My sister is always depending to me.

Philippines
March 28, 2010 4:19pm CST
Since childhood my younger siter Anne is always depending to me. She cannot decide without asking my opinion first from small things to big things. Now that we are both adults and professionals, she is still with me. I am here abroad and she follows me. I think it is not good anymore that she will have her life with me. Should I throw him away? I dont know the nice way how it would be.
4 responses
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
I think that she's still your sister. When she follows you there.Talk to her and tell her to get a life and not depend on all the things on you.. In that way she will grow and learn how to live on her own...
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Logically it is true..but if the emotions are envolve it is very hard to say and do it..the bond we have and the feelings of being apart is difficult..I want her to have her own life ..to learn and to live without me all the time.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Yeah I know what you mean. It's really up to you on how you do it. I wish you all the best and I hope that you can work things out..
• Singapore
29 Mar 10
Well, you need to start to let her learn to be independent, or else she may faced a lot of problems if you can't be with her. Life is unpredictable, you would never know when you would be separated from her. However, do not push her away right away, start to let her learn independence slowly. For example, if she ask you opinion on minor things, you just start to tell her to decide on her own. Then slowly to decide some important things for herself. Then finally, she would be able to decide everything for herself. If you just push her away right away, she would feel very helpless suddenly and this is not good for her.
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
hi! You are right..all you have said is the right way to motivate her to be independent. I do this already, but living abroad with the two of US here is difficult..You need a family. She needs me. Now it is more needing I see in her..
@eileenleyva (8818)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
I'd love to have my siblings beside me all my life. If only it is possible to bring them back from alien lands, I'd be the happiest sister on earth. Your sister is a treasure you don't know yet you possess. Who knows, you believe that you are taking care of her but it is also probable that she is taking care of you. You've heard about that bullet thing? I believe she will take it for you.
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
I love her too..I take care all of her.. but I want her to be dependent, staying with me all the time is not healthy....She should run her own life even this means that i need her to let go..It is the saddest part of being sisters.
@Hatley (154938)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Mar 10
hi missyjanette well she is still your sister so how can you just throw her away? no be kind but suggest that she try to be more independent, to do things on her own, but you will be there for her but only if she will stand up and work on being independent. Tell her you love her but you do have your own life to live too.she will soon find that she likes the feeling of independence and may opt to have her very own apartment
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
Hi Hatley...maybe it is also my fault. I didn't anticipate the result of being a big sister to her that she's following my path and idolized me. Wish I can tell her to manage her own life.. If that will happen i would surely miss her...