Does your Father ever cheated on your Mother?

@greyz7 (860)
Philippines
March 31, 2010 7:58pm CST
Fathers/husbands of most couples/families that i've known cheated. My father cheated on my mother and we were so hurt. Good to know that my mother is such a strong woman and never saw her stumble/fall.
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@phyrre (2324)
• United States
1 Apr 10
My parents, thankfully, never cheated on each other. Their marriage didn't work out, true, but because they were too like each other and they were too stubborn for it to really work out. My husband wasn't so lucky. Since he was little his father has been cheating on his mother, even having a second family on the side and everything. It created a lot of turmoil in his household and we had to go through a lot because of it because he grew up around unhealthy relationships. Because of what his parents went through, he didn't really want to date anyone and he didn't know how to be in a healthy relationship. He was always afraid of it turning out like his parents, so this has posed many obstacles for us.
@greyz7 (860)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
hi, i understand the way your husband felt. coz i'm like that now. i'm scared and dubious with marriage. that is why i'm still single..i don't want to have a broken marriage like my parents, or i don't want my husband to cheat on me and just to remain in the sacrament of matrimony for our kids..definitely not..so, im really scared of getting married.
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@phyrre (2324)
• United States
1 Apr 10
It's definitely a struggle, but when you find the right person it'll be worth the trouble. Trust me. It's not always easy with my husband still. He tends to be overprotective and doesn't like me to do some things or go out with some people because he's afraid something's going to happen to me. He's slowly overcoming that, too, but it's a work in progress. And it took a while for him to really open up to our relationship, but when he figured out that I wasn't going anywhere and I wasn't going to cheat on him it made it a lot easier. ^_^
@greyz7 (860)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
whew! i hope and pray that i would overcome this fear i'm having inside of me..coz i don't want history to repeat itself. thank you!
@samson1967 (7422)
• India
1 Apr 10
Hi Grey, it really hurts the children who love their mother, when the father cheats the mother, but when the mother cheats father???? oh my god.....
@greyz7 (860)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
oh my God! it's a different thing if mother cheats on father..
@phyrre (2324)
• United States
1 Apr 10
I honestly don't see the difference. Cheating is cheating. It is NOT okay for EITHER parent to cheat and it effects the children regardless of what parent is cheating. To say that a father can cheat because it has milder effects than a mother cheating is just wrong. Any parent cheating negatively effects the children, period.
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
I think what most cheaters fail to realize is that the people gets most hurt when they cheat are the kids. I have friends whose fathers have also cheated and they are heartbroken. It's so sad. Stay strong!
@greyz7 (860)
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
hi, yah! i need to be strong for myself and my mother and my brothers and sister..thanks!
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
2 Apr 10
I grew up surrounded by cheating couples. My father cheated on my mother. My grandfather cheated on my grandmother. My uncle cheated on my aunt. I admit, it scarred me for awhile growing up. I didn't trust guys for the longest. I knew of couples that had stayed together for decades, but it didn't help me feel better about commitments and trusting men. However, I am now in a relationship with a guy who I completely trust. It does help having a strong mother. I found strength in my mom's strength.
@greyz7 (860)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
hi, wow! good for you. My last relationship was 3 years ago, i was cheated also..now i'm really scared of getting into a relationship. But i'm not losing hope that the right one would come. and that i would be happy, completely happy.