when it comes to Love, should you follow your HEART...or your MIND?

Heart vs. Mind.... - May the best win!!!...
Philippines
March 31, 2010 3:32am CST
There a times that when you love someone, you don't know if you would gonna pursue it or not... Then, that is the time that you would ask your HEART.... then your heart says "If you know what it feels, then go ahead... If your heart beats for that person...go on.." Then your MIND would give its statement saying "Come to think of it, do you really know that person already?... maybe what you are feeling may not be the same as what that person feels for you." Today, we know how to make the right decisions when it comes to falling in love... If that person loves you, then you are lucky.. If not... move on my friend...there are still a lot of fishes in the ocean... ;)
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30 responses
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
I'd rather choose first my head over my heart. It's time to wake up from romantic fairytales. Let's get real this time. LOL. Love can't make us always happy if we follow our hearts. Let's learn to weigh things here, especially the girls. We are so vulnerable when it comes to our emotions. All I can say is that think first before doing something you may regret in the latter part. Happy mylotting!
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
i agree.... for this time...we must wake up on our sense that mind must follow... one must benefit with the other and vice versa.... always remember that it is not your lost...because you have made your part... ;) Thank you for sharing..
@fianne (1059)
• United States
31 Mar 10
i agree as well. sometimes, we just need to think of what's best and what would would make and let us be ourselves. we tend to overdo sometimes when we follow our hearts. we even think wrong and not see the truth because we are blinded by our emotions because we always choose our hearts. i agree that sometimes, the heart, the love, it cannot make us really happy because we just love, does that peson love us too? it's not the heart that decides that that peson loves us back, it needs knowledge and wisdom and the other party to answer for it, not our hearts.
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
Poor me, I still follow my heart. Whatever pain I get, my heart still rules over my mind.
@adequee (204)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 10
i agree,we are what we think..but not what we feel.we can hide our feeling but always express what we think..i think i love her..i'll tell her.. i fell in love with her!..next day we became husband n wife..
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
23 Oct 10
When it came to my fledgling relationship with the man that would one day be my husband, I decided that it was important for me to follow both my heart and my mind. My heart was telling me that it was the right thing to do but my mind was telling me that I needed to proceed with caution. So I did both of those things and the two of us were engaged a few short months after we met. The relationship that we have has always been nearly perfect in my opinion.
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
love is a great and wonderful feeling. and as such, it should only be the heart that is at work. but obviously, it is impossible for the heart to just run things when one is in love. that, brynnerson, is what is elizabeth browning's definition is all about. but you know, peter ustinov and his ilk would add that without the mind, you cannot discern what feeling or pleasure is all about.
@lady1993 (19671)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I'd also choose my mind over my heart- your heart can be blinded you know..but your mind is most of the times clear. You should always think before you act and not let your heart control you.. happy mylotting :D
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
7 Apr 10
I have been facing this struggle for 5 years now. In my case though it is different because I know we both love each other deeply. It's my father who is against the relationship because his condition is that I need to fulfill my plans to go abroad first before I get serious with my guy. I am a nurse by the way. The way I see it, I am serious with my guy but not to the point of marrying him yet if our financial status are not stable. The problem is that at my age of 26, (and his is 31), my father forbids me to see him. In fact the last time he saw us together, he ended up scolding me (like I was a teenager!) He doesn't allow him to visit me at home, and he said he wanted to crash his van to our motorcycle when he saw me riding with him! Doesn't sound very human, does it? So in my case, I refuse to listen to my head which says the easiest way out is to break up with him. The easiest way out is not always the best. So the way I see it, the only way out is to fulfill my Dad's condition. I just hate how we keep on hiding whenever we are dating. Ugh, we're like 16 years old!
• United States
2 Apr 10
I personally believe when it comes to love , you can feel with your heart but you really need to listen with your head. The heart can be a tricky thing. It cant see what youre eyes see , it can not seperate the truth from false. I have been in love before and I followed my heart, a few times, and it got me into a world of heartache, and I dont mean just once either. It was quite a few times. You can listen to what another person tells you , but if you have that basic instinct,and you listen to what your mind tells you, then , you will know if they are telling the truth, but their are times when you know this but the heart leads you right into heartbreak cuz it dont want to listen
• India
1 Apr 10
If you say Love its has to be Heart and not mind. Actually heart and Mind are same and depends on one's thinking. If we are doing calculations in love, its called mind and if its without thinking of your profit and loss, its Heart. I will go with heart :)
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
1 Apr 10
I have learned that one must follow his mind. In Maltese we have a saying which when translated in English says that those who follow their heart might fail. I do think that although one should listen to what the heart is saying he must be wise as well to take the right decisions that will affect his life.
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 10
If I new in this relationship I will tent to follow my heart more, I call this falling step I will not hear other opinion besides what my heart say, after a month or more I will start using my brain and calculate every thing also hearing what my best friend say.
• India
1 Apr 10
hi heart is always right ; mind is always wrong ; so u should follow ur heart...mind deceives u. u can experience this in ur life...ur mindly people will always do deceiving fun with u... frm that u can understand...they are wrong people for u....but ur heartly people will care for u....their fun wud be genuine....they wont hurt u anywhere....u can follow their words....as guide.... bye luv shek india
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
1 Apr 10
Love is God, Isn't it? Many people thinks it is nothing to do in love. But when fall in love your mind is not working, only heart is beating and we always do what our heart responds to us. I do fall in love with my Fiance And I know many times he used to tell me something that my mind doesn't allow me to do so but this is case of heart so .........
@galileo2008 (1147)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
It's really hard to say especially when you're in a situation wherein you need to choose between loving that person and holding on to your promises or just letting him go. Ideally, when you think that there will be a lot of people that would really get hurt or there would be a lot of trouble if you will continue with your relationship, then I guess you need to choose your head and not your heart. But if you think that what you're doing is the right thing and you don't care what other people think or feel, then I guess you should choose your heart.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
You should follow your mind first, they said that God places the brain higher than the heart because you should use it first. It is safer to use the mind than the heart. Sometimes, using the heart alone can brought you to a not so good situation because the heart tends to follow endless emotions, but when you use your mind first, heart will just follow.
@kaylachan (4776)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
1 Apr 10
My mind can often be a very conflicting place, but my heart always seems to know what it wants. Personally I listen to what my heart tells me because its the part of me that tells me who or who isn't worth my time. By listening it and my instincts then I've survived a lot.
@adequee (204)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 10
when it comes to love..my heart say..go for it!..tommorow will be too late ..but my mind says nah..tomorrow never die, theres a new chick somewhere..
@mackiejp (376)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
I use both ways. A heart has a mind of its own, it will tell you when to stop hoping. Just as the mind, a heart will also get tired and drained from being so overused.
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Usually when you love a person you feel it thru your heart, then your mind will confirm if it is worth loving that person.
@Iram786 (498)
31 Mar 10
If we always followed our hearts then we would always be making wrong decisions. Listening to your heart is great but you have to think of it logically in your mind first otherwise you mind end up hurt.
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
It really hards to move on..especially when you really love that person..but its the reality sooooo I better to accept it :(