Does your personal life affects your writing?

India
March 31, 2010 11:01am CST
Hello friends, My personal life affects my writing, and I think it should. Like any other activity, writing reflects your mind. Rather, it is the most transparent and reliable image of your thoughts. When you are stressed your writing will be slightly disorganized and less positive. When you are feeling vulnerable, your writing will be filled with excuses and surrender. Writing is just a way to vent your feelings, and a very clear and obvious way indeed. I had some discussions earlier where many friends mentioned writing as one of their ways to release anger and other negative feelings as well. Also, we sometimes remind ourselves about certain matters through writing. When we say lofty words, they are mostly said for our own sake, in order to constantly remind ourselves about all those positive things. I think this is quite a legitimate and safe way of unleashing your personal feelings. This only makes your writing more engaging to readers. An impersonal, indifferent writing hardly appeals to reader. Does your personal life works behind your writing? Does it governs the themes or topics you choose for your writing? Please feel free to share your opinion and views with us. Thanks in advance for your invaluable responses. God bless you all.
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@kalav56 (11502)
• India
31 Mar 10
The life experiences certainly contribute to my thought processes and this does at times get reflected in my responses .THat is a part of writing.Howver, this does not always govern my topics.I choose very simple topics at times just for the fun of interaction and getting some responses and these topics are some times triggered by an incident or personal feeling. However, there would be topics thta appeal to me and I WOULD end up writing more than what I am asked to.
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• India
1 Apr 10
Hi I appreciate your response. What do we call a spontaneous writing? Its when your writing successfully expresses your mood, then it comes out quite spontaneously. This brings a new level of engagement to the subject matter. It feels as if you are writing about your own life. Thus every sentence of your composition seem to vibrate with vitality. Thanks once again for such a wonderful response. God bless you
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
1 Apr 10
Thnak biswa.Do you write anywhere , in nay site like AC oR bUKISA?
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
1 Apr 10
Thanks Biswa.Do you also write for AC OR Bukisa?
• United States
31 Mar 10
I am not a writer but I assume that feelings effects your art. And writing is a fine art. I can see how it is a good way to vent.To express feelings you have never been able to express.So i believe you Need your feelings, good or bad , to write well.
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• India
1 Apr 10
Hi, I couldn't agree more. One definitely needs to make use of their moods to express themselves properly. When you are writing about your own mood, that necessarily means you are writing about yourself. This makes writing not only easier for you, but also engaging and candid for others. Thanks for your participation Sarah. God bless you
• United States
2 Apr 10
G-d Bless You too.
• Germany
31 Mar 10
Of course they did. because my writing depend of my mood of life:D
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• India
1 Apr 10
Hi, Welcome to myLot. Thanks for responding to this discussion. I also agree with what you said. God bless you
@1anurag1 (3580)
• India
31 Mar 10
i agree with you. that personal life really affects your thoughts and those come to the paper while writing. i think really when you are not in a good mood. you will not be able to write sweet things. and when you are too happy you are not going to use any offensive word for any.
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• India
1 Apr 10
Hi anurag, This is exactly why I keep away from writing when I am not feeling energetic and positive. I want to write about positive things only, so that they may rise hope in the readers mind. How am I supposed to write about hope when I am disappointed myself? Thanks so much for this response dear. God bless you
• United States
31 Mar 10
Yes, my personal life affects my writing. I don't usually write from my own experiences when I'm working on my stories, but when I'm writing my poetry I often write about what I'm going through or thinking at the time. I often write about themes or beliefs that I think are important to me in my stories. Then there are times where something happens in my personal life that just keeps me from writing period.
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• India
1 Apr 10
Hi, I sometimes think that I should refrain from writing when I am not having good time in my own life. This is because I am very determined in giving the world only the good things within me. I want to share only the most positive and optimistic ideas that I have. There is no use in writing when I am struggling or am in a pathetic situation myself, nothing productive is expected to come out. Thanks for such a wonderful participation. God bless you
@singuri (571)
• India
31 Mar 10
I don't know whether my personal life effects my writing. I don't think it has an impact on writings. I never found so. First of all I start to write something when I am peaceful. There is no stress on me while I am writing and no one disturbs me. Even most of the times I write things when I am alone. You should know that our thoughts should be clear while writing. Otherwise there is no way that you can attract the readers. If you are stressed by some means simply stop writing and do some other work.
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• India
1 Apr 10
Hello, Yes, you need a peaceful place and a peaceful state of mind while writing something. You need to be alone, as every good creation has been done in solitude. There is nothing to discuss with anybody else. This is gonna be your very private sentiments arranged and nourished with chosen words and sentences. Stress always spoils the mood of a writer, especially a freelance writer. I appreciate your response. God bless you
• United States
4 Apr 10
I'm going through my novel one last time, and yes, I forget who it was that said that your first novel is about you, whether it's completely fictional, which mine happens to be, but everything in there, whether intentional or not, has a lot to do with my past, not always so much as the present, I don't have a bad and then write and it sounds angry, etc., I have to be in a certain mood to write, otherwise I just can't get anything good out. I have to be excited to read over a novel that I know by heart in my brain all over again, otherwise the work doesn't get done.
• India
5 Apr 10
Hi, I completely agree to that. Even your mind has to be split in two parts. One remains active all the time, the other being a mere observer. We often interpret others psychology based on our very own. For how long the observer remains idle? Its until the other part of your mind looses control. Then this observer wakes up from its slumber and take control of everything. Its like you are watching yourself, and its quite interesting. When one is angry, thoughts are usually disorganized, incoherent. With such mental framework creation seems impossible. Thanks for your response. God bless you
@renifa12 (104)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
i dont think it does affects my life,,, i take it as an encouragement and i take it as an inspirations in life...i love what im doing right now
• India
1 Apr 10
Hi Renifa, Welcome to myLot. Well, I asked whether your personal life has any effect on your writings. In other words, I wanted to know if you use writing as a means to express and release your private emotions either directly narrating the story or indirectly theorizing the lessons you learn from your experiences. I am so glad to know about your love of writing. Anything that we enjoy has a potential of being our most trusted support in future. I also depend on writing and reading. Thanks so much for responding to this discussion. Happy myLotting. God bless you
@maximax8 (29050)
• United Kingdom
1 Apr 10
When I am happy I can think clearly. My writing flows like a river really easily when I feel like that. If I feel stressed I don't think very clearly. My writing when I am like that can have the odd spelling mistake and be less organized that usual. My interests go into my writing like I adore traveling to different countries. Often my characters in my writing are based in foreign countries. When I think of golden sandy beaches with gently waving palm trees I tend to use descriptive language. Sometimes I write about experiences I have had. Someone once said a first book has autobiography elements.
• India
1 Apr 10
Hello, Yes, when we are happy our writing also reflects that happy feelings and optimism. They also convey distress when we are sad. They are just a way of expression, a perfect mirror of your mind. Though my personal life doesn't affect the organization of my writing, but it surely affects the attitude. Writing about your own experiences always makes your composition more lively. Thanks so much for your participation. God bless you
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Apr 10
As far as I am concerned, I think my personal life affects my writing a lot. I think I usually write a lot of things just about my daily life here. So my writing content is about my personal life.And my personal writing style is beyonyed my life ,too.
• India
1 Apr 10
Well, That would be a direct influence on composition. But there are other, more subtle effect of your personal thoughts or moods on your writing. Generally, writings that are personal, are also intimate and frank. They narrate directly or indirectly the real life stories. They may also relate to us the conclusions you had from your experiences. They play crucial role in writing. Thanks so much for your contribution here. God bless you
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
My personal life definitely affects my writing. I post responses based on how I feel and on how I really live my daily life. But of course my mood while writing creates my words. I can compose really nice articles when I'm happy or inspired. On the other hand, it takes me much time to finish what I'm writing when I'm not concentrated. And I always delay my response if I'm angry, disappointed, or stressed (this happens when I'm at work and somebody sends a negative email). It might worsen the situation and even spark up an argument if I give in to the desire of counter-attacking the sender with much heated words. My husband always reminds me- "Think first before you talk."
• India
1 Apr 10
Hello, Writing, as I consider is just another form of expressing yourself. The more frank and honest you are the easier it becomes to purge your pent up feelings through your compositions. When we face adversities, the strength we apply to battle with it is reflected in those strong words we choose and in the convictions and resolutions we make. Thanks for sharing your valuable opinion with us. God bless you
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 10
i wrote all the time based on my true life and experience, it is easier than to imagine one story. the writing will flows like water. it helps me much to get a details for the writing. so I think it governs too.
• India
1 Apr 10
Hi, Yes, when your writing is close to your own private feelings, words come out automatically. The flow of such kind never seem to stop. Writing is that form of art where any simulation or fake feelings will spoil the content. I personally think its perfectly all right to vent your feelings through your compositions. Thanks so much for your invaluable contribution. God bless you
@greyz7 (860)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Personal life affects our writing. I personally, wrote stuffs. I used to write poems and i didn't plan it during the moments i'm writing it. it just occur in an instance based on my emotions_____love, hatred, anger, sorrows, joy, frustrations and excitements and a lot more. our personal life experiences also affects our writing and sometimes the experiences of others and the community as well.
• India
1 Apr 10
Hello Grey, When we are happy our happiness is conveyed through our writings and make others happy. When we are frustrated and confused we battle it and then put it in words. This becomes the true story of an warrior. No matter what we write about it will influence people only if it is intimate and candid. This can be achieved only by real life experiences and by pouring your emotions into your compositions. Thanks so much for this wonderful response. God bless you
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
1 Apr 10
Hey biswa! I know that my personal life and the way that I am feeling definitely influence the way that I write! And I think sometimes that makes it all the more real! My true emotions come out when I am writing and I think that is a good thing! It is a way to quietly vent sometimes and let your feelings be known without having to scream and shout! I think that people underestimate the power of writing! I have always known it's secret though~I have always loved to write all throughout my life! When I was a teenager and in my early twenties and in the most pain I would write poetry. Some of it was actually published and my Professor in College told me that I should keep writing, although I didn't listen, as with everything else I was ever told! So, writing is very special and personal to me even when it is just responding to a discussion, like right now! Hugs, Opal
• India
1 Apr 10
You know why I delayed my response? Because I wanted to take time to read your writings and respond to it in the best possible way I could. I completely agree to what you've mentioned here. Yes, its a secret. R. L. Stevenson once said that if the springs and pulleys of a machine is exposed, it ends up in total disillusionment of its user. The same thing applies to compositions. There are subtle mechanisms that lurks under the surface. They are to be kept secret and only the surface, the wonderful appearance should be admired. Only the author knows about it. You deserve a thousand .Thanks for responding to this discussion. God bless you