude-and don't behave like warfreak 3)loyalty-she must be loyal even were not together. That's it.All the best
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
Very well, its common for man to look for these three and you're one of them.. Well, thank you for the compliment I believe you can have more beautiful girls than you think I am.. Thank you for responding and Have a nice day ahead!
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
It should be done that way 3honor! I agree with that!
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
28 Mar 10
Sweetie. The others you missed. Trust, respect, compassion and a awesome sense of humour. So, IJ, there you have saph's most important list to happiness. Because this is what we need to survive in any relationship or marriage. TATA.
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
Now you mentioned that,it reminds me, you're such an angel, earth angel of mine.. Now let me tell you where I can get better sense of humour than YOU! Thank you Saph!
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
28 Mar 10
Thanx IJ, you know your angel will aways make sure you get the happiness you deserve. TATA.
@rain28 (50)
• Canada
28 Mar 10
Hello my Cloud,For me Occupation/Profession is a must because how can you support your husband/wife and family to be if your work is not stable.I'm not saying that you can't marry those who have no stable job,but make sure before you get marry you are in a good hands.Second, happiness and security are important too, you can live happy together if this two are present.Third,before you accept her/his proposal make sure that she/he free. By the way Cloud can i ask a question? Are you planning for marriage? Will you marry me? lol..Take Care Always.
@cloud31 (5811)
31 Mar 10
Hi rain! Profession,security'happiness,status well yah these 3 make sense before marriage.. These 3 are very vital too.. Thank you for sharing!
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Mar 10
hi cloud 31 love yes then does he or she love animals,cats and dogs? Does he or she want Children? and three, what does he or she think about handling money? to me I would never have married a man who hated animals and pets, who did not want children, and knew nothing about his or her ability to handle money. these are the points that mess up a lot of marriages so know before hand if you love someone who does not want or even like children or pets, and was either a penny pincher or worse a spend thrift, cause if you do your marriage will be one big catastrophe.
@cloud31 (5811)
31 Mar 10
Hi Hatley , I think it it should and must have to consider your points.Pet lover,children and last know how to handle money ..You have that very good points in these points.I will include them on my list.. Thank you for sharing ..
@phoenix8606 (4978)
28 Mar 10
hell0 CLoud! well, guess the first things would be is she really the right for me- i mean must rewind the whole relationship we had to see is she really the one for me. the second thing would be like some other have said the sense of humor,because I am a person with a great sense of humor and like girls who have it too. and the third thing is the smile- i just can resist girl with a lovely smile(like yours)
@cloud31 (5811)
29 Mar 10
Hi pheonix, meaning you would recall all the things you have done together,whether you are really compatible,second sense of humor,this is also a must for me,I just cannot live a single day without smile and laughters ,,LOL Smile? ok you say that..lovely smile well yah its not really a must but I just want to know how many man could have a lovely smile?.. Thank you for that and Have a nice day ahead!
@common_man (1799)
• India
28 Mar 10
hi cloud! Are u planning to get married, friend? LOL Well, Before marrying, in our country, at least in arranged marriage, we see following things. 1. Weather boy and girl physics matches.(Too hefty boy /girl may not be a suitable match for too thin girl/boy) 2. Style of living of the two should matching. At least they should be such that both should be able to adjust with each other after marriage. E.g if one is pure veg and one is pure non veg, and if two gets married, they may have disputes very often after marriage and may find difficult to adjust. 3. Nature of individual concerned,(at least broad traits displayed during interactions)and their family background and family history. 4. Education level also seen before deciding about marriage. Happy my Lotting, friend.
@cloud31 (5811)
29 Mar 10
Hi friend! Not that early friend.. Well yah its true, physical structure,need to be consider ,life style,meaning compatibility in style of living,family background and education level. I will put them in my list friend.. Thank you so sharing..Nice day ahead!
@hofferp (4739)
• United States
28 Mar 10
I want someone who doesn't think making love is the only thing in a marriage. I want someone who loves to do a wide variety of things from whitewater rafting to gardening. I want someone who loves to talk about a wide variety of things without his way having to be the last word on the subject.
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
Hi hofferp! I agree with you I don't want it that way too, it can be an ingredients of marriage but it should not be the major one.I want someone with me who can absolutely a partner o not just for lovemaking but in all aspects of my marriage. Thank you so much for sharing..Happy myLotting!
@elamel (127)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
in my own opinion cloud31 there are 3 things or factors that you have to consider before entering in this kind of situation. this is the love, trust and respect. Love is common reason we all know. its the main ingredients trust, you must have trust to each other and the last, respect. every person has her/his own opinion for everything. you have to trust your partner in what ever way.
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
Love---trust---respect , I believe on this..I strongly agree with you! Thanks and good day!
@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
First i think you should consider background of whomever it is you want to marry. I know you already love the person but it wont hurt to know more bout him or her, 2 financial capability you just dont just into a decision to marry without knowing if you will be able to make it after the marriage, most marriage fails because of problems regarding financial stability afterwards , so you better settle it first before deciding.Third will be family matters,its always good to check if both parties are good with each other, because when married already both families will be serving as support to the couple. hope it helps you out somehow ;)
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Mar 10
Hi setsuna26! These also a things to consider i believe,family background,financial capability--this is another one,and family matters, I will put them into my list this are also a good points, and really a help.. Thank you so much! Have a nice day ahead!
• India
2 Jan 12
just got your discussion while searching around.according to me the most important thing is to have trust.it is what keeps the pair tied even in hard times.the second would attitude.positive attitude is the must.and the last but not the least will be quality of enjoying life with a sense of responsibility. hope you get your dream man with all the qualities you need in him. happy new year and happy my lotting
@bodhi_91 (193)
• India
28 Sep 11
1. Understanding 2. Caring and Loving 3. Good bondage with my mother
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
Good question , cloud. First things first 1.) Finance - Know each others view on making money, earning, savings and spending. See how you are if you have less, how would you cope. 2.) Ask yourself if you want to grow old with this person. See if you can talk about anything under the sun and still respect each other's opinion. see if both of you can accept each others strengths and weaknesses. 3.) certainly, not the last but the most important of all, before indulging into marriage and to save both of you the guilt and embarrassment in the future, ask yourself if you really love the person, ask yourself if you really want to be with the same person for the rest of your life. This is important, if you have the slightest doubt about these, then do not get married. Yes, do not get married if you start to have second thoughts. You have to be very very sure that you want to. I guess that's about it, havea g'day, cloud.
@renifa12 (104)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
before marrying we must learn to know the person's background and know the person's attitude as well
@erikmama (12929)
• United States
1 Apr 10
3 things that should be taken into consideration before marrying someone-your compatibility for starters. You have to be sure you 2 share some of the same interests and goals in life. Next would be the ability to live together. If there are annoying habits from one sife, it something that can be overlooked for a lifetime together? And finally I would say to have kids or not. A person who wants to have children would not want to live a life without them because the other person didnt want them and vice cersa.