Does your parent push you to get married?

United States
March 30, 2010 4:34am CST
That is the question my mom asking yesterday. "How long do you want to wait for? You are 30; it is time for starting a family yourself." It is not that I don't want to get married yet, or taking responsibility. I haven't met the girl I really want to marry yet. I wish that I could meet her now, but I couldn't push it as my wish. My mom even want to fix me up with some girls, but I simply reject her proposition. I want to pick the girl I want. Does your parent push you to get marry? I understand that as you getting older, your parents might worry your marriage. I just want slow things down.
21 responses
@elamel (127)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
maybe all parents are all like that kingparker because there getting old and they want to see or play with their grand children before they get old. When i was young my parents were very strict with me about my boyfriends. But when i turned 29 they always say hey your getting older its time to get married. i realized when you reached the marrying age every one around you is teasing you..right?
• United States
30 Mar 10
That is right. My cousin ask me the same question over and over again. My relatives would do the same. I just tired of come up a reasonable answer to answer them. I am trying to avoid everything. I want to get marry, but it is not my wish.
@drshav (205)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
Yes. I'm in my 30's now and sometimes its annoying to hear from them over and over again about me getting married. I know they mean well and concerned for my welfare but what can I do? I don't want to get married just because my parents asked me to. I want to get married because I found my soulmate and partner for life. But it's just unfortunate that I haven't found him yet.
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
my parents never pushed me to get married. in fact I was even scared to tell them that my then boyfriend, now husband, and I wanted to get hitched already. but when I finally did tell them, surprisingly my mom told me, it's fine, you're old already. ( I was 24 for godsakes!) LOL.
@annierose (17692)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
hi kingparker, My parents don't push me to get married coz I'm still young for that. My priorities for now is to finish my studies and to plan for my future business. Further, I promised myself that I will first secure that I'll be having good status in life before I get married.
• United States
2 Apr 10
they used to, but I've made it very clear that I have no intentions in doing so. they don't bug me about it anymore.
• China
31 Mar 10
my situation as same as you, i'm 30 too, i was under enormous pressure that you can't imagine, they fix me up with some girls endlessly and never get tired of it, i can't reject at all, my nervous almost breakdown, i'm a chinese, i don't know american have the worry or not, sometimes, i want to give up and get married with a girl randomly, can you tell what can i do, hold on or give up
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 10
Sometimes I feel it too, especially, we are women and I am already 33. But sometimes i tend to push myself to have relationship with someone, and it didn`t work out because It is not based on my will, but because I see all of my friends are already married. I worry, really worry. But I don`t want to be haunted all the time by worry. I am trying to keep positive, even though i know it is hard. Just be patient, keep yourself active, busy and make friends in your community. But of course, you must be selective as well.
• China
31 Mar 10
Although my mom did not ask me or push me to get merried,but I know ,she is worried about me.In her opinion,I should marry quickly and have a baby when I am young.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
For me yes because if they want to have a grandchildren they want that there son got married but they don't notice that the one you love is the most important in marriage.
@525quan (16)
• China
31 Mar 10
I think my mum is too good, because i am is 25 years old this year ,she is not worried about this thing,haha ,how lucky i am!
@drshav (205)
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
My parents doesnt push me to get married i dont know if they are aware that im already at my 30's. Sometimes i feel like they dont want me to get married at all so i dont feel any pressure at all.
@singuri (571)
• India
31 Mar 10
Generally when you enter your thirties and still not married definitely you will have pressure to get married. Till now no pressure from my parents regarding,marriage but they keep warning me about marriage.They want me to get married before I was thirty years of age.It is not a big deal of getting a girl you want. At some point of time you have to compromise regarding your better half otherwise you wont get married.
@atv818 (1988)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Mar 10
I got married early, at age of 22, so I didn't get to experience that. My sisters are being nagged upon by my mom because just like you, they are already beyond or already hit the 30 mark. Just understand your mom because starting a family is not very easy and knowing that you are 30 means that you are mature enough to handle it. Not only that, I'm sure they are very excited to see their grandchildren.
• United States
30 Mar 10
My mom is upset that I've been with my fiance for 4 years and we're still not married. We've been engaged for a year now, live together, but are planning to wait another 1-2 (probably 2) years to marry. Both of us are graduate students and FT employees as well; we need to focus on other things for a while. I want to finish my education & start my career first, marriage second... We are both almost 30 and my mom seems to think I am abnormal, ridiculous, destined to be an "old maid." We're not even speaking presently, and I feel badly that she can't understand my point of view.
@ladyhaly (92)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
My parents scare me of getting married... And now I don't think I really will ever marry. I've met the man I want to be with for the rest of my life but... I guess he doesn't really want me. So I've just given up. Marriage is a lot of trouble in itself and considering having it with someone seriously takes a lot from me--- and all of that for what? I'll just stay single all my life, thanks.
@monkeylong (3147)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Mar 10
As far as I am concerned, I think our aprents may just want to see that we can have a family of our own,in that way, we can have a small happy life.For me, my parents have not said to let me get merried.because I may not have the age to have a merriage.
• United States
30 Mar 10
My husband was 42 when we got married. I know people wanted him to get married to anyone who was interested in him. He hated the fact that he waited so long. Then we started dating some of his family members objected because I was in college (I was 29 at the time) and instead of his family asking me what my age was they assumed that I was 18 and thought that I was a gold digger. I married at at age of 32 and we do not have any kids yet. I am in school and will be graduating in two weeks. I am hoping to make money online and catch up on bills before my husband and I plan on having a family. I feel you should get married when you are absolutely ready. Marriage is a big step and I feel that you are being responsible by knowing that you are not ready. I wish you the best of luck.
@umit_umit (1986)
• India
30 Mar 10
well i think that if you get the right match for yourself you should go ahead!
@annierose (17692)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
hi kingparker, I am just 25 years old and my parents is not pushing me to get married soon. .In fact, they keep on telling me I am too young and I must still have to learn many things before I make a family of my own. I think they are right. In addition to that, I still don't know how to cook which I think will be embarrassing not only to my future husband but also to my future in laws. But with regards to my elder sister, when she started to begin on her early 30's, mom keep on reminding her, that she is no longer getting younger. She always tell my elder sister that she do not want her to be an old maid. She said being old having no family of her own will be a sad thing in one's life because no one will take care of her when she grows old. I agree with my mom. My elder sister married at the age of 34 and she has her baby girl now. By the way, you are a man, right? I think there is no problem even if you still single even your reach 40's. You are a man and you can have a baby even if you are not that young anymore. But with woman, I think it will be a problem for them if they do not marry when they reach the age of 30's and still do not marry at the age of 40's because they might not be capable of having a baby.
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
oh goodness ... not only my mom but also my brothers and sisters, as well as my relatives... they've all been asking the same question. hehe what does a girl to do when she broke up with her boyfriend of almost 4 years and haven't been really dating since and this question pops up every now and then... i mean get real... hehe it's not as if i can get married by myself... lol and a relationship takes time to build. my siblings have been pushing me to meet some of their male single friends, go out and socialize more. hehe like you i want to find the right guy in my own sweet time. when i'm good and ready. lol