Have you ever cheated/been cheated on?

United States
March 29, 2010 1:36am CST
Have you ever cheated or been cheated on in a relationship? What were the signs? When me and my boyfriend first started going out, about 3 years ago, we weren't serious and I cheated on him once, just a kiss. That was the only time though. Later after we had been together for a year, I found out that he cheated on me, nothing physical, but he was talking to another girl. He was very sorry about it and I forgave him. Now we have been together for 3 years and I do trust him but sometimes, if he isn't picking up his phone, or I do not know where he is, my mind starts to wander. If you have ever been cheated on or have cheated on your partner tell me any warning signs that I should look for. I look forward to reading your responses. :)
15 responses
• United Arab Emirates
29 Mar 10
As a guy the sign i so much know is when she
• United Arab Emirates
29 Mar 10
Starts calling you and complaining that you don't
• United Arab Emirates
29 Mar 10
Call,don't give her attention as she wanted again
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
i ve been both. unfortunately, the warning sign that came to me was my friend saying my girl was having an affair with another guy so i cheated on her too by sleeping with another girl.
• United States
29 Mar 10
O wow. Are you still with her?
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
nope. but we re in good terms now so it s all good.
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
I was cheated by my BF before I thot were in good but sad to say he was never since we start our relationship. At first it is difficult to predict cheaters if you truly love the person. Because the only thing you can see to him/her is the good memories you shared together. So if i were to choose a percentage of sharing my love i wont give in that much... I have learned my lessons already... maybe 25% for love.
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
I have cheated on my BF before but it happened only once, I had lots of regrets in the end. He accepted & understood my weaknesses though I did it intentionally and that's what made me realized my mistakes..He noticed it when I disappeared in 3 days & my cellphone was turned off ha ha! After that, I promised not to do the same thing again because I don't want to be cheated too.
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
30 Mar 10
I have never cheated on anyone, but I can't really know if I have been cheated on or not, as some people are good at hiding that and you can never trust the ex. It's difficult to know what signs are a warning, as it depends on the person, but if your partner for example starts being less and less interested in you, it can be a warning about many different things.
@engrdng06 (248)
• Japan
29 Mar 10
With my first boyfriend, he had cheated on me when he told me has nothing with his ex-girlfriend. But Ive found out, that they are still having their communications and sometimes still going out. During that time, I love him so much that I cant let go but one day, I did. Know why?I have found a new love. LOL!
@drshav (205)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
Ive been cheated by my ex boyfriend. He actually did it twice. I forgave him right away the first time he did it. I know hes cheating on me because i can feel it through my instinct. Girls can feel whether their boyfriend has someone else. He has no time for me and made excuses if i want to be with him. You should follow ur instinct if u feel hes cheating on u coz that will surely help u.
@gracie04 (4556)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
I have been cheated by my partner once.. she went to an out of town trip with her ex... i had a gut feeling that something's going on before she left but i let it pass because i don't want any arguments. while she was in Boracay, she didn't call me up or even send messages to let me know what she's up to, where exactly she is, etc... that made me think she's with someone else and i was right.. she admitted that her ex was with her.. i was deeply hurt... she asked for forgiveness and i gave our relationship another shot.. we are still together and we are living in a one bedroom condominium unit somewhere in the south area... :)
@umit_umit (1988)
• India
29 Mar 10
well when there is some other in a persons life then one try to avoid you can devulge all kind of bad words to you in other person support!its very irritating the person dont pick phone!will be indifferent to you!once it was my partner then i caught and was ok!
• United States
29 Mar 10
im not to sure if i have ever been cheated on, but im sure i have been. I have only cheated oe time and i dont know if you can even call it that. I was going out with this guy and we didnt really hit it off, but my friends encouraged me to stay with h im. but on day my ex came over, and we kissed. after that i broke up with the pther guy and got back with my ex, i love him, and i always knew he was my soul mate.
• United Arab Emirates
29 Mar 10
No I have never cheated any one but looks like my Boy freind is cheating me cause the way he reacts towards me these days, ewww am so upset :(
29 Mar 10
I have never cheated, but I have been the victim. At the time I was too blind to see but if I had been a little more savvy I would have noticed the broken dates, the evasion and the excuses.
• United States
29 Mar 10
I have never cheated on a boyfriend, although my very first boyfriend cheated on me. We had only been dating for about a week when he went to a week-long conference. While he was there, he told me he couldn't really talk because they were so busy with speakers and activities and catching up with each other. Actually, he should have had plenty of time since my friend also went to this conference and talked to her boyfriend every day while she was there. Either way, I was just happy that he was back from the conference. A couple weeks later I got an email from a girl that went to school with my boyfriend and was also at the conference. She told me that he had cheated on me at the conference with TWO girls. I wasn't sure if I should believe her or not, so I asked him about it and he denied it. She sent me another message the next day containing an AIM message conversation between the two of them. In the conversation she was telling him to tell me about the other girls already. After reading this conversation and confronting him, he finally confessed. The kicker: I forgave him, and then 2 weeks later he broke up with me.
• China
29 Mar 10
yes,i did,i actually cheated on my ex-boyfriend.when we graduated from school,we were separated due to our jobs,we should work in different cities.and then i have an affair with my colleague,i was very guily for this,i struggled for this,i don't wanna have a foot in two camp,finally,i broke up with him but didn't tell him any thing about the guy i had a crush on,cause he is a pute and lovely boy,i don't wanna hurt,i only can pretend i don't love him any more and we are not fit for each other. I know i did such damned thing to him, maybe i would be punished by God someday!
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
I was cheated by my second ex-boyfriend. He was 5 years older than me and he was tall like a model and he also looked like a model but he was a jerk. Looking at him says so many things about him. When I was having a relationship with him, he was lying to me and I believed it. He told me he cant use his phone cause it was broken. It was okay for me and I found out about what he was up to when a message was miss sent to me. I am grateful it happened anyway cause I didnt want to end up with someone who was so vain about temporal things. I just wish that he was mature enough to tell me about the situation that we were having at that time. He didnt even tell and not even his friends told me that he was already cheating. They tolerated him for doing such a thing. So I guess its better to tell someone if they are being cheated on than say nothing.