Would you rather find out that your significant other cheated on you with 20....

@mommyboo (13198)
United States
March 30, 2010 9:39am CST
....other people or just one? Which would be worse, in your opinion? Do you think the indiscretion is equal or do you attribute different levels of 'wrong' to each scenario?
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@katsmeow1213 (29044)
• United States
30 Mar 10
It doesn't matter... either way he's a pig and a jerk and doesn't deserve my time of day. I was cheated on before... not by my current hubby, but by an ex. It was devistating and terrible. I still have trust issues. I don't think you can ever be the same once you've been made to feel like a fool in that way.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Apr 10
I agree that the trust thing would be hard to deal with.
@rosegardens (3043)
• United States
30 Mar 10
One is just as bad as twenty. Several affairs are not more wrong than only a single affair. If I had a significant other that cheated on me, I would be devastated no matter how many people they had under their belt while they were with me. I consider a relationship sacred, and when two people commit themselves to each other, that is forever. No one and nothing should come between them.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Apr 10
I am starting to think I phrased it wrong when I wrote it. I guess it's not about the general 'wrong', it's more about WHICH situation would bother you MORE. Oddly enough, this was a question proposed on a morning radio station I listen to and I was curious to see how it would fare here. The majority of women were more angry about ONE affair, which most said would include an emotional connection. The MEN were more upset about 20 affairs, because they couldn't stand the thought of their significant other sleeping with 20 other men. Now do you understand the gist of the question? LOL!
• United States
1 Apr 10
Wow, that is really interesting. It seems the women didn't mind more than one because there was not an emotional connection, and the men didn't like her being with several others. How intriguing. I would mind-one or twenty doesn't matter to me. Either way I have been cheated on and I couldn't stand it.
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
If i found out my partner was cheating with 20 other guys then i would think that she's a wh0re. If i found out that she's cheating with only one guy then i'd think maybe there's an emotional connection between them. It really varies.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Apr 10
In which case would you consider taking her back.... or would it be neither?
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
I've been cheated before actually. I cheated back then she broke up with me.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
30 Mar 10
One or twenty, cheating is cheating... Oh yes, some people try to give another chance and sometimes it works too. But not all of the times! Levels of 'Wrong', sounds a bit difficult and hard to accept, though... Just my thoughts!
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Apr 10
Well, which would bother you more? That your significant other has made a deep emotional connection with another person.... or that they indiscriminately 'enjoyed' 20 other people? What's worse, multiple physical connections that really meant nothing, or one serious emotional connection?
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
4 Apr 10
Any of the two, is going to affect a sensitive human creature.. So what is the point in determining, which is the worst? Both of them are equally bad... I believe it that way!
@34momma (13895)
• United States
30 Mar 10
what an interesting question. I think rather it's one or 101 and one the pain that they would step out of your relationship is so painful. i mean does it really matter? i don't know. i would have to be in that situation to really give a honest true answer.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Apr 10
I think it would be easier to forgive something that truly meant nothing, so depending on what it meant to the other person, that would determine my answer. HOWEVER.....I don't believe that any person can give totally 100% to more than one person, meaning you cannot be in love equally with two people, so the emotional connection would be the kicker. That is one reason I don't 'get' how people could ever have multiple spouses. How in the world could that even be handled fairly? I suppose if each of the people involved had varying expectations, I am too selfish and there could be no others.
• United States
30 Mar 10
Wrong is wrong. Is there a level of wrong in this situation. Probably not.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Apr 10
Which one would bother you more though? They are different, even though they are both cheating....
@Sir_bobby88 (8244)
• Singapore
30 Mar 10
Well what the different , he/she have already betray you and i seriously cannot forgive such action .
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Apr 10
Well.... with one person there's probably an emotional connection. With 20 people, perhaps it was just physical? I'm just tossing out suggestions, this isn't an actual situation lol.
• United States
28 Apr 10
I would think that 20 women would be alot worse than just one one could be just a lapse in judgement but 20?
@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
31 Mar 10
I'd prefer he NOT cheat at all!!! Having been married to a cheater, I can tell you that #20 hurts just as bad as #1. Actually it hurts worse because by #20, you realize he just ain't gonna stop...it makes it more personal!!! With #1, you tell yourself that anybody can have a weak moment & it will be the ONLY time it happens. By the time you get to #20, you've run out of excuses!!! They ALL hurt like hell!!!!
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
30 Mar 10
I think it would be worse if there were more than one involved. If they had 20 indiscretions that would tell me that there is no way they are ever going to be faithful again as they have a real problem! One I could understand and perhaps forgive, but 20? No way
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
If i found out my partner was cheating with 20 other guys then i would think that she's a wh0re. If i found out that she's cheating with only one guy then i'd think maybe there's an emotional connection between them. It really varies.